| 10/9/2008 8:02:44 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 46
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I am still pretty new to DHU. I've read people's profiles and have come across a very common theme in many of them. The whole, "Live for Today"........."Love Life while you can"........"Dance like no one is watching" (exceptionally bad advice to give to moi. It would likely cause me or anyone nearby grievous injury).........Carpe Diem.......you know it......."Seize the Day" (although I wiki'ed it, and read that the more literal translation is "Harvest the Day").
The first time I heard the term was in the movie, "Dead Poet's Society" (Yes, I was on a date when I saw it. No, I would not go see it by myself......and, Nope, I didn't like it anyway). The idea is that life is short and we need to live like there is no tomorrow........try to enjoy every second we have.
Really?......how exactly does that work?
I guarantee I wouldn't go to my job........mow the lawn.........eat healthy.........or even slow down if some car pulled out in front of my truck. I'd be rude to people that offend me, overly friendly to women I thought were attractive, and selfish to a degree I'd never rise to in normal life......heck, there is no tomorrow.......I can't help but think that this concept would corral people into a hedonistic, irresponsible, self-centered corner. Would a man with less than 24 hours left really bother to help his neighbor do yard work?
.......AND......with this philosophy so prevalent throughout the DH community........tell me how this applies to dating.....lol.
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| 10/9/2008 8:04:15 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35 online now!
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It's just witty sayings that have been copied and pasted in a vain attempt to look wise or cool or unique.
But how many profiles do you read where the woman is
"I am not your average girl/chick/woman" ?
LAWLZ
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| 10/9/2008 8:08:52 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
age: 51
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My brother died unexpectedly at 46. My mom died of cancer at 58. A friend of mine nearly died from breast cancer at 43 but thankfully is now a 14 year survivor. Life can end before ya know it and if you keep putting things off that would bring you joy, you may never get to experience them.
So, I take this saying to heart. I am off sick today, waiting to get into the doctor after 9. I am hoping it is just a urinary tract infection, but you you just never know what can happen. If it turned out I had something seriously wrong with me, it would make me appreciate this saying all the more.
I love the phrase. It may be my text tat.
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| 10/9/2008 8:09:08 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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drummaster777
Auburn, WA
age: 33
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Yeah I've noticed that too. I see 'Life is short!' in a lot of women's profiles. I never know what that is supposed to mean exactly. I tend to think that's their biological clock talking more than anything else.
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| 10/9/2008 8:13:22 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
age: 51
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The biological clock is a non issue for women over 45. It truly is the concept of not just waiting to do this and that because you may blow those "windows" of opportunity. I for one am thankfully I got some good travel in before this economy tanked. Apart from going to Mexico next month I may have to put some of my international trips on hold because I need to hang on to more money. But, I will seize the day and do things locally I have never done. I have been in California for 23 years and have yet to get to Big Sur or Mammoth. Taking things for granted is no longer an option.
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| 10/9/2008 8:17:51 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 46
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The biological clock is a non issue for women over 45. It truly is the concept of not just waiting to do this and that because you may blow those "windows" of opportunity. I for one am thankfully I got some good travel in before this economy tanked. Apart from going to Mexico next month I may have to put some of my international trips on hold because I need to hang on to more money. But, I will seize the day and do things locally I have never done. I have been in California for 23 years and have yet to get to Big Sur or Mammoth. Taking things for granted is no longer an option.
lol..okay.......(and I'm doing this as a philisophical exercise only, no offense intended).....
Do you believe in jumping in relationships?.....initiating sexual gratification with your partner early?
Life is short........
[Edited 10/9/2008 8:18:16 AM]
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| 10/9/2008 8:19:28 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
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"I am not your average girl/chick/woman" ?
LAWLZ
What, they have more one vagina or a third nipple somewhere on their body? 
To me those sayings just mean that their mentality resides in the "love em leave em" realm and they aren't really looking for a long term, perma-type relationship.
[Edited 10/9/2008 8:19:53 AM]
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| 10/9/2008 8:22:35 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
age: 51
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Life is short and I have given into hormones and had sex early on with men, but the same end result every time. After swapping biological fluids we find we have little to sustain a friendship or a romance. So, these days in the name of life being short, I would rather just go out and do things that give me joy that I can rely on. The beach is there no matter what. It won't leave me for another beach. I know where it has been.
