1/16/2016 11:00:04 AM |
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
62, joined Feb. 2014
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That only shows who is patient.
A person can want to f**k your brains out on the first date AND still be interested in you as a person for the long term... just as someone can have the ability to wait for date #9 to get the goods and then dump you straight away once they do.
Personally I respect a woman more who doesn't play the waiting game and she'd be more likely to be taken seriously.
I met this guy and he has a general rule of only one f**k. It might be that night or a year later. It matters not to him. You come to his bed or he comes to yours once and then your done even if it takes a year. In the mean time he is all nice words. He was trained in nice words at one of the best Universities in Pittsburgh.
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1/16/2016 2:21:07 PM |
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chillindillan
Entwistle, AB
45, joined Aug. 2013
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Depends on the type of kiss perhaps thats where it begins or ends.
When I was 18 or 20 I saw this drop dead gorgeous girl it the local club so I asked her if I could kiss her, BOLD you say maybe but if she was the one why wait? Next we planned a date but she was to waist'd & sick I never did see her again but 25 years later I still think about it. a coulda woulda?
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1/16/2016 2:27:00 PM |
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chillindillan
Entwistle, AB
45, joined Aug. 2013
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I did it twice, 1st time horny stupidity 2nd x immaturity we dated but never ever any thought of way Jose! Biggest regret there was had better opportunity but to old fashion
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1/17/2016 4:18:52 AM |
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renee398
Chilhowie, VA
36, joined Jan. 2015
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I would not do anything on a first date, even if I found him very attractive, he'd never know it,that soon. I've learned to keep my feelings hidden and hormones buried.
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1/17/2016 7:18:12 AM |
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
36, joined Jan. 2016
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If the mood is right & you're both feeling the chemistry I say go for it. Life is short
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1/17/2016 7:20:23 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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I would not do anything on a first date, even if I found him very attractive, he'd never know it,that soon. I've learned to keep my feelings hidden and hormones buried. Yes. We know that women are the masters of hiding their feelings.
Man: "Is something wrong?"
Womanmaking scowling face with arms crossed and sneering voice)"No. I'm fine."
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1/17/2016 10:09:46 AM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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I am an adult. If I seem to have undeniable chemistry with a man, so long as I am practicing safe sex, it is only 'our' business as to what intimacy happens at the end of a date. I don't need approval nor permission- I do not answer to anyone, but myself, for the decisions I make.
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1/17/2016 12:00:23 PM |
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viper1e
Jeannette, PA
58, joined Dec. 2013
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I would not do anything on a first date, even if I found him very attractive, he'd never know it,that soon. I've learned to keep my feelings hidden and hormones buried.
Sure about that?
Bet I could make you... re-assess your position on that.
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1/17/2016 4:30:32 PM |
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chillindillan
Entwistle, AB
45, joined Aug. 2013
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I am an adult. If I seem to have undeniable chemistry with a man, so long as I am practicing safe sex, it is only 'our' business as to what intimacy happens at the end of a date. I don't need approval nor permission- I do not answer to anyone, but myself, for the decisions I make.
Sienna's problem is she is afraid of her own shadow so searching for answers here is more proof of that eh!
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1/17/2016 4:39:54 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
67, joined May. 2010
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Nono
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1/17/2016 6:23:04 PM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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I would not do anything on a first date, even if I found him very attractive,
That's what I thought too until
That's why I don't like meeting till I know them quite a bit xD
Sienna's problem is she is afraid of her own shadow so searching for answers here is more proof of that eh!
Lol wat, I come from YA answers, where I used to ask Questions
so I come here and ask Questions
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1/17/2016 6:58:08 PM |
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chillindillan
Entwistle, AB
45, joined Aug. 2013
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Lol wat, I come from YA answers, where I used to ask Questions
so I come here and ask Questions
I come to help but if you haven't noticed most here are & no minds just their government wants them.
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1/17/2016 10:12:10 PM |
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mzteriouz8207
Temecula, CA
34, joined Feb. 2014
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I think holding hands and a little kiss is ok but making out is not! It shows that probably by the next date you'll put out lol
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1/17/2016 11:34:42 PM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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A bit of this?
