I don't believe I ever did...or would.

But see this is the conflict... If you say you're over someone and you care NOT what they do afterwards... Then get all bent outta shape if they hookup with someone you know?

Check this out everybody...

Would you feel your man or woman is over an ex and totally into you if they were going off over who they ex was sleeping with? Would you feel any kind of security with them if they were doing that?

OK but how would you feel about your girlfriend or a family member dating one of your exes?

See there's 2 sides to this.

No thanks!

That's like your brother marring your ex to keep it in the family.

See here's where DKnight and I see eye to eye. I don't give a damn WHO my ex dates, sleeps with, suck off, marry or whatever. As long as I don't have to see, hear, talk to or hear about her in any way, shape or form. Bcuz if I cut her loose it's not to keep seeing and dealing with her.

When I say I'm done then I'M DONE FOR REAL! My emotions will NEVER outweigh my better judgement or the standards I live by.

Besides, if I EVER met someone else who gives me the love and respect I believe I deserve... I don't need NO EXES hanging around for my lady to have "I'll thoughts" and questioning WHY I'm still in contact with her. You're a complete failure if you ALLOW your past to ruin present and future.

It's funny you should say...

This is kinda off topic but... When I was in my late teens to early 20's I started dating women twice my age and a few old enough to be my grandmother but they were all HOT and VERY attractive. Needless to say... There were a few that said "Boy I'm old enough to be your mother or grandmother!"

Well realistically I would reply... "You might be right but YOU'RE NOT my mother and we're both grown adults!"

I just don't see how women can turn ages into incest???? I can have a sister or niece only 2 years younger than me. So I shouldn't have sex with someone 2 years younger than me without thinking I'm doing it with my sister????

How the hell does that work?

Not all exes are exes because they were rotten people.

I guess I think it's on a case-by-case basis. No one blanket answer.

To be honest, except for that one example I gave earlier, I cannot imagine being interested in anyone a friend of mine dated. We just don't generally like the same type. In fact, I sometimes cannot understand why they're with them in the first place.

Have you seen Autumn Leaves with Joan Crawford? That movie covered something similar. A middle aged woman being pursued by a younger man.

Anywho, I've been interested in men older than my father before. Men closer to my grandma's age back when she was in her 50's. She said she had the same problem when she was my age. Men her age didn't like her, only older men did.

I don't like men younger than me because I already feel like pedophile when I notice that a lot of my friends are much younger than me. When I was 26 and back home from college. I had 13 year olds knocking on my door asking my grandma could I come out and play.

Even now my students find me far more attractive and appealing than any man my age.

Now that I'm officially not much of a spring chicken anymore I don't mind looking at older men but I would never capitalize on it because once he's had me for what's left of my youth, what's to stop him from dumping me out with the rest of the old bags and getting a newer model?

All middle-aged women were once young themselves before they were cast away as used goods. I know the only thing appealing about me to an older man is my age.

It's complicated.

What do you do when your best friend wants their ex back?

I'm JUST friends with my best friend's ex. So, it's no big deal to me.

I was sort of the place filler and I am aware of that.

But now that her last relationship has ended... she sort of wants her ex back... at least as a temporary filler until she finds someone she likes better.

It just gets you tangled up in drama.

If you add romance to the mix, it's double the drama.



This is why I will not introduce anyone I date to my friends.

Live and learn.

Contrary to what my haters believe I seriously do and have been doing relationship counseling, since 1999. Now here's the hot topic....

Dating someone your girlfriend, homeboy or relative use to date.

Three questions come to mind...
1. Yes or No? If yes...
2. How long after the breakup is TOO SOON?
3. Would there be any special circumstances to keep it from ruining the friendship?

Women usually say "Hell No where men usually don't care. Why is there such a difference in how men and women look at it? And is it better to care or not care?
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Women say "NO" bcuz of their egos, greed and need to control other ppl. They can't help but to feel like they're loss is someone else's gain. Emotionally they can't get over that man no matter how long it's been. That's stalker material in the making, a psychological deficiency.

Men usually want it over and done so he can move on himself. Even if he got hurt, he may wanna see her punished for what she did but not stop her from seeing someone he knows. What's your take on it?

Well, what about if a person's relationship broke up when they both went away to different colleges. No big heartbreak and you don't think of each other with any regret, remorse, or anger. Years later, your friend meets him, and they hit it off and start dating.

Do you really feel betrayed by that?

Do you care that someone else is dating what once was yours?

Do you wish them both happiness?

Do you care one way or the other?

Do you really believe that because you once dated them, no matter for however long or short, they're yours always and no one you know can ever even talk to them so they're totally off-limits?


Not all exes are exes because they were rotten people.

I guess I think it's on a case-by-case basis. No one blanket answer.



To be honest, except for that one example I gave earlier, I cannot imagine being interested in anyone a friend of mine dated. We just don't generally like the same type. In fact, I sometimes cannot understand why they're with them in the first place.

Now here you go with your usual sarcastic, sly, out the side of your face, slick mouth bullsh¡t. You speak more out your a** than out your mouth anyway. But if you need something to occupy that dead space between your teeth I have a meat package that'll pack it full and give your mouth something else to do other than talk sh¡t.

BTW, I just happen to agree with Lakes post you c*nt.

This is one of those situations where there are too many factors involved, to make any kind of policy declaration.

I suggest another way to think about it/ view it.

I'm with sadlsticsienna on this one. Just a plain bad idea. It will put a strain on your friend's relationship.