| 4/15/2012 11:08:14 PM |
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daretobeyou
Fishers, IN
37, joined Nov. 2010
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We all have pet peeves. What are some of yours as it relates to being in a relationship? For me...my "pet peeves that'll make me leave a relationship" are:
1. He loses his charm (you know...that suave demeanor that tickled my senses and my heart?)
2. Nagging or fighting (either way...it grates on my nerves and reduces romantic and sensual closeness. Playful banter is one thing, occassional disagreements are to be expected. But CONSTANT??? Ugh...I might as well stay away and grab a beer or shot of whiskey with my friends to unwind. Peace...baby...peace and love is what I want to receive after a long day at work. NOT nagging! Lol)
3. He stops "putting out" daily and on the regular (Look....I don't care if we're not seeing "eye to eye" that day. I'm horny, I'm in a committed relationship with you...so compartmentalize like I can, so that we can at least "share a moment physically" even if we are at odds emotionally or mentally. I can compartmentalize love and sex. Lol Love in sex is great! Yet there will be days you don't feel very "loving" to your significant other. This is normal. All I'm saying is it shouldn't effect the bedroom. When it does...real problems set in)
So there's my main pet peeve list. Yours?
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| 4/15/2012 11:13:57 PM |
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bill_f79
Lowell, MA
35, joined Feb. 2012
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I've learned that if you live together, separate bathrooms are a MUST. I haven't found a self retracting toilet seat yet and I don't need feminine hygiene products in my medicine cabinet. lol
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| 4/15/2012 11:29:42 PM |
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gingerbread_red
Saint Paul, MN
38, joined Mar. 2012
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her trying to tell me how to drive a car.
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| 4/15/2012 11:40:13 PM |
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daretobeyou
Fishers, IN
37, joined Nov. 2010
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@ Bill...I agree. Not sure about living with a man though lol It would take some getting used to. Had my own place for about ten years now. I do enjoy love and relationships...but also relish my alone timwle and sending them home after the loving sex is over. lol (Yes! I do allow the man I'm involved with to sleep over. Occassionally 
@ Gingerbread...so very true!
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| 4/16/2012 12:26:46 AM |
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tonic451
Saint Marys, GA
34, joined Aug. 2011
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My biggest pet peeve is lack of good communication or shutting me out. The other big one is when the woman I'm with, avoids arguments, debates or topics of potential conflict. I rather just get it out of the way instead of avoid and hope it might go away. I understand needing to cool down but not running away from it. The other one is not having enough sex on a regular basis.
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| 4/16/2012 12:43:20 AM |
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ladyvirtue1955
Redding, CA
96, joined Aug. 2009
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Having a stubburn partner that doesn't listen. bad communication. a man without compassion.
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| 4/16/2012 12:50:02 AM |
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onlinealias
Austin, TX
57, joined Mar. 2012
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If something bugs me I speak up. That is a part of getting along. People make adjustments for each other.
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| 4/16/2012 1:48:23 AM |
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sm94403
San Mateo, CA
49, joined Feb. 2012
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I can't stand it when a man comes over and acts like he owns my place, and forgets that he is a guest. I think if I ever have to live with a man again, I need my own bathroom. The crap they leave behind in the sink and loose toenails on the floor are awful, as is sitting on a cold bowl and feeling water on your cheeks because some douche bag forgot to put the seat down. 
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| 4/16/2012 1:57:31 AM |
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katrinasq
Mena, AR
48, joined Jul. 2008
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I guess some of mine would be:
1. Being ignored so he can watch TV, play video games, or be on the computer all the time
2. Constant insults/attacks/antagonism designed to pick an argument so the insults/attacks/antagonism can continue.
3. Not respecting my house/car/furniture. I've worked hard for what I have, so don't leave crumbs, stains and messes all over my stuff.
4. Being insulting about how I am raising my kids. They are both good kids; one an excellent student that's planning to go to a gifted high school for her last two years and the other an excellent athlete and decent young man.
