| 5/12/2017 5:10:03 AM |
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glenna13
Cottondale, AL
52, joined Mar. 2013
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Ok MY ??? TO EVERYONE!!!
I WANT TO KNOW IF A WOMAN WHO HAS HEALTH RELATED ISSUES,& SHE MEETS HER NEW COMPANION, SHOULD HE STAY AROUND, KNOWING HER HEALTH IS BAD, BUT HAS 2ND THOUGHTS ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP?
ALSO: IF YOU MEET A GUY YOU REALLY LIKE,SHOULD I TELL Any NEW POTENTIAL MATE UP FRONT I HAVE HEALTH ISSUES( IN MY CASE IF I DON'T LET THEM KNOW AHEAD OF TIME IT COULD BE A PROBLEM LATER)BUT IT COULD ALSO SCARE THEM OFF?
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| 5/12/2017 5:15:27 AM |
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sassyisinked
Victoria
Australia
51, joined Apr. 2017
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Firstly there is no need to write in capital letters .. that means you're shouting on the forums .. lol
You can still date ... but I Guess its wise to talk about your health issues especially if they are serious ....Some men it will bother others maybe not ..... If he doesn't stick around because of your health well that that and not much you can do ... just dont give up
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| 5/12/2017 6:59:52 AM |
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testsignup
Springfield, VA
63, joined Sep. 2009
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One of the most basic conundrums of mate hunting has always been that people have "concerns" that they know will make some people run away, but at the same time, they realize that sometimes they themselves would actually be okay with someone who was "defective," after they get to know them better.
Simple answer: it's a straight up gamble. Lay your cards on the table up front, and gamble that the other person might instantly reject you, or maybe even take your honesty as a form of aggression; or hide your worries until later, and gamble that the other person might consider that to have been an act of duplicity and dump you, even though they actually CAN get along with the problem.
And every now and then, everything does work out, and the person who wasn't warned, does stick around anyway. So it really is just another gamble for you to make, and accept the consequences of, whatever they are.
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| 5/12/2017 7:29:18 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
24, joined Jan. 2016
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Be honest. No one appreciates someone being dishonest especially so early into getting to know them.
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| 5/12/2017 8:55:42 AM |
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playingindirt
Eugene, OR
61, joined Mar. 2014
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be real with yourself. be realistic about how much you can do and what you are capable of. doing that will make your choice in a man more realistic and compatible according to your health and his as well.
[Edited 5/12/2017 8:56:39 AM ]
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| 5/12/2017 9:23:19 AM |
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de_aardbei
Montreal, QC
35, joined Mar. 2017
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I have been in pain for weeks now. Omg. Im fed up!!
Eta: And i feel like it's affecting my sunny disposition.
[Edited 5/12/2017 9:24:27 AM ]
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| 5/12/2017 3:22:19 PM |
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rubyrose2015
Seagrove, NC
98, joined Sep. 2015
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I don't feel it is any of their business, unless you feel you two are getting serious with each other.
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| 5/12/2017 7:18:32 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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Op those capital letters blinded me, Now what were u saying?
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| 5/12/2017 7:22:46 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
52, joined Jul. 2013
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I don't feel it is any of their business, unless you feel you two are getting serious with each other.
Right
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| 5/12/2017 10:42:24 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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You're only 52, OPie! What kind of healthcare do you have in Alabama? I've already had a bypass (5 years ago) and lived to tell the tale.
If your health is bad then bring it up during the Q&A session on the first date. Be upfront about it so he knows what to expect if you both want a second date. The guy ought to do the same thing. This applies more to the seasoned citizen as young people are much less likely to have health problems while they are breeding like rabbits. Be upfront on whether or not you even want sex. I imagine most seasoned citizens could care less about it. We've got nothing to show off and nothing anybody wants to see! If you have a lot of complications from kids and grandkids and great grandkids bring that up too. He may not want to deal with kids again especially if the game is on. Just be upfront about your issues and expect the same out of him.
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| 5/12/2017 10:43:39 PM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
89, joined Jun. 2016
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She's typing in capitals because she's old
and she think's we're all deaf too.
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| 5/12/2017 10:45:03 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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Certainly you may scare some of the guys off but that's what dating is all about, separating the ones you may want to have a future with from the ones who just aren't a good match even though they are decent and otherwise good men.
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| 5/12/2017 10:47:33 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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She's typing in capitals because she's old
and she think's we're all deaf too.