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1/18/2016 8:59:26 AM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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I think holding hands and a little kiss is ok but making out is not! It shows that probably by the next date you'll put out lol
Is there something wrong with having sex? Why would you be holding out anyways if the chemistry is there between you?
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1/18/2016 4:06:49 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Is there something wrong with having sex? Why would you be holding out anyways if the chemistry is there between you? Because that is how women are. They have to be in control at all times, including control over the man. They don't think or take accountability for themselves, and when that guy doesn't call her for a second date, because she didn't out out and they both felt the same chemistry(meaning he smelled of money), she will blame him for going "ghost".
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1/18/2016 4:10:57 PM |
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badpuditatt
Paris, VA
30, joined Aug. 2014
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^there he goes again. making broad generalizations about ALL women, again.
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1/18/2016 4:56:33 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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Intimacy...yuck...men have cooties...
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1/18/2016 5:30:36 PM |
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truly000
Fort Dodge, IA
37, joined Dec. 2011
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Because that is how women are. They have to be in control at all times, including control over the man. They don't think or take accountability for themselves, and when that guy doesn't call her for a second date, because she didn't out out and they both felt the same chemistry(meaning he smelled of money), she will blame him for going "ghost".
This.. "control over the man" in this situation could be ..more about control over herself.
Just because a woman doesn't "put out" on the 1st or 2nd date.. after he paid for dinner, doesn't say she's not worth the time. Nor does it say he's not.
What it might say is that, ( man or woman)they still see value in developing a friendship, respect,and trust. They want more than just their bodies being part of it, filling carnal desires...they also want to have their heart in it too ..,establishing a relationship, building trust,respect,... love.
They allow themselves to develop vunerability towards the other.
Vulnerability is a significant aspect of lasting relationships.
[Edited 1/18/2016 5:32:35 PM ]
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1/18/2016 8:31:38 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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If I could get a date I'd be all in favor of it. I've waited 33 years as it is.
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1/18/2016 10:18:36 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
49, joined Jun. 2013
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Is there something wrong with having sex? Why would you be holding out anyways if the chemistry is there between you?
Don't get me wrong. I think that sex is great.
But... chemistry doesn't always parlay into a good relationship. There are sex skills that are good to have... and then there are "relationship" skills that are necessary to have IF you want things to last longer than a couple of weeks/months. It depends on what you like.
Personally, I'd rather have one good partner for a couple of years. But... not everyone is well-suited for a relationship. It's good to know someone's abilities beforehand. I wouldn't call it "holding out" per se, but being cautious.
I also agree with sitting down to talk about getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases before starting a new sexual relationship.
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1/19/2016 1:16:59 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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^there he goes again. making broad generalizations about ALL women, again. And there you go again, getting offended because my broad generalization applies to you, and to mask your guilt you have to insert the word "ALL" like a typical woman, despite the adjective "ALL" not being present in my original message
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1/19/2016 1:27:11 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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This.. "control over the man" in this situation could be ..more about control over herself.
Just because a woman doesn't "put out" on the 1st or 2nd date.. after he paid for dinner, doesn't say she's not worth the time. Nor does it say he's not.
What it might say is that, ( man or woman)they still see value in developing a friendship, respect,and trust. They want more than just their bodies being part of it, filling carnal desires...they also want to have their heart in it too ..,establishing a relationship, building trust,respect,... love.
They allow themselves to develop vunerability towards the other.
Vulnerability is a significant aspect of lasting relationships.
Yeah, and if he is smart, he doesn't pay for her dinner. After all, she is his "equal" now.
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1/19/2016 4:21:45 AM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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Is there something wrong with having sex?
The sexually transmitted diseases
and pregnancy.
You can technically have sex with anyone, it's up to you to make it actually matter lol
and mean something.
Yeah I agree with Truly, I don't think it's about trying to have control over the man, more like control over herself to lower the chances of her getting hurt when/if shit goes south.
You'd be more hurt if it doesn't work and you'd had sex than if you hadn't.
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1/19/2016 5:34:11 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
52, joined Jul. 2014
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And there you go again, getting offended because my broad generalization applies to you, and to mask your guilt you have to insert the word "ALL" like a typical woman, despite the adjective "ALL" not being present in my original message
You said women:
Because that is how women are. They have to be in control at all times, including control over the man. They don't think or take accountability for themselves, and when that guy doesn't call her for a second date, because she didn't out out and they both felt the same chemistry(meaning he smelled of money), she will blame him for going "ghost".
