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bookwormtobutte
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I get men who tell my I'm everything from Sexy, Beautiful, and Cute to Fat, Ugly, and "You look like a Man". I try not to listen to the nay sayers, though the fat part can hurt a little (I'm a woman we're trained to be bit a sensitive about our weight). But mostly I like what I see when I look in the mirror, I don't think its perfect but I believe a man when he tells me he sees what he likes and wants to keep seeing and playing with it.
So here's my dilemma, I'm attracted to Husky Nerdy Men. 6ft, 230+#s, Beard, Glasses, and a bit on the socially awkward side. Now I get these men aren't generally adored by hords of women. But if I'm the one sleeping with them and telling them that I find the hot as hell, Why do they argue with me that don't find them attractive??!!!
I'm sleeping with them!!!
I'm smiling when they get naked!
I never ask to turn out the lights!
How many women out there are actually willing to sleep with a man they find repulsive and ugly? I surely don't know any. I get maybe having a little self esteem issue,and he may not be gracing the cover of GQ any time in the future. But if a woman tells you she finds you sexy, then backs it up with her actions, shouldn't it be flattering, and happy instead of arguing her down to the ground about how she's wrong?!!!
Now I know women do this too,but it just seems a bit more odd coming from a man. 
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
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Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder right? Lol
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bookwormtobutte
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Yeah OK that works too. But I'd have to be an alcoholic if that was the case!
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grande_mamon
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Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder, so if the beholder tells you you're an ugly b*tch, then logically you're an ugly b*tch. 
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| 6/21/2016 12:34:42 PM |
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bumblebee7
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I'm wasn't quite sure what to make of this thread at first glance, so I read it again more carefully.
I can tell you what I feel and think. I think with things surrounding love, our needs, wants and desires, need for attention and etc.. In general the genders are a lot closer in how they are, vs. our perception of how we think they are... based on how each gender was raised in order to be that gender by how society views how each gender should be.
Men taught to be manly by with holding certain feelings and emotions....and etc, etc....but underneath the surface, that's another story.
Maybe that will help in answering the question.
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bumblebee7
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I hate to do it, but I have to ad a little more.
I can't speak for all men either. I just know I was raised by the old school way of raising a boy to be a man or manly, and I can throw in observations of other people over my life time.
In this process, if we did something not right, we heard about it and had to do it again till it was done right. Sometimes we'd get complimented, sometimes we'd hear " what do you want a medal and a brass band? "
I might may not seem like it on here, but in real life I'm quite humble and don't take compliments that well...and I'm much better at giving them out.
If I can tell if a woman is turned on by being with me, and she says so too...sure, it makes me feel good inside, and I'm sure not going to argue with her....but I know I don't always react in the way I think she wants me too.
and this stems from those humble beginnings I mentioned....
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inni_dreamz
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Sounds like self esteem issues - which YOU can't do anything about... Just keep telling him how you feel, it's up to him to believe it or not. Hopefully, he'll come around.
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bumblebee7
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^^^^^^^^^she's got a point op.
If the dude just doesn't take a compliment well or said..."yea sure" but not seriously, its one thing.
If he argued about it as in really arguing...that's another story, and suggest issues.
but, unlike common looking women, most plainer looking men rarely if ever get those kind of compliments, and think women are so visual they only get pleased at seeing the super nice looking guys.
So who knows.?
Could you lay an example on us of this arguing?
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
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I know those types. I'm attracted to the lanky, scrawny, emaciated version. Minus the beard. 
They've programmed themselves to fish for compliments.
They have a very beta and submissive attitude and use their insecurities in a passive-aggressive way.
Also them not reveling in your praise and compliments is a very passive-aggressive way of them saying that you are not their type but they're taking what they can get. It's kinda like saying you don't count when it comes to who they want your kind of attention from. And it's also a self-destructive defense mechanism because it's usually obvious that you're the "prize" in the situation which is why they humor you and your advances even though they don't care of the package it came in.
