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skywatcher58
Topeka, KS
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 eyes...my sweet.  
You know me. You know why I haven't had any dates. I would have liked to, but I have given up on that. Oh yes, I'll hear all the people telling me it's my own doing, that it's my own issues that are the reason, that I should do this or do that to get a man. I've read all these things and more thrown out there, but in reality...would most of those women actually be happy to have a man say he will come over, maybe watch a movie and then have some hot sweaty sex? The first "date", so to speak? They would be fine with knowing that is all that they are?
3 different men, with a single idea...thinking I would be so happy to accept that.
Reading what most men on this site think and say about women, especially women older than 50, has been disheartening, to say the least.
 Thats for sure. Thanks to dome of  the DH MEN I know I'm old, undesirable, have a worn out, stretched out you know what. Saggy boobs wrinkled skin, and no man would ever want me.  Thank goodness to the nice fellas on here that will stand up against such idiotic remarks.
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Apr. 2014
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IDK most guy's I know, when frustrated, switched from dating to chasing drunk easy chicks. Not so much giving up as changing strategies .
yes well there is that.....but given the possibility of something more, most of the men I know would rather be in a relationship and they would go for it
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
47, joined Dec. 2014
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IDK most guy's I know, when frustrated, switched from dating to chasing drunk easy chicks. Not so much giving up as changing strategies .
Welllllll drunk chicks run slower...that's a plus....
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tertium
Hemet, CA
47, joined Apr. 2013
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yes well there is that.. ...but given the possibility of something more, most of the men I know would rather be in a relationship and they would go for it
amen soul I am one of those and say that knowing you've met your soul mate already, so no hidden agenda here
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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eyes...my sweet.
You know me. You know why I haven't had any dates. I would have liked to, but I have given up on that. Oh yes, I'll hear all the people telling me it's my own doing, that it's my own issues that are the reason, that I should do this or do that to get a man. I've read all these things and more thrown out there, but in reality...would most of those women actually be happy to have a man say he will come over, maybe watch a movie and then have some hot sweaty sex? The first "date", so to speak? They would be fine with knowing that is all that they are?
3 different men, with a single idea...thinking I would be so happy to accept that.
Reading what most men on this site think and say about women, especially women older than 50, has been disheartening, to say the least.
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Tinkie .....
Yes, I am kinda sick of the blame game myself.........that is why I made a choice to be single.........took steps to ensure no one can just "show up or appear" in my life.
I am finally enjoying this single thing........and the reality of it.
I had a huge wake up call a while back by another woman.......She said "UJ..has the life most of us would kill for...........no responsibilities to anyone but herself. Her life is all her own, with no one to answer to, cater to nor factor into her decisions".
She is a younger woman 30ish...........and I had to dash off after she said it but it stuck with me. And I thought......
OH MY GOD..............this is exactly what I wanted soooooooooooo much back when, and I finally have it.............wtf am I doing trying to fk it up 
Clarity hit ...........hard right then.
I realized I was making the right decision.......for............me.
No way is it right for everyone...........but for ppl to be guilted or shamed for not wanting to date or not wanting a relationship ?
No no
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
64, joined May. 2007
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Reading what most men on this site think and say about women, especially women older than 50, has been disheartening, to say the least.
I usually date older so I fully understand the usual male prospective. Sorry but many don't offer much more than their younger sisters. They just lack the charms of the younger ones.
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Charms ?
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
64, joined May. 2007
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Welllllll drunk chicks run slower...that's a plus....
In my case running slower is a necessity.
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Apr. 2014
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amen soul I am one of those and say that knowing you've met your soul mate already, so no hidden agenda here
I'm not one who thinks the worst of men and I really don't see an agenda behind every smile.
dating is just harder as we get older..wait.. it's not the dating that is harder..it's the meeting/connecting with people. those of us who have been around for more than 2-3 decades are cautious, picky and rightly so. I went 7 yrs without date one and more recently, nearly three yrs. It was def worth the wait though
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
64, joined May. 2007
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Charms ?
Aw com on ,,looks (firm bodies)
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Aw com on ,,looks (firm bodies)
And............uh...............
Ummm............
How do I say this...........uh.....
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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Nobody should be shamed for not wanting to date.
