My boyfriend won't leave me.

3/29/2017 7:42:39 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
MzNoGames88 Philadelphia, PA 29, joined Nov. 2015	Why won't my boyfriend end things. We been together for a few years but we are not sexually active. Never been. He works everyday bring me his checks. I told him I'm not happy and that I was leaving him because we don't have sex and he just there. But he always begs me to stay. Tells me I can see whoever I want just don't leave him? Idk if I'm lucky or wtf. Then I think what can it hurt to have someone who let's u do whatever you want. But i want more. Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
3/29/2017 7:47:28 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
burt_hurt Beverly Hills, CA 37, joined Jan. 2017	Then leave yourself, seems simple enough.
3/29/2017 8:01:04 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 24, joined Jan. 2016	Just leave him if you don't want to be with him.
3/29/2017 8:07:45 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
burt_hurt Beverly Hills, CA 37, joined Jan. 2017	Btw, if the only problem is him not having sex with you have you thought about losing 30lbs or so? maybe then he would.
3/29/2017 8:15:20 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
kungfu_candy Alsónémedi Hungary 28, joined Aug. 2013	Have you tried to save the relationship before jumping ship? Thankfully and hopefully you haven't cheated on him (yet). If you want him, take him. When he shuts you down for sex you could try to find out why, and if he's just not putting in the effort then you need to have a talk with him. If he still doesn't budge, stop taking his money and work on transitioning out of the relationship.
3/29/2017 8:30:00 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
frecklefarmer Lebanon, MO 45, joined Oct. 2014	Never heard of rufies? Just friggin rape him and get it over with
3/29/2017 9:52:46 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
mylegsarecold Gainesville, FL 55, joined May. 2011	I like the crack smoking pictures, very classy.
3/29/2017 9:58:00 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 24, joined Jan. 2016	What you have to realize it will just hurt everyone if you start sleeping with someone else while with him. Either fix things with him, think about if you want to still be with him if things don't change and Or leave him.
3/29/2017 10:02:35 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
foreal2015 Cadiz, OH 35, joined Aug. 2015	Quote from sadlsticsienna: What you have to realize it will just hurt everyone if you start sleeping with someone else while with him. Either fix things with him, think about if you want to still be with him if things don't change and Or leave him. best advice I've ever seen you give someone. Keep these words in mind when you decide to possibly start your next relationship!
3/29/2017 10:09:01 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 24, joined Jan. 2016	Quote from foreal2015: best advice I've ever seen you give someone. Keep these words in mind when you decide to possibly start your next relationship! My situation is different. I'm not in a relationship with my ex. Its reverse of OPs situation. Mine is starting with a friend\fwb and looking for love. Not having love and looking for sex\fwb (Ops situation).
3/29/2017 10:17:52 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
foreal2015 Cadiz, OH 35, joined Aug. 2015	Granted yes it's a different scenario but it still applies that if you're attempting to have a relationship with someone there should be no outside fwb.
3/29/2017 10:31:55 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 24, joined Jan. 2016	Quote from foreal2015: Granted yes it's a different scenario but it still applies that if you're attempting to have a relationship with someone there should be no outside fwb. If its not serious and we are not fully committed to eachother and in a relationship, I don't see why I should be missing out on sex.
3/29/2017 10:38:20 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
easttowest72 Bremen, GA 45, joined Sep. 2014	Sounds like the bf is sleeping around but comfortable with his home life.
3/29/2017 11:31:50 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
mylegsarecold Gainesville, FL 55, joined May. 2011	Or he lost his penis in an industrial accident.
3/29/2017 12:17:04 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
pickygirl72 Pinon Hills, CA 46, joined Sep. 2011	I suggest siting down with him and figure out what you both want out of the relationship. Tell him your concerns. If it will not work out stop taking his checks, move out if u live with him and move on with your life. Maybe break up with him before you sign up on a dating service.