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xray6
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I know those types. I'm attracted to the lanky, scrawny, emaciated version. Minus the beard.
They've programmed themselves to fish for compliments.
They have a very beta and submissive attitude and use their insecurities in a passive-aggressive way.
Also them not reveling in your praise and compliments is a very passive-aggressive way of them saying that you are not their type but they're taking what they can get. It's kinda like saying you don't count when it comes to who they want your kind of attention from. And it's also a self-destructive defense mechanism because it's usually obvious that you're the "prize" in the situation which is why they humor you and your advances even though they don't care of the package it came in.
this
use to think it was cute but now I find it annoying.
and it usually comes with extreme emotional problems behind it.
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mortara
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Women will tell a man what he wants to hear in order for them to get something out of him. It's that simple. With a wh*re, it's money. It matters not what you look like but how much you will pay and when. There are more wh*res in the world them good women. The good ones are usually not interested in sex. That is why they are good.
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
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this
use to think it was cute but now I find it annoying.
and it usually comes with extreme emotional problems behind it.
Agreed.
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soulflight
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Women will tell a man what he wants to hear in order for them to get something out of him. It's that simple. With a wh*re, it's money. It matters not what you look like but how much you will pay and when. There are more wh*res in the world them good women. The good ones are usually not interested in sex. That is why they are good.
What a load of shit..on all counts
Manipulative people come in all genders.
Plenty of good women enjoy sex...especially with a good man.
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god_says
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Beauty, is just a light switch away.
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mortara
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What a load of shit..on all counts
Manipulative people come in all genders.
Plenty of good women enjoy sex...especially with a good man.
As long as a good man is providing. That's what makes him good.
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bumblebee7
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Quote from mortara:
Women will tell a man what he wants to hear in order for them to get something out of him. It's that simple. With a wh*re, it's money. It matters not what you look like but how much you will pay and when. There are more wh*res in the world them good women. The good ones are usually not interested in sex. That is why they are good.
after reading this, because it was quoted.
I'm glad I can't any other of his post, if they are like this one.
What a crock...
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soulflight
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As long as a good man is providing. That's what makes him good.
Some women think men only want them for sex.
Some men think women only want them for money.
In both cases, those men and women are just letting us know how little they think of themselves.
Plenty of good men and women out there. They are the happy ones that aren't b*tchin' and moanin'
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mortara
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Some women think men only want them for sex.
Some men think women only want them for money.
In both cases, those men and women are just letting us know how little they think of themselves.
Plenty of good men and women out there. They are the happy ones that aren't b*tchin' and moanin'
Although it could be a contest between an older broke wh*re with a serviceable p*ssy vs a rich older guy who is cheap but still has a hard d*ck.
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mortara
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Who blinks first!!!!!
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noprudesbaby
Palm Desert, CA
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Alcohol has been MORE responsible for people getting laid.... than any other reason in our society...
Everyone looks better after a few drinks...even ya'll...
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packersbabe920
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Like beauty and the beast
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flyfish77
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not enough money no where to make me drink that stinkin stuff.....
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
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I'm quite humble and don't take compliments that well...and I'm much better at giving them out.
Me too.
I know when someone enjoys spending time with me. I can tell by our connection.
So, I don't need to hear that I'm pretty, sexy, beautiful or even cute.
Plus, sometimes it just seems a little fake... 
Although I usually do thank someone for the nice compliment.
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
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I get men who tell my I'm everything from Sexy, Beautiful, and Cute to Fat, Ugly, and "You look like a Man". I try not to listen to the nay sayers, though the fat part can hurt a little (I'm a woman we're trained to be bit a sensitive about our weight). But mostly I like what I see when I look in the mirror, I don't think its perfect but I believe a man when he tells me he sees what he likes and wants to keep seeing and playing with it.
So here's my dilemma, I'm attracted to Husky Nerdy Men. 6ft, 230+#s, Beard, Glasses, and a bit on the socially awkward side. Now I get these men aren't generally adored by hords of women. But if I'm the one sleeping with them and telling them that I find the hot as hell, Why do they argue with me that don't find them attractive??!!!
