| 2/4/2008 5:44:36 AM |
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tinasdream
Katy, TX
age: 31
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signs of cheating
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| 2/4/2008 5:49:26 AM |
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tsoprano81
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 26
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its only been a few months, give it some time to see what happens. has he lied to you or broken your trust in any way? if not then you might be over reacting just a little. it seems that he tells you everything that is going on.
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| 2/4/2008 5:55:30 AM |
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differentsrqguy
Sarasota, FL
age: 41
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Looks like you're getting advice from a bunch of insecure women on here..so far...
I'm a man.
If you have misgivings about that man, ASK that Man, not a bunch of people with an agenda on 'dating' or 'hookup' sites like this.
I never understood the reticence of some women to be upfront and deliberate.
Perhaps he views you as 'tentative'...no matter how attractive you might be.
He 'owes' you nothing.....other than perhpas courtesy and honesty.
You owe him nothing, other than a similar measure of the same...
You seem sophomoric......go to the 'source', not arm-chair "Oprahs" on the friggen net.
SHALOM !
(btw, I see women making calls, chitchatting, over their Blackberries, and Palms while on dates, and even with their husbands at dinner........frankly I find all of it rude, but it's becoming omnispresent in society....when I go on a date, I simply request that she and I agree to turn off the friggen phones, and other devices, unless of course she or I are 'on-call' neuro-surgeons at the trauma center)
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| 2/4/2008 6:28:06 AM |
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katiescarlett72
Plano, TX
age: 35
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He also said he can't control what i think.
Nonsense. He is controlling what you think, and very deliberately too. He's also controlling how you feel. If here were wanting to make sure that you didn't think there was a possibility he was creeping, he wouldn't be telling you about other women wanting him. If he didn't want you to feel just a little insecure, he wouldn't be chatting with other women while on your date.
What he absolutely cannot control is whether you put up with this behavior or not.
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| 2/4/2008 7:28:46 AM |
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guitarguy24
Houston, TX
age: 24
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every woman in here is against him because they've most likely been cheeted on them selves. common ladys dont be biased. every man with a female friend doesn't automaticly have bad intentions. a lot of my closest friends are women. he may have bad intentions , but at the same time he may be sincere. if i where you id ask him to set up a double date w/ her and her husband if she's married. maybe the place that she suggested.
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| 2/4/2008 7:34:28 AM |
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immabluefish
Greer, SC
age: 43
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I think ya'll coming down too hard on him too...She should trust her instincts but don't assume he is a cheater based on this...
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| 2/4/2008 7:37:21 AM |
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guitarguy24
Houston, TX
age: 24
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just make sure you dont push him away over nothing. you might regret it later. just keep your eyes and ears open
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| 2/4/2008 8:31:45 AM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Wow - hey Maytag posted a really excellent response...
I think you're right to be cautious.
I think the need to tell - shows either a real need to be honest and feel he let you know "upfront" that there were other people in his life - men and women.
I think introducing you to his male friend in his mind smoothed out his need to call the woman...
And ask - why does a man you are dating need to phone another woman on your date with him?
Bullshit.
Bullshit!
calling bullshit.
changed my mind mid post here - thought maybe you should move forward slowly, but now I think dump him.
And do it BEFORE Valentine's Day!
No trips then dumping cuz that ain't right either!
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| 2/4/2008 10:30:32 AM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 48
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I can't believe what I am hearing from some of these people. I have a good friend that happens to be a woman just a few years older than me. She happens to be married. I call her up ALL the time looking for advice on things. She also happens to be my VP in a group I am the president of. I haven't seen anything that would suggest that guy is cheating on you. If he was he wouldn't be calling her in front of you.
But what I do see is a lot of insecure people here that think a guy can't have a female friend.
If that guy has spent THAT much time with you he can't....or doesn't WANT to be seeing anyone else. He is a teacher....their only free time is on the weekends.
[Edited 2/4/2008 11:40:19 AM]
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| 2/4/2008 10:35:47 AM |
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mmaru
Erie, PA
age: 23
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I'm going to go against the general female opinion displayed here thus far and say that from what you've said, I think it's nothing. I have guy friends and girl friends, and they're just that... friends. But both genders are part of my life, and they'd still be part of my life even after I met someone and started dating them.
The other thing that's been mentioned here is why guys talk about girls that are attracted to them... interestingly, I was just discussing this with a guy friend the other night, and with a third party who is a girl and one of his friends. My ex used to always tell me when a girl was flirting with him, and that drove me nuts... and he could never understand that. To him, it was a display of devotion... that he had this beautiful, VERY available girl hitting on him, and he turned her down because he loved me. The male friend I was talking to about this felt much the same way, but also that it never bothered him when guys hit on his girlfriend because he felt she was that much more attractive. I'm not sure how to explain it, exactly... but at the end of the conversation, he and I just had to agree that men and women take VERY different views on that sort of thing.
I do commend you on having actually talked to your guy instead of just venting here... that takes guts and it shows that you are comfortable enough to be straight with him about you feelings. I don't really blame you for being suspicious since ladies seem to worry so much about being cheated on, but I think you need to give him the benefit of the doubt and work through it. The only thing I think he did wrong was calling other people while you two were on a date... that's pretty rude, and unfortunately, all too common with both men and women these days.
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| 2/4/2008 10:42:32 AM |
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mindyb
Bloomington, IL
age: 42
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he's playing you!!dump him....first of all he is over the top insecure, he is doing it to get a rise, to have control to feel impoprtant...this is a loaded gun ...dump now...ejector seat just whatever you do hit the ground runnin babe...and to answer the question...no you should not be offended...he did not call you a name so therefor no needed to fell offended...he is just playin games. run fast dont look back
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| 2/4/2008 10:44:54 AM |
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storm57
Tulsa, OK
age: 50
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This sounds to me like a guy who is keeping his options open and still trying to move on to the next phase of a relationship with you. (A weekend of sex) If you want a guy who is laying the foundation for a relationship with you and with anyone else he wants at the same time, you are definitely headed in the right direction. If you believe that a man has to have monogamous feelings for you in order to move ahead with the relationship, WAKE UP! I don't mean to offend or insult you, but you have presented evidence that this guy is a good candidate for the dumpster. Don't be in a hurry. You should find someone who will be faithful.
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| 2/4/2008 10:59:16 AM |
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againstthewind
Bluefield, WV
age: 41
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Don't let him go so fast. For a man to have a nice lady friend who gives advice- may mean that's he's good guy. We all need advice sometimes. The best advice I get is from my male friends. Have a great Valentine's Day with him!!
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| 2/4/2008 2:03:57 PM |
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katiescarlett72
Plano, TX
age: 35
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She happens to be married. I call her up ALL the time looking for advice on things.
And if you were insensitive enough to do so on a Saturday night while on a date, I'd tell that chick to run too. It's just rude and inconsiderate.
She also happens to be my VP in a group I am the president of.
BTW, if you are doing the above, I would be careful. I'm glad you're friends with her, but calling her at any time, day/night/weekend, could be interpreted as inappropriate behavior by a male superior to a female employee. What's she supposed to do, say "quit calling me please."?
She should trust her instincts but don't assume he is a cheater based on this...
I don't necessarily think he's a cheater. I think he may be one of those people who enjoy the attention and thrill of keeping their partner off-kilter and constantly reminded that they could be upgraded at any time.
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| 2/4/2008 2:10:01 PM |
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qazyguy
Rockville, MD
age: 50 online now!
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I hate to jump to any conclusions. It's one thing to be a Player, but to draw up plans for the next game while the current one is in progress is Bad Form.
Qazy For Playin
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