Do guys really marry a woman just cos she is pregnant?? lol

A decent man will. If she is good enough to sleep with, she should be good enough to marry.

A decent man will. If she is good enough to sleep with, she should be good enough to marry.

Enigma@

You cannot judge someone from a newspaper article, you don't know that person...

And bad behaviour is not gender specific.

You remind me of those women who just cry out and say that men are all bastards.
To have such a negative vision of the opposite sex is not realistic and it doesn't bring any happyness to your life.

Ditto.

And...how did they prove it??

I agree.


However, some people seem to be offended and have some choice words for people who prefer to put LOVE at the forefront of their relationships.

It is not question to prefer love.

The question is that if a woman got accidentally pregnant and the man is NOT in love with her he should not marry her.

A marriage without love? Do you really think is going to be happy?

Love should be reciprocated by the way

Am I smart enough to realize there are intelligent, decently moral women out there? Absolutely.

My walls rarely, if ever come down. My memory is a blessing and a curse. I can remember those good deeds, that have been done, and the bad deeds as well. As it stands, more bad, immoral ones have been done to me, than good. So, nothing short of complete amnesia, I always know why my guard went up, in the first place.

As previously stated, when researchers are proving, what I seen becoming true 10+ years ago, how do you expect me to NOT stand by my "harsh"(and obviously true) generalizations?

And asking questions isn't going to start a heated debate.

Telling me I am crazy, needing to seek help of a professional, trying to deny how MOST(which is what a "generalization" is, by definition) women are, and calling me a "bitter, woman-hater" is what provokes those types of responses.

In simple words: The walls only ever come down, when I have been shown a reason to let you in. And you only get ONE chance at that. I don't give second chances. Screw me once, shame on you. Screw me twice, shame on me for being a moron to allow it. It is that simple.

I have plenty of walls I have built for myself...but as my years pass-- I try ever so hard not to hold someone in my future who has not 'hurt' me, accountable for those that, in my past, who have.

Perhaps, for me, I have come to understand (over time) that it only disables 'me' from finding happiness... with/ or in others who have no desire to harm me.

Kungfu, it has taken me a very long time to allow myself to want to 'try' and crumble my barriers; however, I am contented in knowing I have stopped giving the hurt 'rent space' in my mind and heart no longer... to give myself the freedom to look for happiness again.

@blu

Not to intrude but that's a very intimate thing to ask of anyway.

Do you go through life with no walls? If so you are extremely brave, strong, or both.

No one is born with walls.

We build with them the bricks, stones, and shit people toss at us.

The older I get the more I think it's best to keep everyone out than to let those who will hurt you get in.

Meeting those who don't hurt you isn't worth ALL the backstabbing a**holes who invade while you wait.

Meanwhile those angriest at the wall are those who wanted easy prey.

Also notice how abusive and nasty they are toward women in the forums

Telling me I am crazy, needing to seek help of a professional, trying to deny how MOST(which is what a "generalization" is, by definition) women are, and calling me a "bitter, woman-hater" is what provokes those types of responses.

I have plenty of walls I have built for myself...but as my years pass-- I try ever so hard not to hold someone in my future who has not 'hurt' me, accountable for those that, in my past, who have.

Perhaps, for me, I have come to understand (over time) that it only disables 'me' from finding happiness... with/ or in others who have no desire to harm me.

Kungfu, it has taken me a very long time to allow myself to want to 'try' and crumble my barriers; however, I am contented in knowing I have stopped giving the hurt 'rent space' in my mind and heart no longer... to give myself the freedom to look for happiness again.

Well from someone who once dared hope, good luck. I was down that road before too. I'm back at it against actually.

I realized that I was much happier and safer when I didn't try, when I didn't have hope. Hope is a dangerous thing to have in a generation of no acceptance or love.

I want happiness too. But I'd rather cultivate it in my own little fortress. I've had enough hurt to last me a life time and warp me into a bitter hag and I'm not even thirty yet. I haven't had nearly enough happiness to balance it out.

So away in the tower I will stay. No visitors welcome.

But it's nice to hear story about those who haven't given up and will try again.

And you obviously seem to think men do not go through oppression, today, like women did in the past because of how badly Feminism has destroyed traditional gender roles.

Maybe when one lies to you about being the father of her kid, because she is covering up the affair with the a**hole she is attracted to, then you'll realize it. Hope you like the idea of paying for a kid that isn't yours, for 18 years.

But, hey, you think by licking their boots that you are scoring points, and you are: for the position of "Friend Zone" whike us a**holes are getting the prize you expected to get.

my god, poor enigma suffers so much...

when you are told by society you can't vote, can't go to university, can't own anything once married, can't make a will, your husband can practically rape you, you can't do much except be a teacher, help your husband in his business, be a nun or a mother, your choices in life are very limited but men can do anything plus go to taverns, cheat on their wives, etc

something tells me a whiny b*tch like you would die of depression by 21.

That's what women faced when they revolted.

SHUT UP, please.

What exactly is it like, to lick boots all day?

I always enjoy hearing people say they will try again, because I understand we shouldn't give up. I also understand logic and expected outcomes versus actual outcomes.

Meaning, when someone tries again, and it results in failure, my "I told you so." comes out.

^

What he said.

See? Even Jester is aware that Feminism has destroyed society, ladies. If HE can figure that out, it really is pointless to keep denying it.

Yeah, these poor guys...

Babies poping out of nowhere...

Like they had nothing to do with it. They have no responsibility for where they lay or their part in contraception.

Poor guys!