I'm sleeping with them!!!
I'm smiling when they get naked!
I never ask to turn out the lights!
How many women out there are actually willing to sleep with a man they find repulsive and ugly? I surely don't know any. I get maybe having a little self esteem issue,and he may not be gracing the cover of GQ any time in the future. But if a woman tells you she finds you sexy, then backs it up with her actions, shouldn't it be flattering, and happy instead of arguing her down to the ground about how she's wrong?!!!
Now I know women do this too,but it just seems a bit more odd coming from a man.
When a result occurs greater than it does not occur, our brain develops a bias.
This is where generalizations come from.
Males tend to be more logical and rational than women, which tend to be more emotional.
Now, the type of men you look for are not "ladies men", which means they have the "Win-Loss" record of the Cleveland Browns, when it comes to women.
These are the guys, that when they pursue a female, they get the "easy let downs" and other forms of female bullshit, so their widdle feelings aren't hurt.
As such, many of them later find out they were being dogged by that same female, behind his back, to all her girlfriends at some point.
So, we know when a woman SAYS she finds us to be hot as Hell and sexy, we think she is just bullshitting us or telling what she thinks we want to hear, because so many other females have told us negative things about us to our faces, behind our backs, and given us numerous rejections.
Therefore, we have a bias against being complimented because it rarely, if ever, actually happens.
This is not to say you are not a sincere woman, in your compliments.
It is merely an indicator of a severely damaged male psyche, from superficial, shallow b*tches that have stuck-up attitudes towards men like us.
I don't have the beard, and I am about 20 lbs under what you are looking for, but I am quite a nerdy guy that was never much of a "ladies man", even before I started treating women like faceless sets of orifices.
So, I do understand what you are asking and why you are getting frustrated with it.
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bluecougareyes
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Me too.
I know when someone enjoys spending time with me. I can tell by our connection.
So, I don't need to hear that I'm pretty, sexy, beautiful or even cute.
Plus, sometimes it just seems a little fake...
Although I usually do thank someone for the nice compliment.
^^^ That's sweet...  
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Mercedes_02
AñatuyaAñatuya
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sadlsticsienna: Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder right? Lol
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
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Me too.
I know when someone enjoys spending time with me. I can tell by our connection.
So, I don't need to hear that I'm pretty, sexy, beautiful or even cute.
Plus, sometimes it just seems a little fake...
Although I usually do thank someone for the nice compliment.
Actually this is my problem. I know I am a rich old ugly turd that can't stand a candle to a short fat bald guy. So when a woman tells me I am hot, I know she is lying and it really turns me off.
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sddnly_snoozin
Staffordshire
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Sounds like self esteem issues - which YOU can't do anything about... Just keep telling him how you feel, it's up to him to believe it or not. Hopefully, he'll come around.
This
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purdibirdd
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Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder right? Lol
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serendipity1301
Baltimore, MD
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Sounds like self esteem issues - which YOU can't do anything about... Just keep telling him how you feel, it's up to him to believe it or not. Hopefully, he'll come around.
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| 6/22/2016 9:04:38 AM |
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the_israelite
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Yeah, I have had some women refer to me as handsome. However, a woman on an app told me that she doesn't do short and unattractive men or something before blocking me.
So what am I supposed to do?
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serendipity1301
Baltimore, MD
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Okay. And? Looks like she was a nasty b*tch. Move forward.
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
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Yeah, I have had some women refer to me as handsome. However, a woman on an app told me that she doesn't do short and unattractive men or something before blocking me.
So what am I supposed to do?
As a man you should really take women's views of your appearance with a grain of salt.
Seriously. Have you not seen the gorgeous herds of women that cling to the ugliest of men? And these men have no money, no education, jack shit. It boggles MY mind.
Women are far more flexible to what they're willing to accept.
So as a man you're lucky. Women always settle.
I carry myself like a man romantically because I believe in equality. Why should I look for substance if men don't? If the tables were turned I wouldn't be granted such grace.
