| 3/24/2015 9:37:16 PM |
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mr_imperfect
Philadelphia, PA
52, joined Sep. 2011
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Why do some single people think it is ok to mess with someone who is married or otherwise involved and justify their actions by saying shit like I'm not the one who made a comittment to someone so therefore I'm doing nothing wrong.
Yes you are doing something wrong. You're helping someone to destroy their family by your selfish thoughtless actions.
What happened to our society that a growing number of single people see nothing wrong with knowingly carrying on a relationship with someone who is married or involved and cheating?
[Edited 3/24/2015 9:38:21 PM ]
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| 3/24/2015 9:44:11 PM |
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topnotchslam
Gibson City, IL
22, joined Jun. 2014
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Sir im not like that at all im very conservative in nature and the answer is poverty drugs and low self worth which reflects back on society when it comes time to commit action.
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| 3/24/2015 9:46:11 PM |
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mr_imperfect
Philadelphia, PA
52, joined Sep. 2011
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Sir im not like that at all im very conservative in nature and the answer is poverty drugs and low self worth which reflects back on society when it comes time to commit action.
Good to hear
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| 3/24/2015 9:49:33 PM |
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mr_imperfect
Philadelphia, PA
52, joined Sep. 2011
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And Notice I Said Married OR Involved AND Cheating meaning their spouse or mate has no clue that they are messing with some one else. I had to add that to stop all the idiots who will interpret my post as me bashing on those in open relationships.
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| 3/24/2015 9:50:07 PM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
39, joined Jul. 2011
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I have said it many times..
Its cultural Marxism. .
Cheating has always happened since the dawn of time..
Over the past 50 people have become more open with it and validation seems to be openly accepted.
It is all part of destroying the concept of a family sticking together.
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| 3/24/2015 9:55:27 PM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
39, joined Jul. 2011
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I have a question for you op..
When a society promotes sexuality more than eating healthy..for example
What can you expect
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| 3/24/2015 9:57:33 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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I can't blame it all on the single person, the person that's married know better also
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| 3/24/2015 9:59:07 PM |
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letitridegirl
Louisville, KY
38, joined Aug. 2014
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Why do some single people think it is ok to mess with someone who is married or otherwise involved and justify their actions by saying shit like I'm not the one who made a comittment to someone so therefore I'm doing nothing wrong.
Yes you are doing something wrong. You're helping someone to destroy their family by your selfish thoughtless actions.
What happened to our society that a growing number of single people see nothing wrong with knowingly carrying on a relationship with someone who is married or involved and cheating?
I would never mess with someone involved with someone . Why would I ever waist my time or wanna be with someone that cheats just mean they would do it to me.
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| 3/24/2015 10:06:16 PM |
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mr_imperfect
Philadelphia, PA
52, joined Sep. 2011
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I would never mess with someone involved with someone . Why would I ever waist my time or wanna be with someone that cheats just mean they would do it to me.
EXACTLY
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| 3/24/2015 10:09:23 PM |
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mr_imperfect
Philadelphia, PA
52, joined Sep. 2011
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I can't blame it all on the single person, the person that's married know better also
No one is discounting the married or otherwise comitted persons responsibility to remain faithful but as a decent human you have just as much responsibility once you know the person who was trying to chase you is married or involved to tell them to f**k off.
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| 3/24/2015 10:11:24 PM |
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unique_woman
Omaha, NE
27, joined Dec. 2014
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I can't blame it all on the single person, the person that's married know better also
I agree 
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| 3/24/2015 10:17:31 PM |
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bigdinv
Houston, TX
34, joined Sep. 2011
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Married chicks are the best!
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| 3/24/2015 10:20:48 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
50, joined Jul. 2013
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No one is discounting the married or otherwise comitted persons responsibility to remain faithful but as a decent human you have just as much responsibility once you know the person who was trying to chase you is married or involved to tell them to f**k off.
Right, I don't involved myself with marry men, but u got some that don't tell u that they're married
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| 3/24/2015 10:30:17 PM |
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ymia_dikhed
Gresham, OR
41, joined Dec. 2011
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I can't blame it all on the single person, the person that's married know better also
I also agree. In fact I also believe that the married person is even more at fault than the so called home wrecker. The married person is suppose be the person to defend and uphold their loved ones heart. The home wrecker is less personal with the one being cheated on which makes the amount that they should care less than the one who is cheating. I was cheated on. As much as I did not like the guy and what he did to me with my ex behind my back was nothing compared to how I felt betrayed by the one who knew my heart. There would be no home wrecker involved in two peoples relationship if it wasn't permitted by someone in the relationship.