3/29/2017 3:57:08 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
enigmaathand Leavittsburg, OH 36, joined Mar. 2013	Quote from MzNoGames88: Why won't my boyfriend end things. We been together for a few years but we are not sexually active. Never been. He works everyday bring me his checks. I told him I'm not happy and that I was leaving him because we don't have sex and he just there. But he always begs me to stay. Tells me I can see whoever I want just don't leave him? Idk if I'm lucky or wtf. Then I think what can it hurt to have someone who let's u do whatever you want. But i want more. Well, welcome to the men, that Feminism created. A bootlick mangina, that is willing to sacrifice everything about himself, including his own self-respect, to keep a woman around. I would have curbed your ass, a long time ago. I would ask why you don't leave him, but I am confident we all know why, because we all know women LOVE free stacks of cash, especially when they don't have to work for them. And I would ask why you want more, but once again, you are a woman. We already know that no matter what we give you, you will NEVER be haply and always looks for a better deal.
3/29/2017 4:12:03 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
bumblebee7 Fort Payne, AL 62, joined Apr. 2011	OOookay here.... Lets see, he works and brings you home the checks. So, we have to assume that you don't work and piddle around all day. Of course the simple solution is to pack up and just leave him....the problem is how are you going to support yourself? Well, I guess a person could get on here and say...gee, I'm not getting any sex at home....then some dude will see that and start emailing you....and then if things work out...you can then leave the boyfriend and have a new one supporting you again. The problem is you'd be leading on the new guy while sneaking around on the old guy, until you clinch a new deal. But those are minor details and only to someone with a conscience, but we won't worry about that will we?
3/29/2017 4:15:19 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
bumblebee7 Fort Payne, AL 62, joined Apr. 2011	Yep...I do believe I hit the nail with the hammer...the op is unemployed with kids, Hang in there op....soon, another turkey will come along. and you'll be alright until you drive the new one nuts...then you can trade him in on a new one and so on.
3/29/2017 5:34:46 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
packersbabe920 Green Bay, WI 52, joined Jul. 2013	Op u don't want to leave either, cause u said he gives u his paychecksand u want us to believe u, girl u need to stop lying and this whole thread is BS [Edited 3/29/2017 5:36:21 PM ]
3/29/2017 5:35:47 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
packersbabe920 Green Bay, WI 52, joined Jul. 2013	Quote from bumblebee7: Yep...I do believe I hit the nail with the hammer...the op is unemployed with kids, Hang in there op....soon, another turkey will come along. and you'll be alright until you drive the new one nuts...then you can trade him in on a new one and so on. Exactly bee
3/29/2017 6:39:38 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
driver406 Saint Paul, MN 65, joined Oct. 2009	Quote from burt_hurt: Then leave yourself, seems simple enough. YES! If you are superior and dominant as a woman why let a worthless man dictate your life? Leave and don't come back, go to a sleazy bar this weekend and hump yourself around like a back alley whre! After 15 or 20 HUGH studs come inside you and you've yet to orgasm you'll start thinking things weren't so bad with your boyfriend after all. It's pretty rare to have a black boyfriend who actually has a job and is a hard worker. But toss him and act like some barnyard btch in heat and see if you can figure out who made you pregnant and how you'll get child support out of them.
3/29/2017 8:10:40 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
enigmaathand Leavittsburg, OH 36, joined Mar. 2013	Quote from driver406: YES! If you are superior and dominant as a woman why let a worthless man dictate your life? Leave and don't come back, go to a sleazy bar this weekend and hump yourself around like a back alley whre! After 15 or 20 HUGH studs come inside you and you've yet to orgasm you'll start thinking things weren't so bad with your boyfriend after all. It's pretty rare to have a black boyfriend who actually has a job and is a hard worker. But toss him and act like some barnyard btch in heat and see if you can figure out who made you pregnant and how you'll get child support out of them. It's the truth.