Both I highly doubt there are other women out there as twisted as me.
WOMEN tell me I'm too picky. WOMEN.
So if she told you that she was trying to hurt you the way she had been hurt. Unless you said something mean to her to set her off.
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the_israelite
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Women always settle.
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Well, the problem is, I don't really want someone to be with me if they feel that they are just settling. You know?
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
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Yeah, I have had some women refer to me as handsome. However, a woman on an app told me that she doesn't do short and unattractive men or something before blocking me.
So what am I supposed to do?
Recognize that incidents like this are time savers. Clearly you weren't compatible. You didn't have to sit through an awkward meet and greet or pay for dinner and she didn't string you along with a bunch of e-mails.
Stop whinning.
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
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^^^ That's sweet...
Thank you. I try to be sweet. 
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driver406
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They're f**king idiot.
You said they are socially awkward.
They don't know what to do when they get lucky.
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maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
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I guess it is in the eye of the beholder, cause I see so many decent looking men with not so good looking women. 
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joe4u2explore
Lombard, IL
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What a load of shit..on all counts
Manipulative people come in all genders.
Plenty of good women enjoy sex...especially with a good man.
*wink*
Truth, Soul!
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| 6/23/2016 8:43:04 AM |
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cubcougar
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OK ... would you have sex with this ... guy f**king or lesbian licking ...
really .. would you
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kungfu_candy
Alsónémedi
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Well, the problem is, I don't really want someone to be with me if they feel that they are just settling. You know?
As a person and as a man you will never know... if she loves you enough.
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| 6/23/2016 9:36:33 AM |
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grande_mamon
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Being with someone exclusively is always settling.
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raisedred
Louisville, KY
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Being with someone exclusively is always settling.
I have to agree with this. Noone is ever going to find everything they are looking for. Noones perfect
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the_israelite
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kungfu_candy, so a man shouldn't be concerned with being wanted by his significant other??
raisedred, I am looking for a woman who satisfies just a few of my requirements, but even that I can't seem to find. A woman without kids, one I'm attracted to and who is attracted to me, preferably one who is shorter than me, who is a trustworthy and decent person and who has nice feet that she doesn't mind me rubbing and kissing on. Why is that so hard to find for men like me?
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
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Being with someone exclusively is always settling.
Yes.
Settling upon as opposed to settling for.
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the_israelite
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lovethelake17, yeah, I do not mind when women settle upon my body, myself, but I digress.
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bookwormtobutte
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I have to agree with this. Noone is ever going to find everything they are looking for. Noones perfect
80/20 rule. Usually some one can only be about 80% of what you want and are looking for. But you'd be surprised how many people will throw away that 80% to be with that 20% that they don't have. And at the time they don't realise what they are doing. With the world getting smaller and everyone having everything they want at their fingertips. Its hard to remember that relationships take compromise. I wouldn't call it settling. I'd call it accepting. Accepting the person your heart wants to be with, flaws and all. Is it easy? NO, but you have to keep in mind, they should be accepting of you too.
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
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Yes.
Settling upon as opposed to settling for.
You do both.
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grande_mamon
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80/20 rule. Usually some one can only be about 80% of what you want and are looking for. But you'd be surprised how many people will throw away that 80% to be with that 20% that they don't have.
All part of the learning process.
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
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lovethelake17, yeah, I do not mind when women settle upon my body, myself, but I digress.
[[chuckle]]
But yes. So many people frown on settling, but they're thinking settling for, as in taking what you can get all the while thinking it's not what you really want.
Settling upon is like when you go car shopping. (I'm going to stick with the usual car analogies for dating.) You look at a lot, you narrow it down to a few, then after some consideration, you settle upon and choose the best one for you that you like the most.
As for people not believing you when you tell 'em you want them? Their problem, their issue. You can only keep on being with them and proving your words. If it continues and/or gets worse, it'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy because not many of us can handle constantly buoying someone else up.