So, just because life is short it does not mean one needs to approach it with a sense of emotional and intellectual intelligence.....go for the the things that give you joy and are not likely to bring conflict, disappointment, or in 2008, a std.
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| 10/9/2008 8:26:46 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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zalacea
Stoughton, MA
age: 42
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I agree that you cannot live every single day as if it were your last. If that was the case, I'd be sipping champagne on a yacht somewhere off the south of France, eating all my favorite foods and dancing the night away. My interpretation of "living each day as if it were your last" is to be the best person you can possibly be, to yourself and others and to be happy with what you have. 
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| 10/9/2008 8:27:06 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 46
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To Miss InLass:
Oh, I was expecting you to say you would rather have a long term thing.
[Edited 10/9/2008 8:27:32 AM]
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| 10/9/2008 8:27:16 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35 online now!
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Oo OO!
Also the:
"I'll try anything once! TEE HEE!"
And... "Not into head games or playas!!"
lawls
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| 10/9/2008 8:30:19 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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zalacea
Stoughton, MA
age: 42
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Oo OO!
Also the:
"I'll try anything once! TEE HEE!"
And... "Not into head games or playas!!"
lawls
I have to ask, it's bugging me. LAWLS, what is this?
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| 10/9/2008 8:31:13 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
age: 51
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A long term thing would be fine, in fact I still aspire to having that parnter for retirement. I would like to retire as an expat with a home base somewhere and travel alot. It would be nice to have a constant companion. I think you can still strive for some things long term, but not sit on your butt waiting for them to happen. I am in the process of kissing my share of toads seeking that retirement prince companion. Think I will seize the weekend to do some things local with my friends and take a break from the dating thing for a bit, actually.
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| 10/9/2008 8:32:13 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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indoubt
Beaumont, CA
age: 33
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Me personally I feel I have all the time in the world. If I die tomorrow, as long as I know my children will be o.k. I have died a happy and fulfilled woman. I mean so what I didnt find the love of my life. It didn't kill me, Or did it?
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| 10/9/2008 8:43:07 AM |
Carpe Diem? You gotta be kidding. |
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lilmissala
Hartselle, AL
age: 51
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 Arkansasman!!! Yep its me again LOL. I don't know how other people are going to respond to this but this is just the way I am now. There was something about my mother dying that kind of slapped me in the face. Maybe I thought she was invincible and never would die. I don't know. But since she died I have made life changing changes in myself. I do try to live as if there is no tomorrow. I still prepare for tomorrow yes but I try to treat people with a whole lots more respect and if I am wrong about something I try to make amends as soon as I can. I have made as many amends as I was allowed to make. Some people wouldn't accept those amends. That's ok. I did what I was suppose to do. Don't want to carry that with me to the grave. When I get up in the morning I am thankful for another day first and foremost. I try to enjoy each day...find all the positive things in the day and I do not dwell on the negative. I do what I can to turn the negatives into positives. I try to treat everyone the way I want to be treated. I get out and enjoy the little things in life now a bird singing,the opening of a new flower,a spider building its web,the sound of the children in the neighborhood playing. If I can help someone even if it is just a smile to brighten their day I do it. Mind you I don't fall all over myself looking for people to help I mean if I run across someone in my day and I can help I will. If I die today I want people to say hey that was one loving lady and I am going to miss her smile. Don't want people to be glad I am gone. I can't go skydiving or do any other fantasy things I just make the best of every day. I do not live above my means. I live it to the fullest that I am capable of and at the end of the day I am thankful again and ask my Lord to show me where I messed up so that if there is a tomorrow I don't make that same mistake. I am not what you would call a religious fanatic don't even go to church anymore but I do believe. One preacher put it this way maybe there is not a heaven but you have everything to gain if there is a heaven and nothing to loose if there is not. Now as far as how this applies to dating well I don't know that it does. It just makes me a better person and more lovable. I am more understanding,patient and forgiving. Its the way I live life and love life.
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