| 1/18/2008 5:55:34 AM |
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irparis39
New York, NY
age: 48
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I like being spoiled, but I spoil back. I do it because I care and love someone and enjoy giving of myself as I like them giving to me.
I was raised with brothers, so I was spoiled alot and even now when its just me and one brother now, he still spoils me and I him. I've been spoiled by guys, family,friends, co workers as Senual has...I get along well with people and if the guy i love has kids, forget it, those kids will be spoiled and well loved they won't know how to act.
Someday I hope to find someone who wants to spoil me and be spoiled whether its a massage after a home cooked meal, or giving him a bubble bath. Either way, I look forward to it and will always appreciate his efforts in making me feel safe and loved.
I cannot understand why this woman would not want to continue to be with you except to say that she's just not into you. No matter how much you spoil and give of yourself, it will not matter one bit. If she cannot appreciate all your efforts and has turn away from that, then she's already gone emotionally. Now you have to decide if you're going to waste any more of your time for a possibility of someone who has proven untrustworthy. Even if she comes back, more than likely you will not be able to get back to the ebb and flow of the original relationship, has been disrupted and sometimes you can't get that back. So now is the time to decide if she's worth it.
paris
[Edited 1/18/2008 6:00:42 AM]
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| 1/18/2008 8:26:53 AM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 48
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I learned my lesson at a young age. I never spoil women until at least the 10th date. By that time I know they deserve it.
The thing you need to realize is if you spend a lot of money on the first, second, and third dates they start to expect it all the time. You can't afford that. So start out small. And as far as helping out....cooking, dishes and so on, they expect that too. There are guys (like me) that have a job and do the majority of the cooking and other housework just to find out that it's still not enough. Most of the time people don't know what they want until they lose it. Women want to feel they are important too. And they are all different. Some want to do all the house work and are happy to do it as long as they know they are appreciated. Then there are others who don't want to do a darn thing no matter how well they are treated.
So, don't spoil anyone until they have been around for a while. Once you feel that they will appreciate being spoiled, do it. This way it will be special to them. Don't be a cheapskate, but just don't go overboard.
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| 1/18/2008 6:22:06 PM |
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aboomer
Little Rock, AR
age: 45
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Nah. It ain`t bad to spoil them, after they have given you a reason. Arrange to take them out for some occassion, and then after take them home and show them the bedroom. Explain to them that you believe in reciprosity and the bedroom is where they can pay you back. Be sure to keep a gross of condoms on the night stand so she has a clear understanding of what is expected. Next date go to her house or let her take you out and then ask how you are expected to pay her back. Hopefully she`ll show you her bedroom and not the lawnmower and a five gallon can of gas, or a pile of new shingles. Even if you have to cut the grass, there`s a good chance she might show you the bath and then crawl in and help you clean up.  
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| 1/18/2008 6:25:47 PM |
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sassypants26
Hudson, WI
age: 22
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my last date took me to subway. is that a bad sign?? lol
at least he let me get the meal deal.
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| 1/18/2008 6:28:02 PM |
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bucktail
Poynette, WI
age: 46
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na it's not a bad thing,,,every one needs alittle spoiling at times
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| 1/18/2008 6:28:14 PM |
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sassypants26
Hudson, WI
age: 22
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aboomer-
i hardly believe that telling a woman she "owes" you sex after a nice meal will get you anywhere. women do not need to be tought to reciprocate, if you are with the right woman and treat her correctly, then she will want to do things for you without being asked or pursuaded. this obviously goes both ways.
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| 1/18/2008 6:32:24 PM |
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aboomer
Little Rock, AR
age: 45
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Hey sassypants. Would you rather I just walked up to you and asked you if you wanted to f*ck? after which I`d ask you to clean up and fix the bed. BTW. you look like you could be a wild ride between the sheets. JMO 
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| 1/18/2008 6:34:12 PM |
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thunderbirdchic
Sikeston, MO
age: 23
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Maybe you guys should stop going after women that look like supermodels!!!
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| 1/18/2008 6:35:49 PM |
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iloveboxers
Somerset, KY
age: 41 online now!
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personally it makes me sick when older guys try to look good to all these younger girls, these men are old enough to be their dads, um yuk.
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| 1/18/2008 6:36:00 PM |
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sassypants26
Hudson, WI
age: 22
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if you walked up to me and asked if i wanted to f*ck, i would ask you if you'd like to pull your lip over your face and swallow yourself.
but of course, i would say it in the kindest way, maybe even wink after, if you were that lucky.
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| 1/18/2008 6:36:57 PM |
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collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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Spoil them, as long as they don't become spoiled. 
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| 1/18/2008 6:39:21 PM |
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aboomer
Little Rock, AR
age: 45
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Why would I want to settle for brunhilda and her iron maiden. Are you volenteering for duty and don`t feel like you`re getting a fair chance? 
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| 1/18/2008 6:44:40 PM |
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aboomer
Little Rock, AR
age: 45
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Sassypants. You flatter yourself if you think I`d ask some half grown immature little trollup to jump into my sack. I`ve been around more than a few like you and haven`t had a single one darken my doorstep yet. Maybe by the time you reach the mature age of 60 you might learn to appreciate a little mature male attention. You`ve been looking at yourself in the mirror way too much. Now smile and say "Why thank you kind sir".
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| 1/18/2008 6:54:27 PM |
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sassypants26
Hudson, WI
age: 22
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meow
p.s. is a trollup like a fruit rollup?
[Edited 1/18/2008 6:54:55 PM]
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| 1/18/2008 6:57:43 PM |
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aboomer
Little Rock, AR
age: 45
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Well I guess sassypants profile is incorrect. She said shes looking for someone who can be as sarcastic as her and can give back what shes throws out. Don`t go off and pout little girl. You want to run with the big dogs you better develop a thick hide. wanna go get a subway and see my etchings?
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