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grande_mamon
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[[chuckle]]
Settling upon is like when you go car shopping. (I'm going to stick with the usual car analogies for dating) You look at a lot, you narrow it down to a few, then after some consideration, you settle upon and choose the best one for you that you like the most.
Semantics, you can just as easily use the term settling for as settling upon.
You settle for the car that meets your needs within your price range.
you settle upon the car that meets your needs within your price range.
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lovethelake17
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I don't think it's semantics. I think there is an actual difference between the two.
I settled for the car I currently have. I really don't like it, didn't really think all that much of it from the beginning, and I'm unhappy with it. I settled upon a previous car that I loved completely and miss to this day. I settled upon that car after doing some research and shopping and was very happy with my choice.
(Oh, and I'm trying to get out of the lease. I really don't like this car.)
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grande_mamon
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I don't think it's semantics. I think there is an actual difference between the two.
I settled for the car I currently have. I really don't like it, didn't really think all that much of it from the beginning, and I'm unhappy with it. I settled upon a previous car that I loved completely and miss to this day. I settled upon that car after doing some research and shopping and was very happy with my choice.
In both instances you'd have discarded them if someone gave you a $300,000 dollar luxury vehicle for the same price as your neon and Taurus.
upon/for...still settling for something lesser than your ultimate choice/wish/hope etc.
Semantics
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| 6/23/2016 10:15:22 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
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These types of threads should use the phrase "to settle for less", which is what
they really mean. It has a different meaning than "to settle".
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| 6/23/2016 10:17:11 AM |
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raisedred
Louisville, KY
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80/20 rule. Usually some one can only be about 80% of what you want and are looking for. But you'd be surprised how many people will throw away that 80% to be with that 20% that they don't have. And at the time they don't realise what they are doing. With the world getting smaller and everyone having everything they want at their fingertips. Its hard to remember that relationships take compromise. I wouldn't call it settling. I'd call it accepting. Accepting the person your heart wants to be with, flaws and all. Is it easy? NO, but you have to keep in mind, they should be accepting of you too.
Depends on what the 20% is. I tried lookin past the couple "flaws" my ex had and it blew up in my face. Don't let the 80% blind you to reality of who the person is.
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| 6/23/2016 10:18:08 AM |
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the_israelite
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It's looking like I may have to settle for less, but maybe things will happen to where that will not be the case.
In any case, it's looking like I may have to settle for a woman with offspring, settle for a woman who is taller than me, and/or settle for a woman who stays outside of my preferred distance range.
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the_israelite
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raisedred, perhaps it depends on what those percentages pertain to. I think that core values (who a person is, their morals, outlook, etc.) are very important to have in common, so if a person has all of the physical, material, sexual, etc. attributes you like, but they aren't an honest or good person, may be abusive, etc. when it comes to their 20%, that might not work.
BUT... if they are great people, fairly attractive, has a decent job, but might be 5'8 or 5'9, then hey, it is what it is.
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bookwormtobutte
Rio Rancho, NM
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Depends on what the 20% is. I tried lookin past the couple "flaws" my ex had and it blew up in my face. Don't let the 80% blind you to reality of who the person is.
Well yes, if the 20% is him beating you, or being a drug addict, or child molester, something on those lines. You have to be realistic.
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| 6/23/2016 10:22:56 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
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Depends on what the 20% is. I tried lookin past the couple "flaws" my ex had and it blew up in my face. Don't let the 80% blind you to reality of who the person is.
True, 80% Nectar is nice but if the other 20% is arsenic you might want to avoid it.
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| 6/23/2016 10:23:02 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
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In both instances you'd have discarded them if someone gave you a $300,000 dollar luxury vehicle for the same price as your neon and Taurus.
upon/for...still settling for something lesser than your ultimate choice/wish/hope etc.
Semantics
Well, no.
Maybe for a fleet of cars that would fulfill all my desires. You know, SUV type, station wagon type, convertible, sedan, mini-van, sporty two-seater...
The car I loved was my ultimate choice/wish/hope, etc.
I agree, mylegsarecold.
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