I would have liked to go out with a man that was interested in ME, getting to know me, my thoughts, my interests, my likes just as I would want to get to know him.
There are men like that, I know. Just rather sparse over here. lol
I was talking to a man that seemed to be interested, and then he wound up leaving with a woman that was quite a bit younger.
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
63, joined Jul. 2010
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I do not date, and haven't in 4-5 years, it was a decision I was more than comfortable making. I was disabled when I started dating again, basically to stop my daughters from nagging me about it, on a side note, I consider all 3 of them to be very needy. Dating and the expectations of my dates became much more work than I was interested in being involved in.
I never had a problem finding dates when I was looking for one, disabled or not. Keeping a lady happy in a relationship? limited success, I am not much of an azz kisser, and I don't need someone constantly on mine. Outside the basic functions and necessities of life I need a lot of time to commit to anything, women always seemed to rush me for more, I grew tired of it and hurting them in the process.
The last 4 - 5 years have seemed like paradise to me, my 26 year old son, his buddy, the same age live with me and my doggie son! No hassles, no whining, and little or no drama except for when my daughters find something to whine about.
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jer3552
Vale, OR
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lucky charms there magically delicious but have little to do with body firmness
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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I usually date older so I fully understand the usual male prospective. Sorry but many don't offer much more than their younger sisters. They just lack the charms of the younger ones.
This is how I say it...............
I usually didn't date older so I fully understand the usual female prospective.
Sorry but many don't offer much more than their younger counter parts. They just lack the charms of the younger ones.
That is how I say it
And one of the many reasons I chose not to date anymore..........in no way was my body part of the date............ever.
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Apr. 2014
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Aw com on ,,looks (firm bodies)
kind of a non-issue for most of us. we haven't come through our lives unscathed by time...lol
...and regardless of the bitter ranting that happens here on DH...it really doesn't represent the typical men I encounter IRL. Sure, they exist but they are. not so loud or brave ..
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
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Aw com on ,,looks (firm bodies)
Oh...
and thanks for that. 
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tertium
Hemet, CA
47, joined Apr. 2013
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I think I'd make a great hubby to one special lady
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Pd...I am glad you found your happy hun.............I have seen you post how much fun ya'll have
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
64, joined May. 2007
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kind of a non-issue for most of us. we haven't come through our lives unscathed by time...lol
...and regardless of the bitter ranting that happens here on DH...it really doesn't represent the typical men I encounter IRL. Sure, they exist but they are. not so loud or brave ..
Nothing wrong with a less than perfect body at my age But give me some personality or something, anything other than the usual I am woman hear me roar. Tell yourselves or your girlfriends how great you are, ya'll sound like the guys that brag about how many women or how much sex, ect
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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I am not great Cajun...................I am just me..........
My girlfriends are FREAKINGFUKINFABULOUS tho..............and men are missing some really kind, giving, warm, sexy, thoughtful, smart as hell, strong as steel, loyal mates.
And yes, I tell them they are fabulous. Why wouldn't I ?
We have enough out there that tells us ...............we are not.
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jer3552
Vale, OR
60, joined Oct. 2013
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Eyes go to the spandex thread and see if that charges your batteries a little....good stuff over there
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
63, joined Jul. 2010
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eyes, it's really the ability to accept your current limitations and the willingness to be happy with them. Granted that I can't do much, but I can accept that and deal with the reality of it, with just me and the crew here it's usually all laughs, everyone does their own thing and no hassles.
Why on earth would an old retired, disabled guy like me go looking for more work than I cared to deal with?
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
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Nothing wrong with a less than perfect body at my age But give me some personality or something, anything other than the usual I am woman hear me roar. Tell yourselves or your girlfriends how great you are, ya'll sound like the guys that brag about how many women or how much sex, ect
Not.
I actually have a fun personality. I don't have a list of requirements regarding height, age, weight, hair color, eye color, income, penis size etc...
and I don't discuss my private life with a bunch of people.
And, I don't go around stating how "great" I am, or complain about men. 
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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Jer...
That pic. 
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
64, joined May. 2007
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Not.
I actually have a fun personality. I don't have a list of requirements regarding height, age, weight, hair color, eye color, income, penis size etc...
and I don't discuss my private life with a bunch of people.
