"why are they single if they're such a catch?

I had some to tell me they want to talk to me but don't get offended, cause they never dated a black woman but they are open to it, so it's just being honest to me

packer...you seem to have lots of admirers here on DH. What's your secret?!

lol! There are threads dedicated to you, marriage proposals, lots of likes etc...if there was a DH prom queen , you'd win the crown

packer...you seem to have lots of admirers here on DH. What's your secret?!

She is kind and authentic.

Other bonuses...She doesn't suffer fools and she NEVER creates or feeds the drama.

OT..not offensive to ask or to answer BUT it all depends on how it is asked or said. Even the simplest of words can be said with a tone that cuts to the bone.

OK so you meet someone, they seem nice and genuinely interested in you. During the initial "first conversation" on a date or over the phone you ask them "why are they single if they're such a catch?"

In their answer they explain that they never dated someone (black, white, asian, fat, skinny, big, small, etc) and you're in one or two of those categories and dating you will be their first.

How would you take that? Would you be offended or simply see it as them being honest? Would their reason why they never did depend on how you take it? And would it make you feel awkward knowing you're their first?

I would definitely give her an award for not putting a steak knife in your eye for asking her that question and in such a callous manner ...if you're at all civilized this question trumps all the dumb questions a man can ask a woman!!!

First you say ..you're offended being told who you are and sh#t ...and then you concluded with ...maybe that's why they met ...

So its okay for you to tell them who they are but you get offended if you were told who you are ?

Line up your ducks lady !!!

Maybe a more palatable answer from her may have been something like "I dated a certain type and woke up and decided maybe I should broaden my horizons. Perhaps limiting myself to this certain ideal I had in my dating style was limiting my opportunity to find who I really wanted in my life"

It sounds like maybe she was growing as a human being and that is a great thing!

No I do believe I said broadening her horizons.

I use to think I was not attracted to blonds or chest hair .. Well guess what? Had I not broadend my horizons I would not be insanely attracted to and get to look at and touch my blond haired furry chested man every night

I think we ALL THINK at some point in our lives we KNOW what we like and what we are attracted to and something in us says ... Maybe I don't know everyting

and thats when the best stuff often happens to me anyway ... Bad shit has happened too. But more good than bad.

My bad ...I didn't realize your grasp of human relations are limited to a superficial level...

And no we all don't think we have a set of guidelines on who to be attracted to ...predisposition is an insanely complex issue to some and I understand that. To some of us picking a partner is not like picking a car...

My experience tells me I have no control on who I fall for. To me it's not a question of broadening my horizons or in simplier term i know all cars roll on four wheels ...

OK so you meet someone, they seem nice and genuinely interested in you. During the initial "first conversation" on a date or over the phone you ask them "why are they single if they're such a catch?"

In their answer they explain that they never dated someone (black, white, asian, fat, skinny, big, small, etc) and you're in one or two of those categories and dating you will be their first.

How would you take that? Would you be offended or simply see it as them being honest? Would their reason why they never did depend on how you take it? And would it make you feel awkward knowing you're their first?

Wouldn't be offended..
Little off topic but once I received a respond saying she isn't interested dating me because I am European and those guys think women are less than men..Not equal..

So in that case I was just dumbfounded, and told her she is not well informed, ad I heard middle eastern men are like that.
And yes, I did also told her to go out with me so I can show it's not true, but she said "sure you will be nice for a week or two, than your real personality will come out".
So I never found out where did she got all that about Europeans.

A wise man once told me.... Once a woman get something in her head as true, it IS true. Not bcuz it's real but bcuz in her mind it's true.

If she thinks you're cheating YOU ARE CHEATING! Not bcuz it's real but bcuz she convinced herself it's true. And nothing YOU do can change it.

If you come straight home from... then you cheated on the job. If you're never on the phone when she walks in... you just hung up from her. If she find no txt messages, naked pics or facebook evidence... it's bcuz you already deleted it. If you treat her nice and respectful... it's bcuz you're guilty of something you're not admitting to. If you cut off a friend or family member... it's bcuz they have something on you and you don't want them to. tell.

If you change your cologne or start wearing some... it's bcuz your "other woman" likes it. And the list goes on.

And even though she NEVER found any evidence of your cheating (bcuz there is no cheating), in her mind SHE JUST HAVEN'T CAUGHT YOU YET!!! You've always been one step ahead of her. Which makes her relentless in catching you. So be thankful she turned you down brah.

OK so you meet someone, they seem nice and genuinely interested in you. During the initial "first conversation" on a date or over the phone you ask them "why are they single if they're such a catch?"

In their answer they explain that they never dated someone (black, white, asian, fat, skinny, big, small, etc) and you're in one or two of those categories and dating you will be their first.

How would you take that? Would you be offended or simply see it as them being honest? Would their reason why they never did depend on how you take it? And would it make you feel awkward knowing you're their first?

I would definitely give her an award for not putting a steak knife in your eye for asking her that question and in such a callous manner ...if you're at all civilized this question trumps all the dumb questions a man can ask a woman!!!