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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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Alrighty ladies, there are lots of men on here that accuse us ladies of saying that, "we don't need a man".
List the reasons why you feel like you don't need a man in your life.
Watch and see now. Lots of men going to blast you for whatever you say on here.
Let the controversy begin.
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1/18/2016 6:35:53 PM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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Right now I am finishing up an internship and working, at this point in time I do not have f ucking time. It would be unfair if i started dating someone.
But men cry over anything and everything we do, so it really doesn't matter.
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1/18/2016 6:45:11 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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Well I'm not gone say I don't need a man, cause then that would put me with the rest of the whiners, so umma keep the pot full and let somebody else come stir it up
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1/18/2016 6:46:51 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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@Picky, at least you realize you don't have time to date, etc.
What I find aggravating is when a man says he wants to date and he really does not have time to do so.
If you can't or unwilling to put the time necessary into dating and starting a relationshp then don't. It really does not matter if you are a man or a woman with regards to this subject.
Oh come on @Packer we gots to whine! We are after all women!
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1/18/2016 6:50:30 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014
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I've always needed a man to be my partner. That didn't mean I couldn't get along just fine while I was looking for the right man. I think it's sad that needing each other has become a sign of weakness to so many people.
We are mammals we are supposed to pair up.
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1/18/2016 6:55:58 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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@mrs holland I don't want to
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1/18/2016 7:29:04 PM |
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chairman_drth
Toronto, ON
46, joined Dec. 2015
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oh please
This isn't controversy , this is more of you're probably one of those radical feminist that believes that you dont need men and you want to gather as much allies as possible.
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1/18/2016 7:45:39 PM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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I've always needed a man to be my partner. That didn't mean I couldn't get along just fine while I was looking for the right man. I think it's sad that needing each other has become a sign of weakness to so many people.
We are mammals we are supposed to pair up.
This...
And I like the fact I get to hog the whole bed....
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1/18/2016 7:48:03 PM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
48, joined Aug. 2013
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I haven't lived with a significant other for 20 years. I'm pretty capable of living life on my own & taking care of myself but I want to share my life with a man again.
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1/18/2016 7:51:02 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
39, joined Feb. 2012
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I don't NEED anyone. I want a man to share my life with.
A need is far different than a want. You need air to breathe. You want a man to love and be loved. Share your lives together as two uniquely individuals with respect for each other.
I make my own money. Pay my own bills. But its sad coming home to an empty living room. An empty bed. Love is something we all want. Right?
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1/18/2016 8:20:33 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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Sure they don't need a man! It's right there in their profiles! COMPLETELY INDEPENDENT OF MEN just like that's some sort of virtue. If she's completely independent then she isn't worth my time.
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1/18/2016 8:22:58 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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I don't NEED anyone. I want a man to share my life with.
A need is far different than a want. You need air to breathe. You want a man to love and be loved. Share your lives together as two uniquely individuals with respect for each other.
I make my own money. Pay my own bills. But its sad coming home to an empty living room. An empty bed. Love is something we all want. Right?
A man wants to be a woman's hero, not someone to keep her from being lonely til she starts cheating on him. Goddess knows she's not giving the guy any sex or any of HER money to help pay the bills. If she just wants companionship perhaps she should consider getting a dog.
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1/18/2016 9:39:22 PM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
44, joined Sep. 2014
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Proof we dont need a man is after we have raised our kids alone.
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1/18/2016 9:50:49 PM |
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twining
Anderson, SC
24, joined Jun. 2014
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I don't need a man because my little old heart just can't take another heart break.
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1/19/2016 2:27:04 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010
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Alrighty ladies, there are lots of men on here that accuse us ladies of saying that, "we don't need a man".
List the reasons why you feel like you don't need a man in your life.
Watch and see now. Lots of men going to blast you for whatever you say on here.
Let the controversy begin.
Who cares?? When a woman says "I do not need a man", then that is all I need to know. She does not have to list reasons why.
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1/19/2016 2:54:32 AM |
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roxxygirl00
Calgary, AB
32, joined Jan. 2015
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to much drama! simple as that!
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1/19/2016 3:45:35 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010
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Alrighty ladies, there are lots of men on here that accuse us ladies of saying that, "we don't need a man".
There is ONE thing and ONE thing only that women need men for and that is "REPRODUCTION", because a man must provide the needed genetic martial to reproduce. The man does not need to be present, he just needs to provide the needed sperm.
However, medical science is working towards that not even being need. Once they prefect human cloning, you will see an all out effort by women to do away with men forever.
The end for the human male is not far off, and women will rejoice when it happens.
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1/19/2016 4:06:15 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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Personally...if any feel that way.
It doesn't bother me....it just takes away more of their credibility...and would show an attitude I'd rather avoid.