3/29/2017 10:10:00 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lareveur Loudon, TN 33, joined May. 2013	Quote from MzNoGames88: Why won't my boyfriend end things. We been together for a few years but we are not sexually active. Never been. He works everyday bring me his checks. I told him I'm not happy and that I was leaving him because we don't have sex and he just there. But he always begs me to stay. Tells me I can see whoever I want just don't leave him? Idk if I'm lucky or wtf. Then I think what can it hurt to have someone who let's u do whatever you want. But i want more. ^ I know someone who is in the same, exact situation you're in. The problem is that sex is only 10% of what is and (or) would be deemed as a "healthy relationship," but when the sex is completely cut off (even for prolonged periods of time) it evolves later into being 90% of your problems with self worth, attractiveness, desirability, trust and self esteem. If he tells you that you can see someone else, I would highly recommend that you find someone to be your new PRIMARY boyfriend, while making your sexless boyfriend the secondary boyfriend until he can get "back on his horse." Meaning - your new primary boyfriend gets most of your time (as he can better provide you what you need to feel desirable and whole again) while keeping your interaction with your sexless boyfriend to a bare minimum. If this issue of his is not a medical condition (meaning he can get hard, and everything works) it's just a psychological "not in the mood" issue - then you have every right to not be in the mood to suffer. There is such a thing as compromise, and if he won't even do the small intimate acts that have NOTHING to do with sex (such as cuddling while looking into each others eyes in deep conversation) at least 30 minutes per day...then you need to find a man who will give you the love, sex and intimacy you deserve. It sounds harsh, but it is a scientific fact that sex is a necessity. It is the highest leading cause of infidelity, divorce, etc... the list goes on. People on the receiving end of such a torturous relationship end up going into survival mode and numb themselves out until their depression becomes just a part of their newly accepted lives. This does not have to be you. Throw on some lace panties, photograph yourself and start experimenting with a man who gives enough of a shit to care about YOUR needs just as much as his with compromise. But it sounds like your boyfriend cares enough to compromise with you on 'finding someone else.' So, just focus on yourself and your needs. If he can't get out of his rut, that's not your problem. And if you end up falling in love with someone else? That's no one elses fault but his. Consider this your free, "get-out-of-jail" card.
3/29/2017 10:16:42 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
OrchideaPorpora BadraoMilan Italy 44, joined Feb. 2017	Quote from easttowest72: Sounds like the bf is sleeping around but comfortable with his home life. Sounds like she is feeling mor comfortable about it. He is the one giving her his check, and she accept that, despite the fact that she doesn't care about him as a partner. And she is also the one who wants to end things but pretend that he should be the one to take that decision for her. That's a childish and selfish woman if I ever saw one.
3/29/2017 10:56:41 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lareveur Loudon, TN 33, joined May. 2013	Quote from OrchideaPorpora: Sounds like she is feeling mor comfortable about it. He is the one giving her his check, and she accept that, despite the fact that she doesn't care about him as a partner. And she is also the one who wants to end things but pretend that he should be the one to take that decision for her. That's a childish and selfish woman if I ever saw one. So? What's wrong with being selfish? Selfishness is a virtue. Babies are selfish for a reason, toddlers are self centered for a reason, as are animals - only humans CONDITION themselves to the impossible standard of "avoiding" selfishness... you might as well avoid breathing. Selfishness is more than just a virtue, it is a natural instinct of survival. Same thing with love. You think loving others is far less selfish than loving yourself? Love is the most selfish thing in the world, because in order to be less selfish in loving someone else - you have to love yourSELF first because you can't give what you never had. I seriously think that selflessness is one of the first stages of hypocrisy...because it evolves with your surface saying one thing (externally to others) and your depth broadcasting something completely different... and before you know it - you become another typical human statistic of an individual who hypocritically contradicts their own conviction of self.