5. Apathy about me and the relationship.
I guess all of the above boils down to not respecting me enough.
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| 4/16/2012 6:11:43 AM |
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geesmobile
Indianapolis, IN
47, joined Oct. 2011
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Thinking we in Love after the first date.
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| 4/16/2012 7:40:42 AM |
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rocknrolloutlaw
Pittsfield, MA
45, joined Apr. 2012
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chaging their midn, going back on their word, trust issues, out of control children, unappreciativeness
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| 4/16/2012 8:01:05 AM |
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iitsfoxxy
Saint Paul, MN
25, joined Apr. 2012
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My pet peeve is when a man is being rude to a waiter or people he doesn't even know regardless of the situation . The way he treats people he doesnt even know is the way he's going to treat you!
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| 4/16/2012 9:00:29 AM |
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scotty7777dog
Miami, FL
48, joined Mar. 2012
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I hate the silent treatment. I think it is cowardly. I need a man who can be confronted and still respond to me with respect. Ignoring someone is just plain controlling.
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| 4/16/2012 9:05:41 AM |
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rocknrolloutlaw
Pittsfield, MA
45, joined Apr. 2012
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that's funny cause women are the queens of the silent treatment, especially when they know they're wrong, they won't admit it.
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| 4/16/2012 9:14:39 AM |
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jrbogie1949
Ventura, CA
67, joined Mar. 2009
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no pet peeves here. 
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| 4/16/2012 9:50:34 AM |
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smokymtngirl43
Sevierville, TN
48, joined Mar. 2012
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My biggest pet peeve is lack of good communication or shutting me out.
 Same here.
*Being rude, whether it be to me or others in general.
*Constant arguing/nagging..every relationships have issues that arise, but discuss them, find a common ground, and move on.
*Being selfish and unwilling to compromise
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| 4/16/2012 9:54:56 AM |
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mr_imperfect
Melrose Park, IL
54, joined Sep. 2011
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We all have pet peeves. What are some of yours as it relates to being in a relationship? For me...my "pet peeves that'll make me leave a relationship" are:
1. He loses his charm (you know...that suave demeanor that tickled my senses and my heart?)
2. Nagging or fighting (either way...it grates on my nerves and reduces romantic and sensual closeness. Playful banter is one thing, occassional disagreements are to be expected. But CONSTANT??? Ugh...I might as well stay away and grab a beer or shot of whiskey with my friends to unwind. Peace...baby...peace and love is what I want to receive after a long day at work. NOT nagging! Lol)
3. He stops "putting out" daily and on the regular (Look....I don't care if we're not seeing "eye to eye" that day. I'm horny, I'm in a committed relationship with you...so compartmentalize like I can, so that we can at least "share a moment physically" even if we are at odds emotionally or mentally. I can compartmentalize love and sex. Lol Love in sex is great! Yet there will be days you don't feel very "loving" to your significant other. This is normal. All I'm saying is it shouldn't effect the bedroom. When it does...real problems set in)
So there's my main pet peeve list. Yours?
People who think it is perfectly acceptable when they have decided they are no longer happy with you to seek their next partner before they have ended it with you.
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| 4/16/2012 10:15:36 AM |
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rocknrolloutlaw
Pittsfield, MA
45, joined Apr. 2012
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when i have no control whatsoever, and everything is what the woman wants, when she wants it.
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| 4/16/2012 11:05:14 AM |
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pingiluv
Albuquerque, NM
33, joined Feb. 2012
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PDA
Lack of enthusiasms for sex or willingness to learn
No communication
Disrespect for others especially minorities
Lack of personal hygiene
I am very picky my list goes on and on...
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| 4/16/2012 11:09:20 AM |
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mr_imperfect
Melrose Park, IL
54, joined Sep. 2011
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PDA
Lack of enthusiasms for sex or willingness to learn
No communication
Disrespect for others especially minorities
Lack of personal hygiene
I am very picky my list goes on and on...