Not "some".
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1/19/2016 5:38:55 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
52, joined Jul. 2014
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Yeah I agree with Truly, I don't think it's about trying to have control over the man, more like control over herself to lower the chances of her getting hurt when/if shit goes south.
You'd be more hurt if it doesn't work and you'd had sex than if you hadn't.
Exactly.
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1/19/2016 5:46:14 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Not "some".
A generalization is defined as a broad statement or an idea that applies to a group of people or things. Oftentimes, generalizations are not entirely true, because there may be examples of individuals or situations wherein the generalization does not apply.
Meaning, that while it may not apply to ALL women, it is designed to offend the women that are guilty. By definition, a generalization MAY be true in some cases.
However, under no circumstances have I indicated ALL women. There is only one generalization, that I apply ALL to, about women: ALL women are liars.
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1/19/2016 6:45:19 AM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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Meaning, that while it may not apply to ALL women, it is designed to offend the women that are guilty. By definition, a generalization MAY be true in some cases.
As a 'generalization' it is addressed to and would possibly offend ALL that belong to the group that is being generalized.
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1/19/2016 7:03:50 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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^ Good morning beautiful
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1/19/2016 9:16:37 AM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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Depends on the message you want to send ...how you want/care to be perceived.
And "1st date" is the thing here. I dont think its EVER a "bad" idea to hold off on the 1ST date. Sure it's happened, but I don't think any sane person expects to get hot'n heavy on the 1ST date... and again it's possible, but just don't think it's EXPECTED.
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1/19/2016 9:45:17 AM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
52, joined Jul. 2014
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A generalization is defined as a broad statement or an idea that applies to a group of people or things. Oftentimes, generalizations are not entirely true, because there may be examples of individuals or situations wherein the generalization does not apply.
Meaning, that while it may not apply to ALL women, it is designed to offend the women that are guilty. By definition, a generalization MAY be true in some cases.
However, under no circumstances have I indicated ALL women. There is only one generalization, that I apply ALL to, about women: ALL women are liars.
It doesn't matter, so many of your posts are grandly exaggerating the faults of women. You seem to be in need of therapy.
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1/19/2016 9:51:34 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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yak yak,everyones so intelligent they want everyone else to think.......
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1/19/2016 10:07:05 AM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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Good morning beautiful
Good morning ^.^
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1/19/2016 10:09:56 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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good day sara..wow,i think i got it hot here...are you warm there.?
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1/19/2016 10:24:38 AM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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Oh yeah it's hot here
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1/19/2016 10:49:46 AM |
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viper1e
Jeannette, PA
58, joined Dec. 2013
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Is there something wrong with having sex? Why would you be holding out anyways if the chemistry is there between you?
BAV
Born Again Virgin.
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1/19/2016 2:34:40 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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As a 'generalization' it is addressed to and would possibly offend ALL that belong to the group that is being generalized.
If what I say offends you, it os because you are guilty.
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1/19/2016 2:36:56 PM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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No it isn't. That's ridiculous. It's like...
you insult a group of people by addressing the whole group
then say
If what I say offends you, it os because you are guilty.
This is illogical lol.
You address the group, you shouldn't be surprised when people in the group get offended.
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1/19/2016 2:41:23 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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It doesn't matter, so many of your posts are grandly exaggerating the faults of women. You seem to be in need of therapy.
So, you cleary indicate that I am pointing out the faults of women, but rather than women acknowledge their bad behavior and accept responsibility for it, I should get therapy......
By your very words, we agree that I point out the faults of women.
Please, feel free to keep kissing their butts and licking their boots.......
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1/19/2016 2:45:15 PM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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but rather than women acknowledge their bad behavior and accept responsibility for it
Like no one is going to do this. This is a they owe you kind of attitude, the world isn't a fair place people aren't going to just submit.
Plus kinda doesn't make sense logically for it to be true that everyone except yourself is the issue.
While some of you say may be correct a lot is overtly externalizing the problem.