3/30/2017 12:31:42 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
enigmaathand Leavittsburg, OH 36, joined Mar. 2013	Quote from OrchideaPorpora: Sounds like she is feeling mor comfortable about it. He is the one giving her his check, and she accept that, despite the fact that she doesn't care about him as a partner. And she is also the one who wants to end things but pretend that he should be the one to take that decision for her. That's a childish and selfish woman if I ever saw one. And welcome to seeing how American women typically act, and why so many American men hate women, now.
3/30/2017 1:16:13 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lareveur Loudon, TN 33, joined May. 2013	The point is...is that depriving a partner you profess "to love" of sex (with no compensation, compromise or effort to immediately rectify the issue) is being just as neglectful, indifferent, contemptuous, demeaning, insulting, abusive and damaging as physical abuse (and sometimes even more damaging than physical abuse). The emotional pain, frustration and anguish can sometimes take far longer to heal than a simple bruise... Whatever reason or excuse the partner has for his / her lack of interest in sex is irrelevant, because the damage is done. Example: Say you blew up a house, and a few other properties as well - and your neighbors are grieving over their lost homes. It doesn't matter if the damage was done on purpose, by accident, or even if it was thought of as good intent. The bottom line is - the damage was done. Period. Saying it isn't "a big deal" isn't going to change the fact that millions of dollars worth of property was destroyed. The houses people needed to live in are now gone and the person who caused the damage must face the gravity and responsibility of his actions instead of just filling it with useless bullshit excuses "I couldn't help it / didn't mean to / only thought it would help later." The result is in, the damage is done - so of course the perceptions of the person receiving the damages (as opposed to giving the damages) will always clash with the unapologetic ahole trying to dodge owning up to his mistakes and the pain he caused. In my mind, this is GREATEST way to get your partner to not give a flying fk about you, your well-being or the relationship. On that front, the person being deprived of sex has no choice but to focus on the needs he / she is lacking - no matter of what it costs the person causing the problems in the first place. If the abusive partner needs to be sacrificed, then so be it. Let his retarded a pay the tab. If the sexless partner complains of cheating, infidelity, backstabbing, etc... it's still his problem. Don't like the cheating? Well, tough shit. He should have thought about that before he decided to abuse his partner by imposing his will of a sexless relationship and putting his partner in the unfair position of feeling unwanted, un-loved and undesirable. No one has the right to put someone through the abusive and painful decision of "Should I break up with him and be broken hearted, or continue to suffer through a sexless, loveless life?" If you're not making any compromise, or effort to immediately rectify the problem, the only person you have to blame for your partner's cheating on you is YOURSELF. I get sick and tired of the blatant stupidity of sheep. If you're a lion, act like one and claim what is rightfully yours. Or stay stupid by being loyal to a joke of a "lover" who couldn't give two flying fks about you or your needs. If he is at least willing to let you have a fk buddy while he sorts his shit out by himself, so he can return to being the man you fell in love with (intimate, loving, kind, loyal, etc..) then good for you...unless you find him getting a fk buddy on his own....then dump him because the whole reason (and ONLY reason) why you even agreed to get a fk buddy of your own in the first place, was because he claimed his sex drive was dead. How is it dead if he craves fking other women? That's a clear sign he was lying to you about his sex drive, and his sex drive was never really dead (it was just dead with you) hence his capability of fking other women but you. But if he isn't fking other women (while he makes the sacrifice in letting you fk other men because his sex drive is TRULY an issue), then he is honest, and a keeper in my book. He should not be fking other women (even while you have a fk buddy) because he should be working on getting his problematic sex drive back into gear. Once he gets his sex drive back, the only person he should be fking is you...which means you can go back to focusing on him as well. It's only fair. Anything else that deviates from that is pathetic bullshit.
3/30/2017 2:01:59 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
jason_in_tx Bryan, TX 33, joined Apr. 2013	Quote from burt_hurt: Then leave yourself, seems simple enough. She doesn't want the gravy train to stop.
