| 2/8/2016 7:41:46 AM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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The Problem is..when you believe you mean everything to someone, your only setting yourself up for the worst pain in the long run.
I can kinda see this, if a person falls in love with someone who has a known reputation for being a player.
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| 2/8/2016 10:47:20 AM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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i was that person in someones life 
I am NOW... and it kinda sucks. It can be rather suffocating at times. Rather than a live-in, I'd rather a good, solid relationship with a woman that had her own place and was happy that way. We'd have sleepovers sometimes. But most times we'd sleep in our own beds... in DIFFERENT houses.
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| 2/8/2016 1:06:21 PM |
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thingsaregood
Waterford, CT
51, joined Mar. 2012
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What I just read in this thread is a lot of blaming. Blame the guy or blame the women. In reality everyone who doesn't put their spouse first is to blame. If your number one person in your life is your spouse and "their" number one person is you . . . you'll never go wrong.
I suggest you take blame for your past relationships and move on. If you were with the wrong person of course it didn't work out. If you want to be set in your ways and continue to put the blame everywhere but you . . . have fun with that. I've seen enough grouchy people set in their ways to last a life time. Nobody needs or wants to hang with that person. If you don't think you're the person who wears others down try reading your post from an others perspective. If you can do that it could be life changing.
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| 2/8/2016 3:16:01 PM |
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sweetlime4u
Ocala, FL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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The Problem is..when you believe you mean everything to someone, your only setting yourself up for the worst pain in the long run.
True. Try not to make that mistake...
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| 2/8/2016 3:54:49 PM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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The Problem is..when you believe you mean everything to someone, your only setting yourself up for the worst pain in the long run.
Thats NOT an "absolute"... it's a "maybe." And one you'll never know the answer to until you live it. There ARE people who do indeed mean everything to eachother, and actually live "To death do them part."
You want to know what the REAL thing is... today, most people are shallow, weak, spoiled and undisciplined. They dont understand commitment. Therefore they don't know HOW to. The undisciplined will cheat. If it gets hard or the grass looks greener, the shallow or weak will leave.
Those like you feeling you're just setting yourself up? I'd advise anyone NOT to get into a relationship with because you're beaten before you start. You enter with a bad/negative state of mind... and a positive strong MIND is essential. .. which you DON'T have.
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| 2/8/2016 6:49:54 PM |
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pithrill
Bakersfield, CA
63, joined Oct. 2014
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if you love someone, set them free...
That does not work, ok.
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| 2/8/2016 7:43:44 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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right,cause no one owns anyone to have permission etc..to set them free..were allready free..but i understand i have heard this all my life,chase an they run,be mean,an talk firm,an they come back,go figure...
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| 2/8/2016 10:31:34 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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i was that person in someones life
You're lucky then. I never was. I just got dates til they thought they might have found something, someone, anyone who was better or at least different. I was always a nice guy, just a clod with women, but I guess that is obvious.
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| 2/9/2016 3:52:23 PM |
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pagal17
Lancaster, PA
51, joined May. 2012
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Haven't experienced that feeling in a relationship. I go for the emotionally neglectful type who keeps me on the outside of his inner circle 
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| 2/9/2016 4:05:13 PM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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I've seen enough grouchy people set in their ways to last a life time. Nobody needs or wants to hang with that person. If you don't think you're the person who wears others down try reading your post from an others perspective. If you can do that it could be life changing.
Kinda like, Kettle meet black.
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| 2/13/2016 8:32:11 PM |
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celyn67
San Antonio, TX
49, joined Jan. 2016
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This I doubt very much. A woman will ALWAYS find some fault with her man, then nag him to death about it. Once he changes said fault, they leave saying "You are not the man I fell in love with" as the walk out the door.
It's a shame that this is all you have known! This isn't how it is all the time.
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| 2/13/2016 8:49:28 PM |
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fairymaiden
Bristol, CT
49, joined Mar. 2014
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if you love someone, set them free, if they don't come back, start banging someone else
Such the romantic fool... lol
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