So you don't like PDA"s? I can understand the people who are practically f**king in public but I see nothing wrong with a sweet gentle kiss or holding hands or putting your arm around each others waist in public. If a female I was with didn't even like that it would make me feel as if she was ashamed for the world to know I was her boyfriend.
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| 4/16/2012 11:21:29 AM |
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pingiluv
Albuquerque, NM
33, joined Feb. 2012
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I take being gropped in public as a lack of respect in my partners eyes...just me...
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| 4/16/2012 11:25:16 AM |
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mr_imperfect
Melrose Park, IL
54, joined Sep. 2011
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I take being gropped in public as a lack of respect in my partners eyes...just me...
Groped is on thing Hand holding or walking with your arm around each other's waist is not groping
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| 4/16/2012 11:27:42 AM |
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fyihotchic4
Monticello, IN
43, joined Mar. 2012
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NOT Helping Out With The Dishes!!!!!!
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| 4/17/2012 6:19:52 AM |
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dudefromtex
Mesquite, TX
60, joined Jan. 2012
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that's funny cause women are the queens of the silent treatment, especially when they know they're wrong, they won't admit it.
yep
...and leaving the cap off the toothpaste
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| 4/17/2012 6:44:05 AM |
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teawithsugar
Pittsburgh, PA
58, joined Oct. 2010
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yep
...and leaving the cap off the toothpaste
Buy the toothpaste in a bottle with a flip top lid. Problem solved.
Wait...then what would you b*tch about? 
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| 4/17/2012 7:05:28 AM |
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afrosirene
Brooklyn, NY
40, joined Dec. 2010
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1. A man who is constantly on his monthly cycle. Moodiness for me, is a huge turnoff!
2. Folding my bed pillows in half. This drives me nuts.
3. A passive-aggressive personality is a huge turn-off. A man who has the 'balls' to tell you when you're wrong when it's merited is a huge turn on!
4. Laying on my bed without showering after a game of b-ball.
5. Stink feet.
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| 4/17/2012 7:08:39 AM |
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maniacmassager
Lawrence, MA
51, joined Mar. 2008
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Bad hygiene 
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| 4/17/2012 7:11:06 AM |
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stilkikin
Lexington, KY
61, joined Feb. 2012
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not petting my dog 
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| 4/17/2012 7:55:12 AM |
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afrosirene
Brooklyn, NY
40, joined Dec. 2010
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Another pet peeve....
#6...Men who call you constantly...with absolutely nothing to converse about.
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| 4/17/2012 8:01:59 AM |
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rocknrolloutlaw
Pittsfield, MA
45, joined Apr. 2012
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b*tch about women #154 lol...when they insist they know what I'm thinking, and they're wrong.
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| 4/17/2012 5:10:00 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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her trying to tell me how to drive a car.
And I drive for a living!
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| 4/17/2012 5:10:58 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I'm watching TV!
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| 4/17/2012 5:11:38 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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when i have no control whatsoever, and everything is what the woman wants, when she wants it.
And she STILL isn't satisfied!
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| 4/17/2012 5:14:04 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
65, joined Oct. 2009
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NOT Helping Out With The Dishes!!!!!!
You don't understand! He knows it is VITAL that the dishwasher be loaded YOUR way so he's staying out of the way so you can do it your way. He'd only screw it up and you'd have to come fix it.
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| 4/17/2012 5:22:28 PM |
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rocknrolloutlaw
Pittsfield, MA
45, joined Apr. 2012
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SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! I'm watching TV!
as she interrupts the TV to make frequent comments whenever she wants.
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| 4/17/2012 5:49:10 PM |
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gingerbread_red
Saint Paul, MN
38, joined Mar. 2012
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And I drive for a living!
and it is a manual. She was commenting about cruising in neutral, apparently it was not natural to cruise in neutral. her father did not cruise in neutral==> divorce. 
