| 11/2/2007 8:23:26 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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I have children. It is the men that point blank say....I would not date a women with children and keep pushing that point that it becomes redundant. Fine you don't want to date someone that has kids we understand and I, (can't speak for anyone else) respect that, but why keep pounding the issue.
Kirota, i'll keep pounding the issue as long as i am told i am wrong for feeling that way.
it isn't like any woman that has kids is a target for my commentary, only those that insist somehow that men that do not choose to involve themselves with single mothers are somehow less imbued with good traits.or conversely men that do date single mothers are somehow better men.
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| 11/2/2007 8:24:38 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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As a single parent raising my son alone here is how I feel. If my sons biological father doesnt want to be a part of my sons life, how can I expect anyone else?
bless you 
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| 11/2/2007 8:24:58 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32 online now!
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Ok then: In that case, I should just say no, I would never date a woman with kids. (The fact is this is not true, but I want my own kids. I am very good and LOVE Children, so why shouldn't I have the chance to have my own? - There's a difference between 'yours' and someone else's kids. You, already having children, won't likely have more, and a guy who doesn't have kids, why WOULD he want to be with you if u do not offer him what everyone deserves?
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| 11/2/2007 8:26:17 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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thank you chipper.
malaci....you are simplifying it.and not all relationships are bad boy/bad girl,etc
sometimes things just dont work out,for many reasons.
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| 11/2/2007 8:27:08 AM |
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repochick
Rosemount, MN
age: 29 online now!
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Just because we choose to have kids we can not expect everyone to feel the same. Hell some parents dont even want their own children.
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| 11/2/2007 8:27:37 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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wiley claiming men are bad that dont want single mothers is also simplifying it.
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| 11/2/2007 8:29:56 AM |
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peter1961
Balearic Islands
Spain
age: 46
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Not taking any side here but,,,,, When you date any woman, are you dating her or her kids, her dog, her grand mother or anything else. If this goes beyond dating, is it because you have found a mutual desire to be with that person, a bond? If it is, and she is not, "your blood", is there any reason why you could not bond with her dog, her grandmother or ever her children. She is a single mum because somewhere there is a man, who is not being a father. It takes two to tango, so why not have a dislike for all men who have sired children and walked.
I hope this is taken for what it is, "just my opinion", not taking any sides.
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| 11/2/2007 8:33:08 AM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
age: 36
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next time dont have kids. you certainly cant blame men for not wanting to get in on that.
your words...not mine.how simple is that?and where does it say in her post,a man without kids?
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| 11/2/2007 8:33:42 AM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34 online now!
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mal, okay..........I am not trying to be a b*tch here.............I'm not dogging photo at all he has a really good point......but for your comment on finding the bad boy types getting pregnant and then looking for a stable man to settle down with.....is Frinking bullshit. I don't need a f*cking man to settle down. I settled down all on my own and I get up everyday and look my girls in the face and now that they are the best thing that ever happen to me even though the relationships that they came from didn't work. You are one of those that my child would help weed out before the fact of you dating someone with a child would even come into play.
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| 11/2/2007 8:34:36 AM |
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chipper1964
Wisconsin Rapids, WI
age: 43
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I have a son (stepson) whom I consider blood. NO I did not give birth to him but have been in his life for almost 20 years. I treat him as my own...probably because I do not have children of my own...I came from a "mixed family" 17 sibs and have learned alot from that experience about family.
I will restate my point:
If they can't accept your children RUN
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| 11/2/2007 8:35:44 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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peter plenty of men AND women take a whole persons life into consideration before forming a bond.
plenty of people say all that matters in a mate is their mind but i guarantee at least one the following factors have been taken into consideration by everyone here at one point or another:
age
location
children
weight
looks
job
handicapped
missing limbs
incurable diseases
marital status
truly some of these are more severe than others, but honestly they are all "irrelevant" compared to the mind
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| 11/2/2007 8:36:35 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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chipper, yet again that sounds like you are judging those that are not interested in single parents.
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| 11/2/2007 8:37:01 AM |
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yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29
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that was going to be exactly my point Peter. Photo, if you're so against getting involved with someone that has kids then you must also believe that one should never have premarital sex, because, as we all know, there is no such thing as a 100% preventative measure against pregnancy. Therefore, if you're willing to have sex, you're willing to risk pregnancy. If you're willing to risk pregnancy, then you ought to be willing to marry the woman and stick through the tough stuff, and raise the kids that result. If you're not willing to do that, then suck rocks as YOU want to have your cake and eat it too, I think is these ladies point. Personally, I know I have seen women with kids in public and assumed that they probably have a husband and so not made efforts to approach them, so they're kind of screwed 2 ways really, as I'd be perfectly willing to get involved with a 'ready made family.'
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| 11/2/2007 8:38:11 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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yankee thats a false tuatalogy.(spelling)
every action has possible dire outcomes, i dont want to date someone that is a paraplegic, should i not date those that drive cars?
and who the hell said anything about abandoning your OWN kids??
[Edited 11/2/2007 8:38:36 AM]
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| 11/2/2007 8:38:48 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32 online now!
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Re-read my post and u will see I covered that. It's not 'simplifying' it.
Truth is the MASS majority of women with kids got those kids in relationships they choose to go into, knowing it wasn't a sure thing. Yes there ARE plenty of women that have had divorces, where both parents are decent, civil and respectful people, and my argument DOES NOT COVER them. Because in such a case, the father is around, the father helps 50%, and the father loves his kids. In this case the kids don't need anyone else, but having someone else can't hurt.
What I am referring to are those who bash those for NOT wanting to date someone with kids. It does not mean the guy is a prick who just wants to party, it does not mean that he hates kids, it does not mean that he will hurt you. What it means is he wants his own chance to make the decisions for himself.
For those who have had a partner turn into a different person, those who have lost someone, or those who were raped, this argument does not cover.
Just speaking from experience. Seen a huge ratio of women who got their kids because of their own irresponsibility, and from what i can see, many of the women here are defending THESE women. You got kids. It was your choice. Why force someone to think differently, why bash someone for believing what he believes?
Telling someone what they think/believe is wrong is (unless what they think is wrong by fact, IE: the earth is flat) is wrong in it's self. Opinions are like assholes, we all have one and chances are it stinks.
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