A lot of us here can't even get in a relationship and you being in a good one has made you far too greedy.

Why don't you let your man go so he can find someone that's interested in only him and then you can see all the gentlemen you desire?

Perhaps look into polyamory some. Really research it, then use that to back your claims of wanting a side guy.

Thank you

Thing with it is, if he's not interested in it. You can't force him to be.

I always insist on an exclusive relationship.....then I f**k around behind her back

OP, go to morethantwo.com There's all sorts of poly information there.

I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and things around good. I just want to have an open relationship. We are kind of opposites he likes going out I like staying in. I would like to have a buddy that I can hang with when he goes out and I want him to meet with friends and have fun without me around. Anytime I talk about our sex life he gets hurt and assumes the worst but I just want something on the side but my heart belongs to him. How do I go about bringing this up in a conversation with him?

I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and things around good. I just want to have an open relationship. We are kind of opposites he likes going out I like staying in. I would like to have a buddy that I can hang with when he goes out and I want him to meet with friends and have fun without me around. Anytime I talk about our sex life he gets hurt and assumes the worst but I just want something on the side but my heart belongs to him. How do I go about bringing this up in a conversation with him?

One of my best friends is the "open" relationship type. I am friends with a swinger couple, as well.

Given my observations and experience, I will give the opinion I have come to. It may make sense, or it may not. You may like it, or may not.

With the information you have provided, you have already established this relationship, prior to your desire to have multiple sexual partners.

Given the difficulty your are having in your relationship, it is very safe to speculate that this relationship was entered into with the legal definition of "implied consent".

The Implied Consent was this relationship would be exclusive to the two of you, and not an open one.

Therefore, to make the relationship "open" requires a renegotiation of initial contract, which I highly doubt will happen.

So, you are left with two options:
1. End this relationship ASAP, and pursue that which makes you happy and find a man that is perfectly fine with having an open relationship.
2. You don't end the relationship, wind up cheating on him(if you haven't already), and eventually he finds out a few months from now, dumps you, trashes your reputation, amd abusively destroys the next ten females or more because of his resentment for your breech of trust.

I'm gonna say it like this: You aren't feeding me, financing me, or f!#$ing me. So whichever you choose will not matter, because it will not affect my life.

I will say this, though. If you choose to deceive and be a cheater, don't you dare come on these forums and make any attempt to justify what you did, or whine and complain about how you messed up.

I can find sympathy in a complete ignorance of a mistake. I have zero empathy or sympathy, when you know what the ethical choice is, but stupidly and with full disregard for other people make a choice to hurt someone else with lies.