And, I don't go around stating how "great" I am, or complain about men.
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Jer...................
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
53, joined Apr. 2014
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Nothing wrong with a less than perfect body at my age But give me some personality or something, anything other than the usual I am woman hear me roar. Tell yourselves or your girlfriends how great you are, ya'll sound like the guys that brag about how many women or how much sex, ect
Hell I don't hang out with people who act like that..with them it's generaly a case of "if I say it loud enough and often enough maybe even I'll believe it."
I'm standing just close enough to old fart territory these days...I don't have the tolerance to listen to the attitude long enough to find the decent person hiding behind the noise.
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Pd...I hear ya hun...........
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cajunmister
Kinder, LA
64, joined May. 2007
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Hell I don't hang out with people who act like that..with them it's generaly a case of "if I say it loud enough and often enough maybe even I'll believe it."
I'm standing just close enough to old fart territory these days...I don't have the tolerance to listen to the attitude long enough to find the decent person hiding behind the noise.
That's why I don't date much, why listen to that chit. But I do like to date.
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jlyinc
Chaska, MN
31, joined Nov. 2014
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I've dated way too much since I moved. I'm tired!
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Jennnnnnnnnnnnn....nice way to be tired tho 
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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awwwww, jen, you are an adorable woman...funny, nice, you should be having dates and fun.
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jlyinc
Chaska, MN
31, joined Nov. 2014
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I'm focusing my energy on one. Lol
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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Good for you, hun.
 
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
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Good to hear Jen.............
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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You know, I was faking it yesterday...by saying I liked that veggie wrap I had for lunch.
ptoooey!!!
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
63, joined Oct. 2009
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Haven't had the opportunity to fake anything on a date.
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Veggie wrap   
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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Girl...you know I was on jury duty. That cafe across the street just sucked.
lol
Well sure, who wouldn't chat about veggie wraps?
Possible 'chatting' detected. You have already posted in this thread recently. Please wait for some other people to reply before posting in this thread again, or wait like an hour or so, whichever comes first. Sorry for the inconvenience.
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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They only had veggie wraps ?
Oh hellllllllllllll no..po po wld be rolling up ..........no lie.........
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naturebiy
Bangkok
Thailand
39, joined Jul. 2011
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I dont date..
Just work..
Home..
Kids...
Sleep..
Rinse and repeat.
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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They only had veggie wraps ?
Oh hellllllllllllll no..po po wld be rolling up ..........no lie.........
Veggie wrap, tuna sandwich, salad, and hot dogs
The po po were all down the street at Dave's Giant Burgers. 
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Nature
Tink....
And OMG...blech blech blech.................oh...did you see Thing 1 and Thing 2 posting at the same time btw ?
Told ya, where there is one there is the other...........
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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Why, yes I did. I was about to message you.
I like veggie wraps, if they are good.
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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I thought of messaging and said ...fk it............
Wonder if they are the same poster or does one let the other know they are on and then Thing 2 pops on ?
And I am not trying to feel anything called a veggie wrap.........I am still pissed about having to give up my yogurt 
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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I thought of messaging and said ...fk it............
Wonder if they are the same poster or does one let the other know they are on and then Thing 2 pops on ?
And I am not trying to feel anything called a veggie wrap.........I am still pissed about having to give up my yogurt
I can't figure out crazy.
I would have rather had some garlic fries!!
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iamalwaysjustme
Kansas City, MO
55, joined Apr. 2009
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I am just glad my man doesn't mind me having winter legs
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machug59
Fairfield, CA
94, joined Dec. 2011
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Well, hell yeah. Think of the money saved by not having to buy socks. 
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Kansas City, MO
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browneyz
San Diego, CA
58, joined Jan. 2008
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Alone time is wonderful if you choose to be alone. not so great if you don't.
I observe men spending alone time differently than women. They take trips,
attend many social events, parties, games, accept every invitation for dinner
coctails, road trip with the guys. Chase drunk women. Women spend their not dating time with less
social interaction. Most feel less freedom or feel less comfortable traveling alone,
less inclined to live on the edge. Spend lots of time working, Television, shopping solitude. choosing to live full happy lives as single women
takes effort. Tradition has conditioned women to wait for a man to begin living.
My favorite moto: Live, Laugh, Love.
