| 11/23/2007 11:03:34 PM |
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huskertomboy
Onawa, IA
age: 50
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That is so wrong. Vows babe. For better or worse. I would stand and hold my mans hand..change his diaper..kiss his forehead...hold his hand. Loyalty......hold him till the end.
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| 11/23/2007 11:03:57 PM |
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sphere74
Lilburn, GA
age: 33
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i don't think that would be a good idea,if you need support there a lot of great people in here and may be in your area that could come and visit you,i my self would be crushed if i was in her shoes,that was brave of you to ask i admire that, keep the faith in the one you love who knows,you may be in her shoes one day,imagination can go a long way.
[Edited 11/23/2007 11:14:36 PM]
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| 11/23/2007 11:08:02 PM |
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slowhand1843
Orangeburg, SC
age: 51
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She understands I need to get out some. I was riding my bike ever other saturday, or on pker runs, but its getting to cold now. She has slept for mos of the last 4 days. Our "friends" don't visit much anymore. Its just uncomfortable for them to come by. If I call the first question is how is she doing? Thats the question no one wants to hear the answer to, they only ask out of respect.
I probubly dhould have chosen a better word than date, besides does any one in here really date?. Companionship, or just having someone to unload on is what I need. I can't leave the house for an extended period of time anymore. I guess maybe just looking for someone to understand.
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| 11/23/2007 11:09:37 PM |
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huskertomboy
Onawa, IA
age: 50
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It was brave to put yourself out there like that. But a commitment is just that. Be true and long suffering for her. She will know. You would want no less from her if the posistion was refersed. At least be discreet.
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| 11/23/2007 11:14:23 PM |
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huskertomboy
Onawa, IA
age: 50
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I lost a husband to cancer...tough times. It was a long drawn out suffering. But... I was there holding his hand when he took his last breath and he knew that I was loyal. Saw that look in his eyes. Made his going easier. Again...loyalty...pardon my potty mouth, but f*ck your friends.
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| 11/23/2007 11:25:25 PM |
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pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38
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You need to find group counseling... A place where other people are going through the same thing... you need support - Not A Date! There should be many groups in you area. Look into it!
And god bless you and your wife.
Just let him in.
P.Win
Peace 
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| 11/23/2007 11:25:47 PM |
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carolinabrat
Summerville, SC
age: 56
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I in no way see that he is looking to void his vows or looking for a replacement. Being a caretaker is something that strips you of you. Everything is for the one you are caring for. We all need an out. I'm not saying that he wants to go and and get laid, but during my down times, I would give just about anything to have someone just sit across a table from me and share a cup of coffee. I don't care if all we talk about it the weather. I truly believe it helps make you better for the person you are caring for also. I believe with all my heart that the last thing his wife wants is for him to die with her. Slow, do you get any help of any kind? You know how to reach me anytime you need to talk.
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| 11/23/2007 11:31:52 PM |
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dragonflii
Seattle, WA
age: 42
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well speaking as a nurse for many years I totally understand how lonely and sad this time must be...I think the dating this is NO GO but finding someone to vent to and talk to about the process that you are going through is ok and NEEDED actually we all need someone to talk to,someone who will listen to all your frustrations and grieving that you are going through...please dont start dating yet though you will only regret it after she has gone thinking you should have waited.. good luck and GOD BLESS
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| 11/23/2007 11:37:31 PM |
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ylekiot
Carson City, NV
age: 51 online now!
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I think it is easy for us who have not been in that situation to proclaim how wrong that would be. Having known a couple of people who have gone through that, I can understand the loneliness and lack of companionship which must accompany that. That being said, I still think the right thing to do is to resist the urge to fill that void until things are 'settled". A couple of people mentioned that the ill person would know, and that in and of itself would be the motivation for me to reist outside opposite sex companionship. I would hate to be in the position of being questioned by a dying spouse as to my monogamy. Hope things work out for you buddy.
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| 11/23/2007 11:49:15 PM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32
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wow..whats wrong with you.
No, it's not. Wait till she's in the ground at least, show THAT much respect. Or show your true colors and divorce/break up with her now. Might as well hurt her and help her along, eh?
Sheesh, WHY do people look for any excuse to cheat? What happened to being loyal?
Edit: If you want more companionship, it prob doesn't matter if it's male or female, just host a weekly event at your house. A poker party, movie night, etc. Something to 'do' for your guests.
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| 11/24/2007 4:26:49 AM |
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sebzalive1
Sebastian, FL
age: 50
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I also would wish what you are going through to no one. It is a sad and drainng time. Call frieds if you need a sese of normal for a while. It is not a time to be daing. It is time to be with the one who chose to be with you through life.
JMV
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| 11/24/2007 4:34:18 AM |
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xsoundedmindx
Williston, SC
age: 25
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I should kick you in the d*ck for even asking that.
Not a time to be so selfish and self centered.
YOU'RE not the one that's dying...
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| 11/24/2007 4:48:15 AM |
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klassykitten
Toccoa, GA
age: 50 online now!
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Slow...I hope you don't let our opinions chase you off...I know how you feel but if you come here and talk with us then we can probably help you through this painful time in your life. And maybe help you not make a mistake you would have to live with forever. We are here when ever you need to talk and about whatever the subject. You can bet someone in these forums has been there and done it no matter what it is....
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| 11/24/2007 4:54:01 AM |
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ironhide
Unity, ME
age: 35
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Well said klassy!!!!!
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| 11/24/2007 5:06:57 AM |
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leila123
Liberty Hill, TX
age: 59
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Actually, Slowhand, your profile says it all. I didn't see any mention of dating or what things you might be looking for in a woman to date.. that sort of thing. You were honest about being married, your wife's illness and that you would welcome anyone wishing to communicate as a friend.
Perhaps your choice of words in this thread didn't accurately reflect your true intent.
I hope for your wife's sake that her passing doesn't continue to be prolonged. I join with some of the others and encourage you to stay true to her. Both of you will be in my prayers.
Leila
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