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| 4/17/2012 6:01:25 PM |
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ctr916
Roseville, CA
54, joined Aug. 2011
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i haven't been in one for so long, i forgot. i may need to do some research.
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| 4/17/2012 6:45:35 PM |
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fearless8841
North Pole, AK
43, joined Jan. 2012
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Two words: Toilet paper.
Dear God, why is it every man I've ever met, including my DAD, had absolutely no idea how to put it on the damn roll? It doesn't take a degree in physics.......
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| 4/17/2012 7:19:28 PM |
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stringopearls
Huron, SD
60, joined Jul. 2009
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I tend to stay in a relationship until the other person indicates he wants me gone. However, spending time with another woman when I was on complete bed rest and not being willing to help me get to a Dr. when I was having a miscarriage with his baby was a breaking point for me. He knew I needed a ride to the hospital, and told me I would have to find someone else. Not sure why he thought I was wrong for moving out after getting out of the hospital.
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| 4/17/2012 7:28:29 PM |
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pantera19666
Salem, AL
27, joined Feb. 2012
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I cannot stand any form of nagging none zero zip ...that shit drives me BANNAS
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| 4/18/2012 10:06:40 AM |
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donnyji
Orland Park, IL
35, joined Sep. 2011
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lying, cheating, trust issues, and lack of communication
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| 4/18/2012 10:21:02 AM |
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nottyelle
Ocala, FL
62, joined Mar. 2012
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"pet peeves that'll make me leave a relationship" are:
2. Nagging or fighting (either way...it grates on my nerves and reduces romantic and sensual closeness. Playful banter is one thing, occassional disagreements are to be expected. But CONSTANT??? Ugh...I might as well stay away and grab a beer or shot of whiskey with my friends to unwind. Peace...baby...peace and love is what I want to receive after a long day at work. NOT nagging! Lol)
3. He stops "putting out" daily and on the regular (Look....I don't care if we're not seeing "eye to eye" that day. I'm horny, I'm in a committed relationship with you...so compartmentalize like I can, so that we can at least "share a moment physically" even if we are at odds emotionally or mentally. I can compartmentalize love and sex. Lol Love in sex is great! Yet there will be days you don't feel very "loving" to your significant other. This is normal. All I'm saying is it shouldn't effect the bedroom. When it does...real problems set in)
These for me plus when he gets "clingy" like I can't go to my friends house without him. A sure sign is when people ask where my "shadow" is today. And NO WHINY VOICE
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| 4/18/2012 1:13:09 PM |
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audlove515
Jasper, IN
28, joined May. 2011
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Physically and emotionally clingy people..
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| 4/18/2012 1:38:53 PM |
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lordlibra
Towanda, KS
41, joined Feb. 2012
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When a woman always has to be touchy-feely & never shuts up. I'm fine with showin a little affection here & there, but not with constantly bein poked, prodded & pestered.
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| 4/18/2012 1:45:45 PM |
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wille26
Milwaukee, WI
37, joined Mar. 2012
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When I'm sitting down trying to relax after performing the days honey do list and she starts f**kin with me asking to do just one more thing.... just one more thing.... just one more thing.
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| 4/18/2012 2:59:52 PM |
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nikki146
Wilmington, DE
41, joined Mar. 2012
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Leaving a dirty dish about 5 feet from the ACTUAL SINK..... drives me nuts! 
lol
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| 4/18/2012 3:03:04 PM |
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ajgdptwm
Potsdam, NY
35, joined Dec. 2010
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I'm with you on #2 and #3 op!
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| 4/19/2012 1:37:03 PM |
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daretobeyou
Fishers, IN
37, joined Nov. 2010
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Thank you all for posting your thoughts. I read through all of them and found many common themes. Here are just a few:
1. communication (lack)
2. clingyness, physical or emotional neediness (above and beyond what one might deem 'acceptable)
3. Critical (from the way one drives to what they wear or places they go)
Again...enjoyed reading all responses. Thank you!
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