Sure, we all need men....because without them, everything in our daily life we take for granted would soon disappear.
But, when a woman says that....she means when it comes to love and sex.
Then again...show me a women who can really go her whole life without that.
People need People and love and that's all there is to that.
We just happen to be in a 50 year blip in time, mixed in with the thousands of years, where men created a world, where any dumbass can get a job....the economy rose after ww11, where there were enough jobs to go around and finally easy jobs were created to where even women could do them.
Before that, there were only executive positions that required College and Military service to get them and really super hard jobs.
However where ever I worked where there was women, we men got the harder jobs, and when the women couldn't do something....we had to go over and do that for them....all for the same pay.
Excuse me....but that's nothing to be proud of.
Not if your brought up on real old fashioned principles.
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1/19/2016 8:36:43 AM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
63, joined Oct. 2010
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The Virgin Mary raised her kid up with out the Sperm Donor being around ...
and then did play sex with some Joe cause she was already pregnant.
Hey ... Jesus ... Who's Your Daddy ???
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1/19/2016 8:50:24 AM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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I'm not going to blast because I know it's true... women don't NEED a man.
Fact: plenty of women living life without a man. And living large, fine or however you want to say it.
There's utensils you can buy to open jars. There's step ladders, vibrators and dildos.
"Want" and "need" are entirely different things.
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1/19/2016 9:45:10 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
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I don't need a man because my little old heart just can't take another heart break.
Yes you do need a man. You just need one that won't break up with you.
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1/19/2016 9:48:53 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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Well, I need one. But not just any one, the specific one I'm with. While there is a difference between need and want, there is also a difference between needy and need. There is nothing at all wrong with need and I want to be needed, myself. I want the person I'm with to both need and want me because it's me, not just because I'm a woman, but that I am the woman for him, and you can bet that that's how it is for me. I'll make it clear that he's the one I need and want. I'll never let him think I don't.
Personally, I don't want to be anywhere near someone who runs around spoutin' off about how they don't need a man or a woman because they can do it all by themselves, thank you very much. You want to wave it as some sort of standard or proof of your adulthood, go right ahead, but all it proves to me is that you're not relationship material.
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1/19/2016 10:13:55 AM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014
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Well, I need one. But not just any one, the specific one I'm with. While there is a difference between need and want, there is also a difference between needy and need. There is nothing at all wrong with need and I want to be needed, myself. I want the person I'm with to both need and want me because it's me, not just because I'm a woman, but that I am the woman for him, and you can bet that that's how it is for me. I'll make it clear that he's the one I need and want. I'll never let him think I don't.
Personally, I don't want to be anywhere near someone who runs around spoutin' off about how they don't need a man or a woman because they can do it all by themselves, thank you very much. You want to wave it as some sort of standard or proof of your adulthood, go right ahead, but all it proves to me is that you're not relationship material.
Agreed! Somehow society has become convinced that the term "need" is a sweeping term for the weak. There are many kinds of strength. When two people are able to be vulnerable to each other, that is strength that will in turn, nurture a very special and unique kind of shared strength.
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1/19/2016 10:29:47 AM |
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twining
Anderson, SC
24, joined Jun. 2014
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Yes you do need a man. You just need one that won't break up with you.
If only it could be that simple. It isn't. It's the element of giving it my all and realizing that the bape at that time just can't give me everything that I'm giving him. The disappointment is heartbreakingly too much.
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1/19/2016 10:35:49 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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yes they do,and men need them,or no one would even be talkin about it..everyone is so afraid,and defensive...i want and need one,the right one of course..wherever she is.
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1/19/2016 11:56:34 AM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
67, joined May. 2010
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If you expect her to be your equal you will never find her.
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1/19/2016 7:31:57 PM |
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jrbogie1949
Red Bluff, CA
67, joined Mar. 2009
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@Picky, at least you realize you don't have time to date, etc.
What I find aggravating is when a man says he wants to date and he really does not have time to do so.
If you can't or unwilling to put the time necessary into dating and starting a relationshp then don't. It really does not matter if you are a man or a woman with regards to this subject.
could it be it's less a matter of having time to date and more no more time to waste on the particular gal/guy, ya think?
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1/19/2016 10:33:25 PM |
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
Hungary
27, joined Aug. 2013
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Aren't needs and wants different?
I don't need d*ck in my life, but I'd like it there when I want it.
Making a list like this feels kind of pointless because it can apply to anything.
I don't need greasy fats but I want some.
I don't need another makeup palette but I want one.
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1/19/2016 11:42:29 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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to be my equal,we all are equal in gods eyes,theres none better,i think some think they are,but,im as good as anyone also...
