| 11/2/2007 8:43:09 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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omg.........i never knew there was a sure thing!enlighten me
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| 11/2/2007 8:43:44 AM |
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chipper1964
Wisconsin Rapids, WI
age: 43
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I'm not judging people that don't want to be involved with others that have children. Just standing up for those with children. JMO
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| 11/2/2007 8:44:06 AM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34 online now!
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My mom raised two daughters by herself. She was divorced at 24yrs old with a baby and a 3yr old. She never married. She had long term relationships, but never married. Those men helped shape me to what I am........very loving of anyone who needs it whether they are my blood or not. I also have a step mother that has been in my life almost as long as my real mother and I don't love her any different than I do my "blood mother". It is easier for any parent that doesn't have custody of the children to date. They have more time available than the parrent who has the child.
Mal, why would a women that already has a child not want to have another child? That is such a false statement. When you get into older age groups there are people male/female that don't want kids and they don't even have any to begin with. Is there some unwritten law that says because I have children from relationships in the past that says I can't conceive another child?
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| 11/2/2007 8:44:55 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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no one started this bashing against kids it was a woman whining that started it against those that werent interested
"Ok I'm A single mom with 3 kids and I can't seem to find anyone that will hold a conversation with me after they find out. Whats up with that? Now days there is not to many women or men with out kids?"
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| 11/2/2007 8:46:05 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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this isnt just a matter of having "more" kids.
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| 11/2/2007 8:46:20 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32 online now!
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You are one of those that my child would help weed out before the fact of you dating someone with a child would even come into play.
Explain that? - I think u owe me that much....
Truth be told, of the 3 women who I have dated with kids, it was their KIDS who actually made her heart melt for me. Kids absolutly love me, and I love them just as much. I pretty much raised 5 kids that were not mine, both as part of a relationship and also a woman I WOULD NOT date because of this. She wanted to be with me, but I did not want to be with her, not just because of the kids, but when u are 'deciding' on someone, there is a scale, and like photo said, you balance out the things on that scale. Kids go on that scale, and in MY MIND, in most cases, the kids go on the side of the scale to decide for the relationship. If the kids don't like me (never happened) then they go on the against side.
I am defending someone else's believes, and what he believes is his right. You are trying very hard to tell him how wrong he is. Just because the fact you have kids would put it on the 'against' relationship of the scale, it does not mean he is 'wrong'
Oh and about not having more kids-- When you have 2-3, 5, whatever kids, there comes a point in every womans mind where she says to herself: "this is enough, don't need anymore"
And again, explain to me why it is wrong to 'want' a woman without kids so that you can start your own family? Why is it, as a single guy, morally wrong to NOT want the woman to have kids, why is this wrong? Remember., we all make choices, and we all have things we accept to don't accept. If someone told me that 'looking for an honest woman is wrong' guess what I would tell them...
I'd tell them to f*ck the hell off, and thats that. I can disagree with someone and not attack them on what they believe. (Many of my friends are deeply religious, but I am defiantly not - we have arguments, but neither of us tells the other that they are 'wrong')
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| 11/2/2007 8:48:26 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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and thats all ive been trying to say
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| 11/2/2007 8:51:40 AM |
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peter1961
Balearic Islands
Spain
age: 46
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I have to admit,,,,,I love kids but......I'm not sure if I could eat a whole one
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| 11/2/2007 9:04:19 AM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34 online now!
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Mal, was of your statements is why I said that my having children would help weed you out.
You make it sound like women that get pregnant because of bad choices should be punished for them the rest of their lives. Well, what about the man that bales out on them and doens't look back. Not all relationships end with both parents staying in the childs life. In my situation one has, but in the other I have been on my own. I didn't force anyone to have sex with me and I sure as shit shouldn't be punished for giving birth to an amazing little girl that I new I was going to end up raising on my own after being with her dad for 7yrs. My children are not mistakes. Giving birth and raising my children has never been a mistake nor would finding a man that I might want to have another child with. Those are choices and I am living with them. Just like I'm sure that you live your life just fine with your choices. Somethings are not always what they seem and if you judge to quickly you might be missing an amazing partner just because they have kids.
I have a great friend that married her husband and he had 4 kids. She wanted kids of her own, but they desided as a family that it wasn't right financially to have another mouth to feed and THEY already had 4 beautiful children. 3yrs later he died and now she is raising 4 kids, which are not hers biologically, at 32yrs old all on her own. So, maybe there is more to the situation than any one ever knows until they ask and try to get to know that person.
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| 11/2/2007 9:05:46 AM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29
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how is that tautology? If you'd said, I don't want to date a parapelegic, should I not hit women in the spine with a crow bar? that would have been a similar parallel as you are 1/2 CAUSE of that pregnancy. Where as your gf getting into a car accident is something that's out of your control.
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| 11/2/2007 9:06:41 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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You make it sound like women that get pregnant because of bad choices should be punished for them the rest of their lives.
well being less marketable is a punishment of sorts isn't it?
you make it sound like having kids should have no effect on how many guys you find.
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| 11/2/2007 9:08:11 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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yankee not all of the sex shes had is with me, in this day and age i doubt ill meet a virgin.
and again the issue at hand isnt that i wont stay with a girl I GOT pregnant.
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| 11/2/2007 9:08:34 AM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29
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I guess all I'm trying to say is, the only difference between people that have kids and people that have sex is the luck of the draw. Lots of people have sex and never conceive. Others have it only once and BAM 9 months later there's another asshole on the planet.
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| 11/2/2007 9:08:55 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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have a great friend that married her husband and he had 4 kids. She wanted kids of her own, but they desided as a family that it wasn't right financially to have another mouth to feed and THEY already had 4 beautiful children. 3yrs later he died and now she is raising 4 kids, which are not hers biologically, at 32yrs old all on her own. So, maybe there is more to the situation than any one ever knows until they ask and try to get to know that person.
totally unusual situation. exceptions don't make the rule.
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| 11/2/2007 9:09:59 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32 online now!
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Pah. The thing is, it was a choice. Yes, there ARE pricks who ditch their kids(it happens) and guess what, I see them in a MUCH lower light than I do with girls who got pregnant young, knowing full well the dad was gonna ditch on them.
Guys who don't want to be part of their own are scum. Sorry, simple as that. We have the gift to have kids, so when you have them, they ARE your life.
so again, point I made stands, why bash someone for what he believes? He is not morally wrong if he wants to not start a relationship with a woman w/ kids (It is a lot more work too you know)
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