I guess if you're 89 Mercedes you'd know all about that! I SAID IF YOU'RE REALLY 89 MERCEDES YOU'D KNOW ALL ABOUT THAT!!!!
Oh I give up! It's like talking to my father! 
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| 5/12/2017 10:54:22 PM |
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stratus55
Jackson, GA
51, joined Jan. 2017
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if your close at all it will be there business,or..you can have no heart,an leave them alone,not caring at all..but dont come near me.......... 
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| 5/13/2017 1:48:17 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010
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It would depend on the woman and the health problems. By that I mean, are the health problems such that she has a low quality of life, and how much they hinder her.
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| 5/13/2017 11:20:52 AM |
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orz
Portage, WI
67, joined Jul. 2010
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Depends on what the issue is. HIV or venereal disease would be a major issue. Being terminal also. People have different views of what they are willing to deal with. I knew a woman who married a blind man. Couple who stayed together through 7 miscarriages. Look around and there are people who marry amputees, conjoined twins, wheelchair bound. And then there are those who freak at hang nails.
That first real date is the time to casually bring into the convo that you deal with a health issue. No need to elaborate..just mention. IE...I need to be careful what I order to eat due to my...diabetes/crones/BP..what ever. IE....I may seem a bit tired. I just had chemo a couple days ago.
Someone interested in you will be curious for details. And you can ask "You seem to be pretty fit?" And if you never hear from them again...so be it.
I cared for an invalid husband for 20 years til he died. I now am getting to the time in MY life where I may have issues. Do I want to take on someone and fall in love and be a caregiver again? Do I want to lose someone again? No. Will I if my guy gets ill. Yes. Be super hard now but, if it happens..it does. But, refuse to take on issues up front with someone I just met.
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| 5/13/2017 11:34:38 AM |
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w6o6l6f_1
Richmond, VA
39, joined May. 2014
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| 5/13/2017 12:07:58 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
55, joined May. 2011
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It's best to get into relationship with both eyes open.
Tell them up front. That is what a decent person would do.
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| 5/14/2017 5:04:03 AM |
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aintmyb_tch
Ponchatoula, LA
97, joined Aug. 2015
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Ok MY ??? TO EVERYONE!!!
I WANT TO KNOW IF A WOMAN WHO HAS HEALTH RELATED ISSUES,& SHE MEETS HER NEW COMPANION, SHOULD HE STAY AROUND, KNOWING HER HEALTH IS BAD, BUT HAS 2ND THOUGHTS ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP?
ALSO: IF YOU MEET A GUY YOU REALLY LIKE,SHOULD I TELL Any NEW POTENTIAL MATE UP FRONT I HAVE HEALTH ISSUES( IN MY CASE IF I DON'T LET THEM KNOW AHEAD OF TIME IT COULD BE A PROBLEM LATER)BUT IT COULD ALSO SCARE THEM OFF?
So herpes causes you to use all caps huh?
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| 5/14/2017 9:16:58 PM |
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sarahgoldsmith
Chantilly, VA
46, joined Jan. 2014
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You have to be upfront & honest. Let him decide if he wants to be with you or not. He will appreciate it that you're honest with him.
You wouldn't like it if he lied to you. So don't lie to him. Don't start out the relationship with a lie. As partners, you should be honest with each other. There should be no lies between you two. Your partner is your family, you should be able to trust each other. If there is no trust, it's not going to work. You should be able to trust each other & talk to each other about anything.
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| 5/16/2017 3:06:31 AM |
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glenna13
Cottondale, AL
52, joined Mar. 2013
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Thank you for the responses. I never knew that writing in capitals was a problem..BUT OK!!! I dont have any bfs the one person i was married too over 20 yrs ago, became mean with words. I'm old fashion to a point.More so since I been living by myself. But I work most of my kids life and & the my health was off on bad while working but since I turn in my 50's it started.going backwards, Diabetes, is the major cause of HEALTH....So I try to date & got in relationship and he became bossy with words.. I left him...i met a few guys here & there but they were not up front of why they were single until I met the family that ended that......'CRAZY'..I WORKED WITH PPL WHO HAD COGNITIVE DISABILITIES, I DIDN'T SAY I REALLY WANTED TO DATE ONE, AT THE TIME IT WAS AGAINST. OUR POLICY AT WORK NOT TOO.
BUT I'M STILL HIS FRIEND..
THEN THERE WAS A FRIEND THAT WAS HOOKED ON OPIOID,RD MEDS
THAT WASN'T REAL FUN HE DIED 3 MONTHS AFTER I QUIT SEEING HIM....