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1/20/2016 2:10:02 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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This...
And I like the fact I get to hog the whole bed.... What is it with that? Like, is there a psychological thing, with taking all the covers and pillows?
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1/20/2016 7:19:29 AM |
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Idleeros
Norcross, GA
28, joined Mar. 2015
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A lot are nothing but a bunch of drama kings & act more like women than a man!! I can't deal with it.
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1/20/2016 7:53:53 AM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
48, joined Jun. 2014
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pot stirer
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1/20/2016 8:11:15 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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A lot are nothing but a bunch of drama kings & act more like women than a man!! I can't deal with it.
Insulting your own gender to insult the other gender...Love it!
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joe4u2explore
Lombard, IL
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dances_in_woods
Henderson, TX
49, joined Mar. 2011
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I definitely need And want a good one...
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1/21/2016 8:36:05 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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A lot are nothing but a bunch of drama kings & act more like women than a man!! I can't deal with it.
Keep putting Liberal Feminists in office and buying Girl Scout cookies to support your Feminist groups, and you find more and more Feminized men, with no testicles and filled with drama.
Now, you want the "old school" macho man, you better be prepared to be an "old school" feminine female. That is simply how it works. You don't like it? Too bad, so sad. Kick rocks.
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1/21/2016 11:49:03 AM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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Well, I need one. But not just any one, the specific one I'm with. While there is a difference between need and want, there is also a difference between needy and need. There is nothing at all wrong with need and I want to be needed, myself. I want the person I'm with to both need and want me because it's me, not just because I'm a woman, but that I am the woman for him, and you can bet that that's how it is for me. I'll make it clear that he's the one I need and want. I'll never let him think I don't.
Personally, I don't want to be anywhere near someone who runs around spoutin' off about how they don't need a man or a woman because they can do it all by themselves, thank you very much. You want to wave it as some sort of standard or proof of your adulthood, go right ahead, but all it proves to me is that you're not relationship material.
Umm, no. That's a bunch of girly, lovey-dovey bullshyt. You don't NEED a man... not the one you're with nor any other man. And sorry to burst your bubble, but the guy you're with?... he doesn't NEED you either. You WANT eachother, and it is much better that way. But it's NOT a NEED. And if you think it is, then you obviously don't know what "NEED" means.
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014
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Umm, no. That's a bunch of girly, lovey-dovey bullshyt. You don't NEED a man... not the one you're with nor any other man. And sorry to burst your bubble, but the guy you're with?... he doesn't NEED you either. You WANT eachother, and it is much better that way. But it's NOT a NEED. And if you think it is, then you obviously don't know what "NEED" means.
I would never think so much of myself that I felt qualified to tell someone else what they need.
Needs and wants are both separate and intertwined in many ways and in terms of a happy, satisfying and fullfilling life, I need a partner who equally needs me. We were and would have continued to be fine without each other but by ALL measurements, we are better together....and we needed each other to accomplish it.
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1/21/2016 6:26:42 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
49, joined Jun. 2013
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People need People and love and that's all there is to that.
This is a good point.
The only thing that I think I don't need is to be married again.
But... who knows... if I were to fall in love deeply...maybe I'd change my mind.
I think saying that you want love and you don't need love is saying like you don't want water... a life without any love at all is very unsatisfying and dry.
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1/21/2016 6:33:49 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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I would never think so much of myself that I felt qualified to tell someone else what they need.
Needs and wants are both separate and intertwined in many ways and in terms of a happy, satisfying and fullfilling life, I need a partner who equally needs me. We were and would have continued to be fine without each other but by ALL measurements, we are better together....and we needed each other to accomplish it.
I agree with you telling that guy off.
Idk if I agree with the concept of needing someone else, though. In terms of survival, a resourceful person can care for themselves and survive, without another person.
Since American values and culture seems to have shifted towards a very selfish society, with many people of both genders really only caring about themselves, at some point you kinda realize you are just getting too old to deal with the BS a relationship brings on. And that isn't gender specific.
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1/21/2016 8:05:31 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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Who cares?? When a woman says "I do not need a man", then that is all I need to know. She does not have to list reasons why.
@Cavie, the reversal is also ture: If a man says he does not need a woman, that is all I need to know.
@Lake, I understand what you are saying when you say need. You don't mean it is a necessity to have that person in your life but it is good to have them there to lean on.
On the other hand, a needy person is a clingy person. No than you. Need some breathing space.
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1/21/2016 8:41:31 PM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014
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I agree with you telling that guy off.
Idk if I agree with the concept of needing someone else, though. In terms of survival, a resourceful person can care for themselves and survive, without another person.