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1/19/2016 5:53:13 PM |
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dan9787_3
Laval, QC
52, joined Jul. 2014
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So, you cleary indicate that I am pointing out the faults of women, but rather than women acknowledge their bad behavior and accept responsibility for it, I should get therapy......
By your very words, we agree that I point out the faults of women.
Please, feel free to keep kissing their butts and licking their boots.......
"grandly exaggerating"?
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1/19/2016 7:24:10 PM |
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jrbogie1949
Red Bluff, CA
67, joined Mar. 2009
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Why or why not? Like could be holding hands, kissing or making out etc stuff like that I mean. Is it a good idea to avoid or turn it down until you feel you know them more OR would holding off on it make it awkward in the future?
if she doesn't at least talk dirty to me on the first date there'll be no second date.
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1/19/2016 11:19:51 PM |
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badpuditatt
Paris, VA
30, joined Aug. 2014
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A generalization is defined as a broad statement or an idea that applies to a group of people or things. Oftentimes, generalizations are not entirely true, because there may be examples of individuals or situations wherein the generalization does not apply.
Meaning, that while it may not apply to ALL women, it is designed to offend the women that are guilty. By definition, a generalization MAY be true in some cases.
However, under no circumstances have I indicated ALL women.
^Nice back-peddling.
you specifically said 'they' in your statement that I implied you were referencing to "all" women in and, thus, by using "they" rather than using: most, some, one, few, several... etc. you were 'insinuating' as to "ALL" women...
I hope you're not expecting us to think/believe you so daft... that you don't totally understand exactly what you, yourself were implicating???
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1/20/2016 12:18:51 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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What I say is how I what I say. How you choose to react to it, falls on you. It is also a reflection of your own personality.
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1/22/2016 10:15:16 AM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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Enig
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1/22/2016 10:16:32 AM |
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Blendno27s
Blackwood, NJ
90, joined Apr. 2015
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sienna its melon time
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1/22/2016 10:17:06 AM |
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SadisticSienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Nov. 2015
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You wish Jelly fish
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1/22/2016 1:54:03 PM |
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rightguyforu92
Lisle, IL
38, joined Feb. 2015
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Op i make my own decisions on these kinds of matters.If u were self secure/self confident u wud prob do the same.
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1/23/2016 8:44:39 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Op i make my own decisions on these kinds of matters.If u were self secure/self confident u wud prob do the same.
His decision os whether he will be using Jergen's or Cocoa Butter
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1/23/2016 11:11:53 AM |
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ranconteur2012
Richmond, TX
56, joined Sep. 2012
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If the dumb b*tch ain't blowing me in the car on the way to Applebee's for the first date she's getting it stuffed in her a** in the Applebee's bathroom
a classic Neanderthal response even in jest,,,,
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1/23/2016 11:18:03 AM |
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ranconteur2012
Richmond, TX
56, joined Sep. 2012
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I don't think Herpes cares if you do it on the first date or the 10th one FYI twent five per cent of adults are positive for herpes....
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1/23/2016 11:19:53 AM |
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ranconteur2012
Richmond, TX
56, joined Sep. 2012
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That seems like sort of a mean-spirited thing to do to another human being.
It's too bad that some men choose to act this way. [/quote Women too!!!
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1/23/2016 11:49:13 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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Depend by the guy...
However I rather to wait, no because it is wrong or because I have any problem at all...
...but just because I want to make sure that I am not kissing a douche...
I have an severe allergy to douches
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1/24/2016 4:52:28 PM |
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nurseshanna1972
San Marcos, TX
43, joined Oct. 2013
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It all comes down to the chemistry between the two and the knowledge you have of your date. I as a general Rule have not gotten intimate with anyone until I have run a background check and feel comfortable being with them. Now I will admit( if any one else out there would) I have kissed a few times on first dates and gotten intimate once or twice , in my younger years.
But then I do not date anymore. Do Not need to .
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1/24/2016 4:57:52 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
67, joined May. 2010
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Intimacy?
Holding hands okay... Peck on cheek maybe
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1/24/2016 5:30:57 PM |
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dasnixter
Jessieville, AR
58, joined Jul. 2010
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Good or bad it is an idea
that only time will tell.
I prefer to flesh out feelings
w/eager lips and probing fingers.
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