3/30/2017 4:39:07 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
OrchideaPorpora BadraoMilan Italy 44, joined Feb. 2017	(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
3/30/2017 4:58:24 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
cupocheer Assumption, IL 68, joined May. 2010	he had to pee sometime, OP Be patient.
3/30/2017 6:57:51 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
bumblebee7 Fort Payne, AL 62, joined Apr. 2011	Quote from packersbabe920: Exactly bee you and I are the only ones who got it. it pays to be streetwise.
3/30/2017 6:59:28 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
cupocheer Assumption, IL 68, joined May. 2010	Good morning, Bee. Your coffee, sir.
3/30/2017 7:11:27 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
renee398 Chilhowie, VA 37, joined Jan. 2015	First off, never take a mans pay check, he will get tired of working hard and not having his money to show for it, if he gives you some for yourself, thats different.. Second, if both people love each other, then sex is not everything,you can find ways to please each other but in your case, you do not love him or you would not have made this thread...set him free, it may hurt him now, but it will help him in the long run... Jmo.
3/30/2017 7:15:25 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
cupocheer Assumption, IL 68, joined May. 2010	Have some coffee, Renee. It will work you up. So you used to be the type of spouse, significant other, partner that expected the man to work his booty off while you claimed his paycheck? So tell us, Renee, how much have you been able to horde? Did those kinds of your relationships last very long?
3/30/2017 7:37:53 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lareveur Loudon, TN 33, joined May. 2013	Quote from OrchideaPorpora: Bullshite! How is the OP in need of survival? She can leave the man she doesn't want to be with. Nobody is holding her except her fked up mind, and most probably her lazy bum. Survival my ass! You do realize that everything you just stated supports my statements of what selfishness really is, while pointlessly only picking on my paving statements (as opposed to my main points - which was in my concluding last paragraph)...So, basically - all you attacked was my paving statements and examples. So, you claim that selfishness is not a virtue at all, then state that she can just dump / leave her man (which would no doubt be at his expense to her self serving needs of breaking his heart, seeing as how he obviously is willing to let her find a fk buddy as a means of keeping her in the long term). She should leave a man if makes HER happy, regardless if breaking up with him could possibly devastate him... You're selfishly saying that she can (and possibly should) dump him to serve her own self serving needs of being happy? If you truly believed that selfishness is NOT a virtue, and being selfLESS is a far better virtue - then you would have supported her continuing to suffer for HIS way of life (which is a sexless relationship) with no regard to her own needs and suffering feelings. You even failed to perceive how you support selfishness by replying to my response of your comments - with the self serving goal of trying to be right in your attempts in getting me to "stand corrected." You weren't being selfless by displaying these emoticons: to my benefit (which is your weak attempts at ascribing a "crazy" personality to my replies (and ways of thinking) at what you would assume to be at my "expense." Oh, I know - how could anyone dare to challenge your opinions of the issue? All apologies to Orchidea... The reality is - is that selfishness can be found in everything that we do. If you buy makeup - that is a self serving act... which can be called "selfish." You spent $50 on cosmetics you didn't really need - when you could have used that money for the selfless act of giving it to a poor homeless wretch who could have used it for a meal he did need. So, if you really believe in being selfless you might want to stop buying cosmetics you don't need, and replying to people who have a different opinion. But seeing as how you only attacked my examples (instead of the real point found in the last paragraph) you basically only gave me intellectual "sawdust" which is as useless to me as it is pointless. My point was that trying to be selfless is one of the first stepping stones to hypocrisy - as it would require a denial of the self and the needs of the self (which to me is a sin)... and I believe I have proven that hypocrisy just by my observation of your so-called "rebuttals," but it's not like I ever expected an intelligent reply from you, anyway. I just selfishly get off on putting people in their place by showing them how reality works. So, you are most welcome lol. But hey - I am willing to give your selflessness a try - so, how about dinner and a movie...my treat (see, I am willing to pay for your steak dinner) out of the kindness of my heart.
