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doublethree
Germantown, TN
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How in the world do you keep from being crazy level stressed when someone does things you just flat can't understand how they can keep doing? For instance, saying they will do something certain times and then when it doesn't happen, they don't even keep you updated or let you know an issue is up?
I don't know if this is because she's only 22 or female or what, but it gets frustrating. And this isn't even a gf. Just think how bad I would handle it if a gf did these things. Seriously, I have just dealt with SO MANY frustrating females over the years. But I almost always talk to girls like 18-22, so maybe it's an age thing that they don't handle things well.
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| 6/1/2016 10:48:34 PM |
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celyn67
San Antonio, TX
49, joined Jan. 2016
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Maybe it IS their young age. I don't know. I do know that there have been some people who I couldn't at all understand why they do some things. I guess the behavior of others can be odd to our own selves at times.
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| 6/1/2016 11:06:39 PM |
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doublethree
Germantown, TN
39, joined Oct. 2013
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I think, honestly, this particular girl gets so busy and stressed, she forgets things. And she has had all kinds of stuff go on lately, so I try my best to understand, but it becomes so stressful for me, since it involves deadlines she just randomly misses.
I guess the main thing I need most is to learn how to handle stress and not overreact! If someone ahs a good reason, I still let it stress me.
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| 6/1/2016 11:07:03 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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How in the world do you keep from being crazy level stressed when someone does things you just flat can't understand how they can keep doing? For instance, saying they will do something certain times and then when it doesn't happen, they don't even keep you updated or let you know an issue is up?
I don't know if this is because she's only 22 or female or what, but it gets frustrating. And this isn't even a gf. Just think how bad I would handle it if a gf did these things. Seriously, I have just dealt with SO MANY frustrating females over the years. But I almost always talk to girls like 18-22, so maybe it's an age thing that they don't handle things well.
Taken from the above(but re-written so it can be interpreted)^^^ saying they will do something and then not doing it, and not letting you know ahead of time and messing everything up...and showing lack of respect or consideration.
Well Dude, your a hair shy from being 40, and these are girls half your age as in on the leaner side of 20...
and they are showing by actions they really don't care or have respect for you.
Gee...do ya think they are using you for a sugar daddy????
Lets ask the beaver, I bet he would say that's what it is.....Whew!!!
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| 6/1/2016 11:19:38 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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NOT understanding HER thinking......
1. Welcome to LIFE for EVERY MAN, since the beginning of ALL existence......
2. Women understand women, and women HATE each other, so that should tell you everything you need to know about women......
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| 6/2/2016 12:07:05 AM |
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doublethree
Germantown, TN
39, joined Oct. 2013
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yeah, and so how do you deal with them and stay sane? 
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| 6/2/2016 1:35:27 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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some girl that age,there minds are racing thinkin of beer,pot,an money,dancing an fun an whatever they can grab from some young skinny drinkin dude an fast,an on to the next an the next..over an over..all kinda....things goin on...........
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| 6/2/2016 2:21:20 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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Worry about your own issues and deadlines not someone elses. If she is unreliable that is her problem just don't expect her to be reliable for you xD
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| 6/2/2016 2:25:16 AM |
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dantana77
Frederick, MD
38, joined Oct. 2010
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dude...either tell us your real age or come clean that you haven't talked to a 22 year old in your entire life. If you're 39, banging 22 year olds as a habit, the last thing you EVER do is care what the f**k they are thinking or wonder what they are doing. this thread pisses me off for some reason
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| 6/2/2016 5:40:10 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010
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Do not even try to understand her thinking. To try and understand ANY woman's thinking, is like trying to count the grains of sand on every beach in the world.
It can not be done.
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| 6/2/2016 12:43:49 PM |
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doublethree
Germantown, TN
39, joined Oct. 2013
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You wouldn't believe all the stuff she has happen to miss doing something she tells me she will. Now this morning she did it again, and I complained, and it turns out she had a potentially serious health issue come up today. And I can tell she's not just making things up, yet she always has something happen. Seriously, it feels like she's cursed.
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| 6/2/2016 12:46:03 PM |
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doublethree
Germantown, TN
39, joined Oct. 2013
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Worry about your own issues and deadlines not someone elses. If she is unreliable that is her problem just don't expect her to be reliable for you xD
well I am just trying to not have to stop buying stuff from her. (long story) She needs money and she does work hard. She just gets overwhelmed. If it were a relationship, I sure hope I would not make excuses for someone like that, though, because the sane thing would be to break up in that case.
dantana, read. I am not dating her or doing anything with her. If I were, though, I am not the type who cares only about sex. I want relationships. So it would bother me then too. As for age, though, I have talked to a lot of 18 yos, even on this site I used to. And a 21 yo on this site kept just about begging me to meet her for sex, but that is not what I want.