Anyways, they can both kiss my ass.
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| 3/24/2015 10:41:17 PM |
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claudius5
Petaluma, CA
65, joined May. 2009
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I don't worry nor do I care bout what others do. The only person I have control over is myself. My definition of what's moral may not be what another may consider moral. Besides, cheating has been going on for thousands of years. I also thinks it's disingenuous to only hold the single person accountable and question their morals. It takes two to tango. What about the other person's selfishness? I really don't see anymore of an increase in infidelity than in years past.
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| 3/24/2015 10:42:33 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Sir im not like that at all im very conservative in nature and the answer is poverty drugs and low self worth which reflects back on society when it comes time to commit action.
We're glad to have you, topnotch! Hope you vote our way at election time while obama bulldozes the Chicago cemetaries for votes.
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| 3/24/2015 10:47:23 PM |
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unique_woman
Omaha, NE
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I also agree. In fact I also believe that the married person is even more at fault than the so called home wrecker. The married person is suppose be the person to defend and uphold their loved ones heart. The home wrecker is less personal with the one being cheated on which makes the amount that they should care less than the one who is cheating. I was cheated on. As much as I did not like the guy and what he did to me with my ex behind my back was nothing compared to how I felt betrayed by the one who knew my heart. There would be no home wrecker involved in two peoples relationship if it wasn't permitted by someone in the relationship.
Anyways, they can both kiss my ass.
I see & I agree
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| 3/24/2015 10:56:33 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
62, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - If you were doing right by your woman, she would not cheating on you with any amoral singles. It is all your fault. Quit whining, man up, and do as your should.
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| 3/25/2015 8:43:23 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
59, joined Apr. 2011
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My friend....I think many justify it by saying to themselves.
they are the one that married, not me....and if it wasn't me....it would be someone else.
I've read or heard that excuse at times....and I think to myself....nope, because you know they are married and that you are party to this cheating....then your morals are no better than the person who is married and cheating and just as wrong.
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| 3/25/2015 8:50:48 AM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
37, joined Feb. 2012
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I don't get this either. My exhusband carried on an affair for awhile when he could of just told me. I even met her. To think this woman knew me and still carried on boggles my mind. But you know they deserve each other.
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| 3/25/2015 9:36:03 AM |
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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I've never cheated.
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| 3/25/2015 9:41:59 AM |
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artist820
Tehachapi, CA
58, joined Jan. 2013
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Why do you think it's the single person who is in the wrong. Aren't you, or the married person strong enough to say, "No". It sounds as though someone's trying to shift the blame.
OP it's ok to get an annulment. Then, it's like it never happened and you can carry on your torrid affair. 
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| 3/25/2015 9:49:50 AM |
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artist820
Tehachapi, CA
58, joined Jan. 2013
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I've never cheated.
Why do I find this difficult to believe(?) with a profile name like that. Seems as though your services are widely accepted. Hey, did you see the movie "Hysteria" LMAO
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| 3/25/2015 10:00:31 AM |
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gldimntuppl69
Chicago, IL
36, joined Mar. 2015
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OP - If you were doing right by your woman, she would not cheating on you with any amoral singles. It is all your fault. Quit whining, man up, and do as your should.
I wouldnt have quite put it this way, but this has some truth to it. There may not be a "good" reason to cheat, but there's always a reason.
If either one of you were winning the Spouse of The Year Award, there wouldnt be any cheating to begin with.
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| 3/25/2015 11:29:41 AM |
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oppsiidazi
Orr, MN
45, joined Oct. 2014
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I've never cheated.
^this. Nor, have I ever dated, gone out with, or slept with a man I knew to be married. 
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| 3/25/2015 11:41:59 AM |
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rocky_dennis
Delaware City, DE
34, joined Nov. 2013
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They say we are the top of the food chain, but the vast majority of humans, aren't much different than turkey vultures or other scavengers. I will be tonight when I capitalize off of food, killed or grown by others. Our basic instincts are a thing of the past. Nature fixes all it's issues, it will either extinct us or leave a select few to try things the correct way again. We could only hope to be as great as wolves, they mate for life.