3/30/2017 7:40:08 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
cupocheer Assumption, IL 68, joined May. 2010	Girlfriend, meet me at Scotties on the main drag. Well have coffee and discuss men leaving women.
3/30/2017 7:48:48 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lareveur Loudon, TN 33, joined May. 2013	Quote from cupocheer: Have some coffee, Renee. It will work you up. So you used to be the type of spouse, significant other, partner that expected the man to work his booty off while you claimed his paycheck? So tell us, Renee, how much have you been able to horde? Did those kinds of your relationships last very long? I have been wondering that myself, actually - because if it does end for them both. I will gladly take him (if I was single), and splash that coffee at you to get first dibs lol.
3/30/2017 7:52:15 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
renee398 Chilhowie, VA 37, joined Jan. 2015	maybe the man is having health issues and to much pride to talk about it, and if that is the problem, then maybe it makes him feel less about himself.. She should try to check just once to see if it gets hard, if it does, it works and therefore he maybe up to something no good..
3/30/2017 7:54:12 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
cupocheer Assumption, IL 68, joined May. 2010	Well, sista-- splash back is best done in tile OR granite... I already called first dibs You snooze, you lose.
3/30/2017 8:10:44 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lareveur Loudon, TN 33, joined May. 2013	Quote from cupocheer: Well, sista-- splash back is best done in tile OR granite... I already called first dibs You snooze, you lose. I snooze? You just described what my first morning will be like when I marry this man - because yes, I intend to snooze all day long, baby - YES!
3/30/2017 8:31:41 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
renee398 Chilhowie, VA 37, joined Jan. 2015	Me and my ex husband both worked, we both made a paycheck and we both bought things togeather, we planed our events togeather, we raise our children togeather, we both made mistakes, the last mistake made was one that i could not handle, our relationship as partners lasted 10 years,we still have a friendship and we will always be parents...he never used me nor i him...but he did fall in love with someone else..that was our fate..
3/30/2017 8:48:23 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 24, joined Jan. 2016	Ok how about, these questions will or should help you decide what to do: 1. Do you love him? (sometimes love can be enough with other things to stick together and work on it) 2. Are you more happy in the relationship or more unhappy in the relationship on average? (If you're more unhappy in the relationship aka feeling sad about it, lots of worrying about it, constant fights, why continue it? why fight for something that makes you unhappy?). 3. What is the chance that things CAN be fixed? (in some cases the issue isn't that big of a thing that requires difficult behavioral changes aka something like drug addiction is much harder while something like swearing is easier). 4. IF things don't change (which they probably won't), envision the future where it is exactly the same, do you want that? I usually think of things analyzing them as they are now and assuming they will be the same in the future in terms of issues and unwanted behavior etc. Bad to analyses it based on IF change will take place because it probably won't and it's unfair on both people to hang it over their head and demand change and have it not happen. It's just stressful and really if you're unhappy in the relationship now, what makes you think you somehow magically WILL be happy in the future? Can you figure the issue out, are you both willing to make sacrifices and work hard for each-other? A lot aren't or can't for various reasons
3/30/2017 8:56:12 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 58, joined May. 2009	Nice, Sienna ^^^ OP, you've never had sex in your relationship? You live together and he takes care of all the bills? But you are not sexually intimate with each other? Has he ever talked with you about why? Is it a health issue? To me, the worst issue would be that he wouldn't talk with me about it. I mean, not having sex ever would be an issue, but if he could be emotionally intimate with me and discuss it, no matter how embarrassing and uncomfortable, we could deal with it. If everything else was good, if we could be open with each other, then that problem could be dealt with.