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a4umposter
San Antonio, TX
48, joined Dec. 2014
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Well,I had a date tonite,Got stood up!
I'm sorry that happened to you. I've had that happen a few times.
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iamalwaysjustme
Kansas City, MO
55, joined Apr. 2009
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His loss SN 
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cavie59
Enid, OK
55, joined Feb. 2010
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Well, I know that in my case, from 2003 to 2006 I did not even try to date because I was getting over my separation and divorce. When I tried to reenter the dating scene, well I just could not get a yes from a woman what so ever. So I stopped trying after 5 years of trying, that was in 2011.
So now, I do not even bother because, I already know the outcome. No fear involved at all.
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gotheon123
Apex, NC
47, joined Jul. 2013
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Eyes
With me, I'm not looking to date for something to do in my free time. I'm looking for someone I want to share my free time with. That's harder than it sounds. I value my time with my family and friends and my time alone..........
So spending a lot of time going out on a bunch of first dates, no matter how pleasant they were, that there's no attraction or chemistry........
Grates on my nerves.
I don't think it's that I'm too picky, but there has to be something there.
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rainydaze26
Columbus, OH
50, joined Nov. 2013
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I look for things I want to do & then seek out a "date" to join me... this takes the pressure off dating & makes it an adventure for two people to share.
If I happen to find a spark then it's just a fring benefit of the date.
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vagmasterflash
Durand, WI
49, joined Nov. 2014
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I can't date. I'm allergic to catladies.
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txrose64
Pearland, TX
51, joined Jan. 2013
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Medusa..great thread. I have girlfriends that I swear are in love with being in love even if it's wrong...they go from man to man never giving themselves time to find ....themselves.
I can't help but think...hey might not be so alone if they can fill their life with a life..rather than jumping into the next wrong thing just to not be alone...there's worst things than alone..yah know?
but society seems to judge us women too..so there's that..define us by if we have a man or not (not if he's any good for us of course)
I never gave a chit about any of that..the last "no dating" break was over 3 years and some change...I just can't jump right into something serious that might be wrong and need to get straight who and what I am without that other person again.
I mean I'm still "ME" but your life changes (if it's in a living with or serious long term situation) but it gives you time to figure things out...build your life back up..be happy so that you don't end up a mess with a mess (again).
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rocket000
Suwanee, GA
57, joined Mar. 2007
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Although I would enjoy inviting the right man into my life, I've made peace with the fact that may or may not happen.
I go through periods of time when I make an effort and then retreat. Why? The men are not what they represented. This could be that they perceive themselves differently than how others perceive them. It could be they have lied, omitted key facts about their lives, etc.
There is not a person who will tell you that they are not emotionally healthy which boils down to being willing and able to establish appropriate boundaries with ex spouses, adult children, bosses and friends. Sometimes you can determine fairly quickly in which category the person resides.
Then there are those with addictions, those still suffering the fallout of other failed relationships(divorce or death), those who are not accountable for their own actions(its ALWAYS someone else's fault). Then there are those who appear desperate for a relationship and want to spend every evening talking on the phone and every spare moment with you. I'm busy and don't want to spend every free moment with a man.
I have previously made an effort to "meet" men who seemed nice enough but my gut told me "no". Upon meeting my gut confirmed what I already knew in advance.
At this point in my life I realize it takes more than "just chemistry" to make a relationship work, but at the same time, I still want chemistry as part of the package.
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eyesofmedusa
San Antonio, TX
50, joined Jun. 2012
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Alone time is wonderful if you choose to be alone. not so great if you don't.
I observe men spending alone time differently than women. They take trips,
attend many social events, parties, games, accept every invitation for dinner
coctails, road trip with the guys. Chase drunk women. Women spend their not dating time with less
social interaction. Most feel less freedom or feel less comfortable traveling alone,
less inclined to live on the edge. Spend lots of time working, Television, shopping solitude. choosing to live full happy lives as single women
takes effort. Tradition has conditioned women to wait for a man to begin living.
My favorite moto: Live, Laugh, Love.
Omg..this is very true...very.
Rose....I just can't see making time.for it...too much bs at this.point.
Rocket...Amen...I can hv chemistry with ..well quite a few...but in sync with none..
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