Part of the problem is when two people have health issues. It may be hard enough to deal with ones own without adding a second round of hardships, hospitals, Dr. appts., costs and mobility and transport issues. I am in excellent heath and have run into messages from men where it it obvious that either we are not compatible or they are seeking a caregiver.

I have witnessed the scenario both ways. Some folks tend to stick closer together in times of stress, especially if it's illness. Then there are those who turn away and run because of fear of responsibility. Guess you could say that happened to me a few years ago. When the chips were down, I looked around and saw that it was up to me alone to get through it. The one that said "be there to the end", only meant the end of what he felt he was up to doing. CHIT HEAD.

But now, the chips are down in his arena, so who does he call? What do I do? Well...sometimes I think I do too much because he certainly doesn't deserve dedication. However, I worked this out with my God and think that I should be the best I can. So am willing to make doctor's visits with this person when he has a chemo appt. Because he wasn't there for me, doesn't render me less than the person I know I am. I can rise above it, push the painful memories back into their place and forge ahead. NOW, that doesn't mean I'm a push over. NOPE, NADA and will step out and say "get the hell out of here. Go home and feel sorry for yourself. Life is about choices and you made yours, so live with them. Come in here to live. Hell NO. You're sorry....You sure as heck are."

OOPS, didn't mean to drop all that but felt good to get it off my chest.

Some have gone a long time ago and don't need to act

Oh but Star, you'd never have encountered another who would have kept you laughing as much and/or on your toes.