3/30/2017 9:55:51 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
jinxthejuvy11 Philadelphia, PA 50, joined Aug. 2014	Quote from MzNoGames88: Why won't my boyfriend end things. We been together for a few years but we are not sexually active. Never been. He works everyday bring me his checks. I told him I'm not happy and that I was leaving him because we don't have sex and he just there. But he always begs me to stay. Tells me I can see whoever I want just don't leave him? Idk if I'm lucky or wtf. Then I think what can it hurt to have someone who let's u do whatever you want. But i want more. Obviously your so-called man is Soft or maybe even be a f*ggot so Ima tell you what they told me...if You got a lemon squeeze it! But even that s#!T gets old
3/30/2017 10:48:52 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
burt_hurt Beverly Hills, CA 37, joined Jan. 2017	lareveur and her long winded responses. All I hear is nom nom nom nom.
3/30/2017 10:49:58 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
cupocheer Assumption, IL 68, joined May. 2010	Burt, did I ever tell you the exact moment I fell in love with you?
3/30/2017 11:45:50 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
dr_i_got_answer Gwynn Oak, MD 50, joined Jun. 2014	He won't leave bcuz he's IN CHARGE! He did a very good job at letting you believe you have choices but you don't. You will do WHAT he day, HOW he say and WHEN he say do it too. Bcuz he have more control over you than you have over yourself. Don't feel bad thou bcuz most women do exactly what your doing. That's why you're asking "Why can my man make my choice for me instead of me making it myself?"
3/30/2017 11:48:06 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
dr_i_got_answer Gwynn Oak, MD 50, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from burt_hurt: Then leave yourself, seems simple enough. Bcuz she gave him the power to make her choices for her and HE hasn't decided he's tired yet.
3/30/2017 11:49:29 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
dr_i_got_answer Gwynn Oak, MD 50, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from stupidasssienna: Just leave him if you don't want to be with him. Maybe she's just stupid like you are.
3/30/2017 11:53:04 AM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
dr_i_got_answer Gwynn Oak, MD 50, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from burt_hurt: Btw, if the only problem is him not having sex with you have you thought about losing 30lbs or so? maybe then he would. That's bcuz women have been brainwashed to believe that men are so "Hard Up" they can just look HOWEVER and we're suppose to just accept it. A classic example of how women think with what's between their legs.
3/30/2017 12:00:04 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
korbyn Bat Cave, NC 98, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from lareveur: You do realize that everything you just stated supports my statements of what selfishness really is, while pointlessly only picking on my paving statements (as opposed to my main points - which was in my concluding last paragraph)...So, basically - all you attacked was my paving statements and examples. So, you claim that selfishness is not a virtue at all, then state that she can just dump / leave her man (which would no doubt be at his expense to her self serving needs of breaking his heart, seeing as how he obviously is willing to let her find a f**k buddy as a means of keeping her in the long term). She should leave a man if makes HER happy, regardless if breaking up with him could possibly devastate him... You're selfishly saying that she can (and possibly should) dump him to serve her own self serving needs of being happy? If you truly believed that selfishness is NOT a virtue, and being selfLESS is a far better virtue - then you would have supported her continuing to suffer for HIS way of life (which is a sexless relationship) with no regard to her own needs and suffering feelings. You even failed to perceive how you support selfishness by replying to my response of your comments - with the self serving goal of trying to be right in your attempts in getting me to "stand corrected." You weren't being selfless by displaying these emoticons: to my benefit (which is your weak attempts at ascribing a "crazy" personality to my replies (and ways of thinking) at what you would assume to be at my "expense." Oh, I know - how could anyone dare to challenge your opinions of the issue? All apologies to Orchidea... The reality is - is that selfishness can be found in everything that we do. If you buy makeup - that is a self serving act... which can be called "selfish." You spent $50 on cosmetics you didn't really need - when you could have used that money for the selfless act of giving it to a poor homeless wretch who could have used it for a meal he did need. So, if you really believe in being selfless you might want to stop buying cosmetics you don't need, and replying to people who have a different opinion. But seeing as how you only attacked my examples (instead of the real point found in the last paragraph) you basically only gave me intellectual "sawdust" which is as useless to me as it is pointless. My point was that trying to be selfless is one of the first stepping stones to hypocrisy - as it would require a denial of the self and the needs of the self (which to me is a sin)... and I believe I have proven that hypocrisy just by my observation of your so-called "rebuttals," but it's not like I ever expected an intelligent reply from you, anyway. I just selfishly get off on putting people in their place by showing them how reality works. So, you are most welcome lol. But hey - I am willing to give your selflessness a try - so, how about dinner and a movie...my treat (see, I am willing to pay for your steak dinner) out of the kindness of my heart. wow.
