| 11/2/2007 9:26:37 AM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 48
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Have to agree with the ladies on this one. Im not proud of this but my first x I have two boys she raised them. I was on the road with a band. Something Im not proud the kids that is. But now I dont have any relationship with them at all. If I could step back in my life that is the only thing I would change. I missed the joy of it. As far as other women go you have kids great I love children now teenagers in my case. But Damn things have changed so much. Most kids today dont have respect for anything. Let alone an imagination to be creative with play .
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| 11/2/2007 9:28:35 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32 online now!
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Thats a conversation about sex, and in that argument, I would have to say u should only sleep with those u can see yourself being with 10yrs down the road. But this thread is not about that. (and u can't attack me for my belief here either - you can debate this on another thread)
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| 11/2/2007 9:28:58 AM |
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anniebrown57
Warrington, PA
age: 50
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Forum is Men that really dont mind kids. Go start your own forum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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| 11/2/2007 9:29:23 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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Otherwise, if we follow your logic, you might give a woman aids and then turn around and say, "opps, sorry, you've got aids, I can't date you."
iswear yankee are you actually reading my entire post? i never said if you got a girl pregnant you should ditch her. i do however think if someone ELSE got her pregnant, it isn't MY responsibility.
and if I HAD AIDS and i gave it to someone then no i wouldn't ditch her. BUT if i didn't have aids and i knew she did, i wouldn't date her.
man.
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| 11/2/2007 9:31:53 AM |
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sunshinewm
Cleveland, TN
age: 43
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There you are, Gator
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| 11/2/2007 9:33:34 AM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29
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yankee, if a man should take responsible for a womans kids it should be the biological father, no one else is responsible and no one else should be faulted.
in fact biological responsibility is an entirely different topic.
Agreed, and in a perfect world, that might happen. Sadly, it ain't. And while you might think it's a completely seperate topic, I think it gets right to the heart of the matter. Why do we feel it's ok to hold it against the parent (of whatever gender, I'd say the same thing if a man takes responsibility for his kids) for having kids, but the one that shirks their responsiblity is somehow MORE desirable. Basically, all your position is going to do is encourage more women to disown their kids, when in reality, it's that more let's call them "silent partners" need to buck up and stay in the relationship.
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| 11/2/2007 9:34:57 AM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 48
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exactly right photo, unless you have a death wish. Hell if I had aids I wouldnt want anyone to date me. And if I did I would be careful ie NO sex at all
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| 11/2/2007 9:35:31 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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yankee i disagre but think of it like this, when you meet someone and they dont tell you they have kids somewhere, then you dont take that into consideration do you?
i am sure plenty of people wouldn't date a person that said " i have ids but i dont support their mother/father"
you are all over the board man.
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| 11/2/2007 9:36:09 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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exactly right photo, unless you have a death wish. Hell if I had aids I wouldnt want anyone to date me. And if I did I would be careful ie NO sex at all
gator,
according to yankeee, i am wrong for that sentiment
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| 11/2/2007 9:38:55 AM |
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dg1260
Galion, OH
age: 47
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I'm having trouble with this one. I've read most of the posts and it doesn't seem that anyone 'REALLY' has a problem with kids. I do see some petty bickering which is very unfortunate.....
From my point of view, having kids complicates the dating process because it's my responsibility to find someone to watch my kids (they are old enough now I don't have to, but back when...). Of course, I couldn't tolerate someone who was less than nice to my children, but that is more of their character. If they couldn't treat my children well then they probably don't do well with others either.
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| 11/2/2007 9:42:38 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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dg it comes down to this, some people have kids and they have expressed anger/bitterness/resentment (whatever) that some people will not date them because they have kids.
my point is, it is unfair to judge people that won't date single parents.
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| 11/2/2007 9:45:25 AM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29
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yankee i disagre but think of it like this, when you meet someone and they dont tell you they have kids somewhere, then you dont take that into consideration do you?
i am sure plenty of people wouldn't date a person that said " i have kids but i dont support their mother/father"
you are all over the board man.
I'm all over the board but you brought up parapelegia? Ok.. if you say so buddy. And your arguement there is a straw man.. Of course I don't take something into consideration if I don't know about it. But how many people would STOP dating a person if they found out that the person had been neglecting their kids. My point here is that you can't say "just because I refuse to accept responsibilty for a sin/crime (however you want to think of knocking someone up), it didn't happen." And yes, once again, I am saying IF you are willing to risk unprotected sex, then you should be willing to date others who had unprotected sex and happened to get unlucky enough to get AIDS. Is that really such a hard concept to grasp?
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| 11/2/2007 9:47:03 AM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 48
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you know photo I was with someone who had kids older. Its hard to be put in that step parent role now this may make another good thread but still the faternal parent always seems to have last say.. its just the way it is . And thats to bad because if the real father or mother isnt around the one their with may have something good to contribute.
My point is not that I mind women with kids I dont its just a difficult situation.
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| 11/2/2007 9:47:40 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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Yankee,
it's a bullshit logic. 
IF person (A) has unprotected sex THEN they should be willing to date people with AIDS????
Someone else come in here and tell me im wrong for disagreeing with this sentiment. 
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| 11/2/2007 9:48:01 AM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29
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and my point is that if you're willing to take the risk of having sex, then you shouldn't hold it against someone that did the exact same thing and happened to be unlucky enough to get pregnant from it.
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