SO SINCE THEN I HAD A BRIEF BF IN 2015 HE WAS A FREELOADER LIAR & THIEF, I KICKED HIM TO THE CURB...BUT WHEN I MET HIM HE WAS WORKING...SO MY TROUBLES WITH MEN I ATTRACT THE WRONG ONES...IT ALSO COULD BE THE FACT I'M A BBW & 6'4 WOMAN WHO KNOWS....SO NOW Y'ALL TELL ME WHERE TO LOOK.
I AGREE TO DISAGREE TO THE FACT I MIGHT BE OLD MERCEDES, BUT I'M WISER THAN YOU ARE...I KNOW THE ROPES I JUST STOP THE BS...AND LIVING MY LIFE.... THE WEATHER IN BAMA IS IN THE LOWS 80'S IT GOT BUT THE HUMIDITY ISN'T SO SO HIGH YET...THE SUMMERS ARE BREATHLESS...NEED WATER, & A/C ALL TIMES......
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| 5/16/2017 3:08:05 AM |
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Mercedes_3
New South Wales
Australia
89, joined Jun. 2016
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| 5/16/2017 11:48:21 AM |
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orz
Portage, WI
67, joined Jul. 2010
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Did you see the gal who married herself. She said tired of people asking her when she was going to marry.So came up with sologamy to fit and said she married herself. Guess new term to spinster. I see this stage of life as a time when you can be single or couple and whatever you darn well please. Been there and done that and now no ones biz how we live. When you met a guy who is a jerk...move on and tell him to go to hell. You dont NEED him.
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| 5/16/2017 11:59:23 AM |
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aintmyb_tch
Ponchatoula, LA
97, joined Aug. 2015
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Thank you for the responses. I never knew that writing in capitals was a problem..BUT OK!!!
NOW THAT YOU KNOW, WHY ARE YOU CONTINUING TO DO IT?
I dont have any bfs the one person i was married too over 20 yrs ago, became mean with words. I'm old fashion to a point.More so since I been living by myself. But I work most of my kids life and & the my health was off on bad while working but since I turn in my 50's it started.going backwards, Diabetes, is the major cause of HEALTH....So I try to date & got in relationship and he became bossy with words.. I left him...i met a few guys here & there but they were not up front of why they were single until I met the family that ended that......'CRAZY'..I WORKED WITH PPL WHO HAD COGNITIVE DISABILITIES, I DIDN'T SAY I REALLY WANTED TO DATE ONE, AT THE TIME IT WAS AGAINST. OUR POLICY AT WORK NOT TOO.
BUT I'M STILL HIS FRIEND..
THEN THERE WAS A FRIEND THAT WAS HOOKED ON OPIOID,RD MEDS
THAT WASN'T REAL FUN HE DIED 3 MONTHS AFTER I QUIT SEEING HIM....
SO SINCE THEN I HAD A BRIEF BF IN 2015 HE WAS A FREELOADER LIAR & THIEF, I KICKED HIM TO THE CURB...BUT WHEN I MET HIM HE WAS WORKING...SO MY TROUBLES WITH MEN I ATTRACT THE WRONG ONES...IT ALSO COULD BE THE FACT I'M A BBW & 6'4 WOMAN WHO KNOWS....SO NOW Y'ALL TELL ME WHERE TO LOOK.
I AGREE TO DISAGREE TO THE FACT I MIGHT BE OLD MERCEDES, BUT I'M WISER THAN YOU ARE...I KNOW THE ROPES I JUST STOP THE BS...AND LIVING MY LIFE.... THE WEATHER IN BAMA IS IN THE LOWS 80'S IT GOT BUT THE HUMIDITY ISN'T SO SO HIGH YET...THE SUMMERS ARE BREATHLESS...NEED WATER, & A/C ALL TIMES......
and don't write a novel about your dating life on here, people will use that against you, and nobody asked for the details/ and seriously everything you typed there indicates you cannot follow a coherent thought without jumping to something else!
Oh look a Squirrel~~~~~>>>
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| 5/16/2017 1:13:56 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
55, joined May. 2011
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WHERE? I DON'T SEE NO SQUIRREL!
DID THAT SQUIRREL STEAL MY GLASSES? 
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| 5/16/2017 1:56:44 PM |
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easttowest72
Bremen, GA
45, joined Sep. 2014
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I've found that people in there 40's are having health issues. Some are minor but some very serious. Some people try to hide it or sugar coat it. Just be honest because there is a chance the guy will have health issues also.
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