3/30/2017 12:12:59 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 24, joined Jan. 2016	Quote from dr_i_got_answer: That's bcuz women have been brainwashed to believe that men are so "Hard Up" they can just look HOWEVER and we're suppose to just accept it. A classic example of how women think with what's between their legs. pretty sure thinking with what is between their legs is what men do
3/30/2017 12:52:58 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
enigmaathand Leavittsburg, OH 36, joined Mar. 2013	Quote from cupocheer: Have some coffee, Renee. It will work you up. So you used to be the type of spouse, significant other, partner that expected the man to work his booty off while you claimed his paycheck? So tell us, Renee, how much have you been able to horde? Did those kinds of your relationships last very long? Wrong. Renee busts her ass, everyday, and works for her living. She said "Do NOT take a man's whole paycheck." Re-Read her quote.
3/30/2017 2:53:04 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
renee398 Chilhowie, VA 37, joined Jan. 2015	My grandfather did that, he worked very hard from daylight til dark, he brought home his money to my granny, the man never complained,and we never went without the things we needed but i always felt like my granddad deserved more than what he got from us..sure he got things he needed and wanted but it seemed like he never wanted much.i started working as soon as i was big enough to know how..when i was 8 my first paycheck was .50 to $1. An hour depending on if i was moving calves and cows or if i was working tobacco, but i was happy with that, as i got older,my checks got bigger and i stayed by my grandads side working until i left home..the point is.for man and woman there is pride in working and shareing with the ones you love.
3/30/2017 4:22:53 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
enigmaathand Leavittsburg, OH 36, joined Mar. 2013	Today's women only care to shatter male pride. They only care about what they can take from us, and discard us as soon as we no longer hand them free stacks of cash. OP is a living, breathing example that what I say is true.
3/30/2017 4:41:53 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
MzNoGames88 Philadelphia, PA 29, joined Nov. 2015	I'm employed and when I'm not I still bring in money. Money is no issue for either of us.I think the real reason I don't leave is because i am able to do whatever I want. And at the end of the day I know that there is nothing he won't do for me and I think maybe it will get better. However lol yall always try to hate.I like constructive criticism but your opinion does not matter. And all girls not content with just getting checks especially if they get they own money ?? if I am cheating or not is not important either because he would never know even though he has agreed to an open relationship a long time ago. Nobody suggested him being gay as I suspected. Lol even though he has opened the relationship I do not cheat maybe for some adult conversation but that's about it for now anyway. ????????
3/30/2017 4:57:25 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
renee398 Chilhowie, VA 37, joined Jan. 2015	I do not understand,,if he is gay then how could he be in love enough to beg you to stay? And why stay if theres no love?
3/30/2017 5:05:13 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
packersbabe920 Green Bay, WI 52, joined Jul. 2013	Quote from bumblebee7: you and I are the only ones who got it. it pays to be streetwise. I certainly agree
3/30/2017 5:51:29 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
OrchideaPorpora BadraoMilan Italy 44, joined Feb. 2017	Quote from renee398: I do not understand,,if he is gay then how could he be in love enough to beg you to stay? And why stay if theres no love? cause she's telling a lot of bull.
3/30/2017 5:57:44 PM	My boyfriend won't leave me.
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 58, joined May. 2009	His name isn't Sheldon, is it?

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