I read the threads about last time anyone had a date.........

Uh............I have had a date since some of the "daters"..........and I gave up dating....

And I wondered...........how many are merely saying they "date" when the reality they are doing anything but dating.

Narrowed down their list so that only 3 humans could qualify and 2 of them are gay and one is 103.......

How many refuse many chances to meet at least ...based on "something".........

Is it that there are so few ppl who actually want to date ?

Or is it that there are so few ppl willing to date anymore ?

But while they are unwilling to date...they are also unwilling to say "I don't date anymore, or for now etc" ?

Or is it the constant sexual mess.............really screwing things up for some ?

Quality ?

Quantity ?

Expectations ?

Or is dating slipping off into the ocean of the past like many other things ?

If it is ?

What is Plan B ppl ?

Just a thing that made me say "Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm"

Well,I had a date tonite,Got stood up!

I do not know. I gave up. I refuse to settle. And I'm tired of the crap available to date. And I'm busy having the greatest time I can enjoying my life. Sooo...I'm not currently dating.

Yoy know... I think this is very true. I hate putting myself out there only to be disappointed over and over. But I'm hoping to find someone to laugh, love and have meaningless conversations with. I dont want to be 60 and still alone. Then 65, then 70. Yeah I'll keep trying because being alone sucks.

but eyes, what if it were a guy who thought the world of you and had integrity, honesty, loyalty, empathy, compassion, romance? and were willing to compromise and be accommodating?

@eyes the loneliness is what is so bad about being alone. When something great happens there's no one to tell. When I'm down no one to tell me it will be ok. I miss hugging, laughing, even the stupid arguments. Maybe because I was married young, kids right away. Never learned to be alone. I dont think I need any more time being alone to realize I hate being single. Married 27 yrs dated 2 yrs before that. So 29 yrs is a long time. And for most those years it was great. Probably why I want it so much. A second chance.

I will admit the freedom to not have to be accountable to anyone but myself is good. Maybe I'm worried the longer I'm single I'll get more set in "my" ways and no one will want to be with me.

Yeah I'm having the same problems. Nitpick about everything. Hair isn't just right. My d*ck is too big....... The list goes on.

To me they obviously don't want to date.

Im too old for you youngster.

Yeah I'm having the same problems. Nitpick about everything. Hair isn't just right. My d*ck is too big....... The list goes on.

To me they obviously don't want to date.

Sn... I am trying girl and I don't allow ppl to "set me " up ...was always a train wreck

Sky...I was either someones girlfriend or fiance since I was 11........then wife or gf.....for a total of ........umm....36 yrs.

Longest I was single was probably just a few weeks back then.

It has been 3 yrs.........lonely was the first yr.........then it started to ease. I am not sure it was actual loneliness or just so used to having another human......and so used to my time not being mine.......ever.

I wonder if you are giving yourself enough time between hunts so to speak.

To love yourself

I'm younger, so will not likely pass away on you

Wellllll i just figure at my age there is just no use in piss assin around anymore....

The single women I know/have known date or are in relationships.

I hear women say they are not dating or have given up on dating all the time. They always change their tune when they meet someone they actually want to date..myself included.

Not saying it is the same for you Medusa, only that in my experience...that statement is often just a coping mechanism, one that is openly and often said outloud.

it's pretty simple really. when a person is feeling frustrated by their dating efforts, it feels better to say it is by choice...their choice.

when somebody comes along that appears promising, if they are truly seeking and open to making the effort, they will get back in the game.

I don't think it's just a woman thing. I see men doing it too.

eta...sadly it is also easier than telling someone you just aren't interested rn them specifically.