Since American values and culture seems to have shifted towards a very selfish society, with many people of both genders really only caring about themselves, at some point you kinda realize you are just getting too old to deal with the BS a relationship brings on. And that isn't gender specific.
there are all kinds of needs, survival being only one of them.
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1/21/2016 8:41:52 PM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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what you dont know is the great pleasure some of us can give,im a great massager etc,o dont ever say you dont need,you do need..i promise..
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1/21/2016 8:45:38 PM |
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xray6
Jacksonville, FL
28, joined Mar. 2012
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I don't need a women
What's the difference
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1/21/2016 10:10:34 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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I don't need a women
What's the difference
But there is a difference if we are talking about the word need as in a necessity.
Many will diagree with me, but this is what I see: If we did not live in an era of technology and grocery stores (all the things we enjoy in a advanced civilization) women would need men to survive.
On the other hand, the men would not.
Women need men as protectors when it is all said and done when you are dealing with cave man conditions.
Just had to say it and stir the pot up some more.
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heart_and_soul3
Sarasota, FL
58, joined Aug. 2014
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At this time in my life--I am busy getting rid of things...
My New Year's resolution--To finally move on--and let the past go..
Lots of work involved--Going through closets--throwing things out--And, putting things in the garage for a garage sale...
Downsizing---Finally realized---It was stressing me out too much to keep the house.
Thought I had it figured out where I wanted to buy--But, drove by a place yesterday--I think is a better fit.
Fact is, when you mention work--most men my age--HAUL ASS----
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1/22/2016 5:47:38 AM |
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xray6
Jacksonville, FL
28, joined Mar. 2012
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Not really
Advancing in technology is a part of human nature.
So of course the rules of society will change as there is no further need for archaic lifestyles.
Women could be so much more than they are. they just choose not to
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1/22/2016 5:52:14 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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That requires them to give up the benefits of their "archaic" lifestyles, and take on this thing that women hate more than men: responsibility.
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1/22/2016 7:04:59 AM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014
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Like I said...many needs, physical survival being only one of them. People like to use Maslow but only the parts convenient to their own ideas. Physiology...food, air, water, shelter is the very base of needs..
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1/22/2016 7:15:10 AM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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The only things we really need are oxygen to breath, water, food and shelter.
Everything else is just in order to feel better or having fun...
To get a man who is not ok wouldn't be fun right?
So why bother?
No woman really need a man.
Eventually she would enjoy to have the right one.
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1/22/2016 8:40:40 AM |
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marriedncheatin
Twin Falls, ID
49, joined Jul. 2012
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I don't need a man because my little old heart just can't take another heart break.
If you were lil older and I was lil younger I wouldn't break your heart...I'd just break you
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1/22/2016 9:43:40 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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Any cook knows stirring the pot is a good thing rather than letting things sit and then burn to the bottom of the pan.
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1/22/2016 6:57:15 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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Any cook knows stirring the pot is a good thing rather than letting things sit and then burn to the bottom of the pan.
Especially when it comes to a woman cooking. Not healthy to let that pot stew for a while. Going explode eventually!
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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i say let her blow,an settle back down, we aint children..........
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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i say let her blow,an settle back down, we aint children..........
You are a bad boy @Fly.
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1/23/2016 8:26:29 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Like I said...many needs, physical survival being only one of them. People like to use Maslow but only the parts convenient to their own ideas. Physiology...food, air, water, shelter is the very base of needs.. I like this chart. There is something missing from it, though. It is missing the message, "Women, you don't have to expect a MAN to provide the first two things, anymore."
And that includes paying for dates.
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1/23/2016 6:49:18 PM |
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ms_holland
Danville, AL
52, joined Mar. 2014
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Not really
Advancing in technology is a part of human nature.
So of course the rules of society will change as there is no further need for archaic lifestyles.
Women could be so much more than they are. they just choose not to
I would agree. I think the struggle @X is the redefining of our society and its changes.
I think it is more important than ever that when dating someone you both share the same goals and views. Otherwise you will have a lot of conflict.
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1/30/2016 8:22:59 PM |
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pagal17
Lancaster, PA
51, joined May. 2012
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I like this chart. There is something missing from it, though. It is missing the message, "Women, you don't have to expect a MAN to provide the first two things, anymore."
And that includes paying for dates.
Paying for dates would be listed in the safety level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Employment,resources etc...
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1/31/2016 8:54:39 AM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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Paying for dates would be listed in the safety level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Employment,resources etc... And since you can equally get a job and provide these things for yourself, there is no point in expecting us to provide them for you. After all, you are "equal" in the eyes of the law, and you should be treated with equal expectations as we hold ourselves to.
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micheleisgreat
Pittsburgh, PA
53, joined Nov. 2013
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Sorry... I need a man to kill bugs for me!
I'm a big scardy cat!
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