| 5/22/2008 9:34:54 PM |
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eyewatchinu
Huntsville, AL
age: 30 online now!
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I went out with this guy. It was our 4th date and he had the nerve to ask me to pay for it when all i ordered was a peice of pie and he ordered the whole resturaunt. I said yes to him and then told him i needed to go to the restroom.
Well, instead of going to the restroom I went straight for the door and had my best friend to pick me up 1 block away.
Neverless, he learned his lesson .
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| 5/22/2008 9:44:11 PM |
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gar67
Omaha, NE
age: 40
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 "You did the right thing "
[Edited 5/22/2008 9:44:54 PM]
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| 5/22/2008 9:56:20 PM |
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zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 48
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The Old "Who Should Pay?" thread again....lol
Well...I have learned, that it is best for me, to only go out for a coffee and/or dessert. I am rather traditional about the issue, but it is safer for me to just go dutch or do something low key for the first meet. Men are very weird about this subject. I am like Mindy, I do not want to be seen as a user. I also do not want to HAVE to return the favor, as he may think I "owe" him something later.
I have never had this problem of a man not paying. I have even went as far as telling him we can go dutch and they got all offended. I have left the tip and I don't mind at all! Whatever...whiny men are not attractive to me and if he is whining about a dinner tab, then he probably will whine about something else. I'll pay and be glad to do it if he feels that strongly about it. However...it does say something to me about him...I just can't help it! I have tried to tell myself it does not matter, but I can't shake it. It turns me off.
Oh EDDY....you are one hell of man!....lol You make me laugh! 
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| 5/22/2008 10:10:52 PM |
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wiz333
Lakewood, OH
age: 50
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You can pay.....if I die before the check comes.
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| 5/23/2008 1:31:16 AM |
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ddhriss
Glen Burnie, MD
age: 62
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Barbara1, I just can't see you ever having to ask any guy out on a first date. But if you established a "Long Distance Relationship", just for example, AND, he's comin in to see ya - on a first date, he's already paying plenty in either gas or air far, or both just for the pleasure. So to offset that expence, you better pay for the actual date, and it better be good, OR be prepared to go all the way, which he'll probably want anyway. I just can't amagine anybody making a day trip on a first date just to have coffee and take a stroll on the beach? Be realistic about this and what your willing to infact -- pay.
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| 5/23/2008 1:57:21 AM |
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waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51
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The men should always pay, no matter who does the asking.
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| 5/23/2008 2:07:38 AM |
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ylekiot
Stateline, NV
age: 51
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Yes, the gentleman pays, otherwise he's not a gentleman... IMO.
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| 5/23/2008 2:41:31 AM |
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barbara1
Reston, VA
age: 51
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I do not intend to pay for the first date when a guy asks me out rather it is a good date or a bad one.......
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| 5/23/2008 3:16:07 AM |
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deano1234
Pierson, IA
age: 44
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The man always pays. If the date goes well and the woman wants to buy a drink or 2 later, let her. Understand it guys. On a first date, that woman many times has more money in a hairstyle and makeup, than the dinner cost. I you can't afford what she wants tell her that, before you go. If the 2 of you like each other you'll work something out.
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| 5/23/2008 6:32:48 AM |
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blueyedsinger
Yuma, AZ
age: 45
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I think whoever does the asking ought to do the paying on the first date. Then I think it's ok to take turns,
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| 5/23/2008 6:41:00 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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OK every one the person that asks should expect to pay! But the man should be the gentleman and pay for the first, maybe even the first couple of dates. A woman should share the expenses after there is a relationship it is only fair and right! BUT if she has obligations such as children she should not be expected to take from them. AND please do not ask for sex until their is some feelings for each other... what are we animals. I hope the ladies out there agree with me on this! And the gentlemen.
So far when you ladies say "gentleman" all I am reading is "sucker who will pay for me on every date"
Question:
When you are out on a date.. or even out with a guy friend... whom does the waiter or waitress give the bill to automatically?
Don't you find that sexist?
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| 5/23/2008 7:18:36 AM |
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barbara1
Reston, VA
age: 51
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It is just the way of the world.
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| 5/23/2008 7:24:31 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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It is just the way of the world.
Not in my world... and many MANY men I talk to are the same way.
It's now time for women to start paying their own way around the dating world.
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| 5/23/2008 8:28:10 AM |
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juniebegood
Huntington, NY
age: 53
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I think ddhriss is way out of line in his way of thinking. Even if a man is paying for traveling expenses to see a woman on a first date, he shouldn't EXPECT her to pay for an expensive outing OR "put out". That's balls!!! I might offer to pay for my half of the dinner, if we were dining out. If I really liked him and TRUSTED him, then I might offer to cook him a nice meal, so he wouldn't have to shell out more money on the first date. Having said that, I would not invite a virtual stranger to my home. If it was a guy that I had been developing a relationship with, over the course of time, and I really felt I knew him well, then, and only then, would he get an invitation to my house.
And under NO freaking circumstances, would he better just EXPECT that sex would follow. Hoping is one thing, EXPECTING it automatically, is another thing!
I think ddhriss better re-adjust his way of thinking, or he won't be getting any women of quality, jumping to go out with him.
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| 5/23/2008 8:57:57 AM |
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barbara1
Reston, VA
age: 51
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This forum has been very educational, now all us girls on DH will know which ones on this post are gentlemen and which are not.
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