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| 3/25/2015 11:42:44 AM |
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megaphone6
Pinellas Park, FL
29, joined Aug. 2012
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I agree with topnotch and naturebiy. Although I beleive people cheat because they dont fight hard enough or do not beleive they deserve the best. People settle for what they have rather than fight for what they want or deserve. So they settle, find themselves unhappy and they end up cheating on their s/o. 
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| 3/25/2015 11:52:27 AM |
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
47, joined Dec. 2014
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Why do some single people think it is ok to mess with someone who is married or otherwise involved and justify their actions by saying shit like I'm not the one who made a comittment to someone so therefore I'm doing nothing wrong.
Yes you are doing something wrong. You're helping someone to destroy their family by your selfish thoughtless actions.
What happened to our society that a growing number of single people see nothing wrong with knowingly carrying on a relationship with someone who is married or involved and cheating?
I'm not sure. I agree it is very wrong. I guess it is different value systems with different people.
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| 3/25/2015 11:59:23 AM |
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xray6
Fort Stewart, GA
27, joined Mar. 2012
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monogamy goes against human nature
but everyone is entitled to their fairytale.
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| 3/25/2015 12:12:22 PM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
44, joined Sep. 2011
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Its a selfish act
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| 3/25/2015 12:12:48 PM |
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kawkasian
Houston, TX
47, joined Sep. 2014
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Why do some single people think it is ok to mess with someone who is married or otherwise involved and justify their actions by saying shit like I'm not the one who made a comittment to someone so therefore I'm doing nothing wrong.
because they are not, they made no commitment to anyone, the married/in a relationship person did.
Personal responsibility falls on the cheater, not the single person.
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| 3/25/2015 12:37:39 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
47, joined Oct. 2013
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because they are not, they made no commitment to anyone, the married/in a relationship person did.
Personal responsibility falls on the cheater, not the single person.
This^^^
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| 3/25/2015 2:47:15 PM |
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up2youandme
Chandler, AZ
39, joined Jan. 2014
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Unfortunately for older than dirt people like myself,the definition of things have changed and we can't cope with it.while we did try to regulate morality in our generation,the new generation decided stone age way of life is better which of course run the opposite direction we wanted. ....so the question is ...which is beneficial to the here and now ? Islamic people thinks and wants and imposing 2000 year old way of life. ...how is this different from Western thinking of screw the puritanical way of life now?
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| 3/25/2015 3:01:28 PM |
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dezweather
Phoenix, AZ
42, joined Oct. 2014
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Why do some single people think it is ok to mess with someone who is married or otherwise involved and justify their actions by saying shit like I'm not the one who made a comittment to someone so therefore I'm doing nothing wrong.
Yes you are doing something wrong. You're helping someone to destroy their family by your selfish thoughtless actions.
What happened to our society that a growing number of single people see nothing wrong with knowingly carrying on a relationship with someone who is married or involved and cheating?
If she doesn't f**k me she's gonna f**k someone else. She already made up her mind to cheat.
Sorry, not everyone shares your morals.
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| 3/25/2015 5:39:47 PM |
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homewright
Medford, OR
57, joined Aug. 2010
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I met a woman a few months ago who said she was separated and in the process of a divorce. So we got together and were spending fun weekends together playing house and fooling around whenever the urge struck. As we got to know one another better I asked what happened in her marriage. She went on during several separate conversations how he had breeched her trust but was a good man. After enough descriptions of this guy's decency and integrity, I backed off and ultimately told her we couldn't be lovers anymore. It was a sensitive split which found us both missing the other but my head just wouldn't let go the idea I was party to hurting this guy, her husband.
They were still living under the same roof in different bedrooms but still had the routine of a 30 year marriage. That was huge to me. If you can be a man's wife for 30 years, this 'breech' of trust could be worked out. He didn't cheat. He told a co-worker some personal things about his relationship which she thought was sacred. The fact she was engulfed with the care of her dying mother made her totally unavailable to him emotionally for about a year and a half. So I could see both sides.
There really is no moral to this story other than each of us has to live with ourselves and be able to not create guilt or regret. She's still a good woman in my mind. But I can't be party to the damage it would do if he found out. I don't want to be cheated on and won't cheat even though I'm a single guy. I live in this skin 24/7 and have to be comfortable with my own choices. I am...
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| 3/25/2015 6:00:39 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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They are trying to justify their bad behavior, but that doesn't make it right.
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