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| 6/2/2016 12:52:54 PM |
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xray6
Jacksonville, FL
28, joined Mar. 2012
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distance yourself
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| 6/2/2016 2:21:40 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
63, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - Adults don't bother with such BS. If someone tells me they will do something at a certain time, and they don't do it, I have no more to do with them...so they don't get a chance to let me down a second time, let alone make me crazy.
More than likely, most females you encounter do all they can to annoy you, in order to make you angry enough to leave them the Hell alone for a change. It is a polite way of telling you to "buzz off creep!" They, however, fail to realize what a childish dumb-ass you are, and how you are thus incapable of noticing-let alone taking-a hint.
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| 6/2/2016 8:49:22 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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SHE'S always right.
YOU'RE always wrong.
You are around to pick up the pieces when she fails and to take responsibility for her mess and to beg forgiveness.
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| 6/2/2016 8:53:20 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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yeah, and so how do you deal with them and stay sane?
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| 6/2/2016 9:03:45 PM |
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fairymaiden
Los Angeles, CA
97, joined Mar. 2014
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I just shut down the part of my brain that intercepts the words coming out of their cum dumpsters.
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| 6/2/2016 9:26:15 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
49, joined Jun. 2013
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since it involves deadlines she just randomly misses.
IDK...I suppose you have a talk with the person and let them know that you will be putting them on probation. You would like to continue doing business with her... BUT... you need someone more reliable because you are dealing with deadlines. "So, please don't mess up. And...call ahead if you are running behind or you run into issues. blah, blah, blah..."
You're the boss! 
In dating... I'd just date someone else if I couldn't count on them to show up. We would not be a good match.
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| 6/2/2016 10:07:23 PM |
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doublethree
Germantown, TN
39, joined Oct. 2013
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It's only business in that I am buying stuff from her, but still the customer is technically the boss. It's just hard for me to decide how much is my fault from expecting too much and how much is her fault. Oh well. I really need a break from buying stuff soon, anyway. She has gone out of her way for me in some regards. She just flat is horrible with time management, in my opinion.
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| 6/2/2016 11:08:49 PM |
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lightbrownie1
Johnston, IA
47, joined Feb. 2016
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I don't know if this is because she's only 22 or. But I almost always talk to girls like 18-22, so maybe it's an age thing that they don't handle things well.
Yeah you need to find your group age little older then 22 and even older than 39.
You learn more from folks that's older.
Helps you to not be so easily persuaded by the young.
Also helps to think wisley and realize what the older generation has done to have them self in a finacial state state of confort when they're older.
If your so caught up in a 22 year old...not keeping their promise and you're so upset that you created a thread, then your caught up and controlled.
 not good.
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| 6/3/2016 9:25:49 AM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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I think, honestly, this particular girl gets so busy and stressed, she forgets things. And she has had all kinds of stuff go on lately, so I try my best to understand, but it becomes so stressful for me, since it involves deadlines she just randomly misses.
seriously you need new friends. Life shouldn't be that stressful for you. Deal with your own shit and stay out of her drama. Age has a lot to do with it.
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| 6/3/2016 5:45:35 PM |
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my2sunshine
Pulaski, NY
50, joined Apr. 2013
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There are people that can't say no and commit to more things than they can handle. Might be their issue.
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| 6/3/2016 8:33:04 PM |
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pagal17
Lancaster, PA
51, joined May. 2012
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You're making excuses for her poor behavior. She chooses to be disrespectful. There are many reasons one behaves this way. Yes, immaturity, narcissism, border line personality disorder, not caring enough, disrespectful, etc...
Making a mistake once is forgivable; Making the same mistake twice is a choice.
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| 6/4/2016 12:29:44 PM |
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cubcougar
Lucerne, CA
63, joined Oct. 2010
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You know of any ADDICTS ... ever talk straight, be honest, conscious, and tell on them selves ???
I say .. she is an addict.
Dennis Hastert is much more mature .. but he constantly lies, bull shits, does different then what he says.
All cause he is a sex addict and f**ks the neighbors son as well as his own son ... behind his wife's back.
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| 6/7/2016 10:22:40 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
49, joined Oct. 2013
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This And all Op's threads = epic fail......js
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| 6/8/2016 12:30:21 AM |
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Mercedes_02
AñatuyaAñatuya
Australia
101, joined Dec. 2014
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Don't worry OP as I don't understand
my way of thinking half the time
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| 6/8/2016 9:10:12 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
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why do you talk to such young women? lol
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| 6/9/2016 7:25:08 PM |
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greeleybro
Longmont, CO
49, joined Oct. 2013
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Why do u want him???
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