So, my ex wife....whom I still love though she crushed me....bad..... wants me to help with and participate in the Halloween graveyard we have put on each year for the last 7 years...each one bigger every year. We seperated in may and she has told me that Halloween is ''our'' holiday and she would feel weird doing it without me. It is the last one as the house is for sale in November...she cheated and has shown me no remorse or interest, despite my every effort to interact with her....but tells me if we hang out n do this it would be a good ''start''. She still has the boyfriend....is she just trying to get me to do the graveyard building and setup, or should I try to start repairing what I fear is too broken?

. That's what I think too....and yes I have 1 14 yr old son who enjoys it....I was a 1 income family for 16 yes..I did all the housework too...she was hot n I'm not so much, so what started as WANTING to treat her like a princess changed to HAVING to....then she turns alcoholic over the last 3 years... then cheats n throws me out...I got my son tho!!!!

So, my ex wife....whom I still love though she crushed me....bad..... wants me to help with and participate in the Halloween graveyard we have put on each year for the last 7 years...each one bigger every year. We seperated in may and she has told me that Halloween is ''our'' holiday and she would feel weird doing it without me. It is the last one as the house is for sale in November...she cheated and has shown me no remorse or interest, despite my every effort to interact with her....but tells me if we hang out n do this it would be a good ''start''. She still has the boyfriend....is she just trying to get me to do the graveyard building and setup, or should I try to start repairing what I fear is too broken?

So, my ex wife....whom I still love though she crushed me....bad..... wants me to help with and participate in the Halloween graveyard we have put on each year for the last 7 years...each one bigger every year. We seperated in may and she has told me that Halloween is ''our'' holiday and she would feel weird doing it without me. It is the last one as the house is for sale in November...she cheated and has shown me no remorse or interest, despite my every effort to interact with her....but tells me if we hang out n do this it would be a good ''start''. She still has the boyfriend....is she just trying to get me to do the graveyard building and setup, or should I try to start repairing what I fear is too broken?

OP - Grow some balls, and cut all ties to the ex. My Exes are as good as dead to me, and they know they will be dead if they come around, and start harassing me with requests, BS claims of wanting me back, etc. Over is over in my book...one way, or the other. Your b*tch is using you, because you make it easy for her to do so, and she always will....as long as you are fool enough to let her. If you are such a pansy, take out a restraining order against the ex, leave the area, get some plastic surgery, change you name, change your phone number, and never contact her-or anyone she knows is involved with you in any way (your sisters, etc)-ever again. She will find it difficult to find you. Then, start a new life with someone new. Or just grow the balls, learn to use them, and let the B know that she had better stay away from you from now on.

BTW - If you ever find a new woman, how do you think she would feel about you getting together with your ex every so often, to do the things you used to do when you were an item together? That sort of thing would end a new relationship quick, you idiot.

So, my ex wife....whom I still love though she crushed me....bad..... wants me to help with and participate in the Halloween graveyard we have put on each year for the last 7 years...each one bigger every year. We seperated in may and she has told me that Halloween is ''our'' holiday and she would feel weird doing it without me. It is the last one as the house is for sale in November...she cheated and has shown me no remorse or interest, despite my every effort to interact with her....but tells me if we hang out n do this it would be a good ''start''. She still has the boyfriend....is she just trying to get me to do the graveyard building and setup, or should I try to start repairing what I fear is too broken?

Don't do it. Cut all ties with her. She's playing games.

well...I bet someone doesn't get a christmas card either! Dude...relax...I am asking for advice, not lessons on how to hate the mother of my children...thanks for the opinion, but they are like a**holes, everyone has one, but yours stinks!

She wanted to replace you, let Mr. Replacement help her.

So, my ex wife....whom I still love though she crushed me....bad..... wants me to help with and participate in the Halloween graveyard we have put on each year for the last 7 years...each one bigger every year. We seperated in may and she has told me that Halloween is ''our'' holiday and she would feel weird doing it without me. It is the last one as the house is for sale in November...she cheated and has shown me no remorse or interest, despite my every effort to interact with her....but tells me if we hang out n do this it would be a good ''start''. She still has the boyfriend....is she just trying to get me to do the graveyard building and setup, or should I try to start repairing what I fear is too broken?