| 10/17/2013 4:33:10 AM |
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steph696969
Pittsburgh, PA
25, joined Oct. 2013
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Hi I'm Stephanie , im 22 lost my husband to cancer ... Still unsure about dating or anything for that matter ?? How does everyone do it I'm so lost ..   
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| 10/17/2013 7:30:09 PM |
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cupocheer
Assumption, IL
68, joined May. 2010
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Best of luck to you, OP.
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| 10/18/2013 7:00:10 AM |
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steph696969
Pittsburgh, PA
25, joined Oct. 2013
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Ty guys n I'm in no rush .. It just worries me that someone won't understand it ...
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| 10/18/2013 6:00:35 PM |
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kimberly52
Colfax, NC
60, joined Oct. 2009
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I lost my husband 7 yrs ago on Friday October 13th to suicide. Time does heal some but it's still hard. Don't rush into a relationship, you have plenty of time. You will know when you're ready. My faith has helped me through. My condolences to all who have lost someone.
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| 10/19/2013 4:21:40 PM |
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litebriteb
Cumbum
India
26, joined Oct. 2013
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your name is suggestive
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| 10/19/2013 6:26:51 PM |
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jlewis01
Duncan, OK
30, joined Aug. 2013
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I'm 26, Lost My Girlfriend To Cancer Earlier This Year. I Understand Feeling Lost, Unsure Of Life And What It Means For You Now. If You Want There Are Som Groups On Face Book That Have Really Helped Me.
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| 10/19/2013 7:54:09 PM |
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d_voted
Winnipeg, MB
64, joined Sep. 2008
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your name is suggestive
She is right.
If you want to be taken seriously and not some kind of a sex doll edit your profile and use a different pen name.
D
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| 10/20/2013 12:19:00 AM |
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mr_imperfect
Melrose Park, IL
55, joined Sep. 2011
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She is right.
If you want to be taken seriously and not some kind of a sex doll edit your profile and use a different pen name.
D
The only way she can edit it is if she deletes this one and creates a whole new one.
Besides only immature asshats with a junior high mentality would take it in a suggestive way.
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| 10/20/2013 1:25:20 AM |
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nuhsworld
Brooklyn, NY
26, joined Jun. 2012
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The only way she can edit it is if she deletes this one and creates a whole new one.
Besides only immature asshats with a junior high mentality would take it in a suggestive way.
Unfortunately, there seems to be tons of those types on here.
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| 10/20/2013 3:27:48 PM |
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camocountry01
Uniontown, PA
40, joined May. 2013
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I'm 36 i lost my fiance 4 years ago 3 months before we were to be married. He had a aneurysm so it was a shock to me when my family showed up to tell me I never stepped foot back in our home.I still wear my ring and have tried to date without success. some days are better then others keep your head up and everyone grieves at their own pace.. I wish you the best
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| 1/15/2014 6:41:00 PM |
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chambiez1986
Hacienda Heights, CA
30, joined Feb. 2013
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I'm 27, I lost my fiance to a drunk driver a little over 3 years ago. I get mad when people say I still talk about her too much, is it a bad thing that I talk about her and if it's not should I be understanding of the people who are saying it is?
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| 1/15/2014 7:30:33 PM |
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gdaddy47
Columbia, TN
69, joined Sep. 2009
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Lay low and heal your spirit. Don't even think about dating. You're to vulnerable and may be too needy which will work against you and the person you date. God bless ya, and just hang out and find out about yourself. Get rid of the vulgar 696969 in your name. You're better than that.
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| 1/15/2014 10:09:57 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
58, joined May. 2009
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I'm 27, I lost my fiance to a drunk driver a little over 3 years ago. I get mad when people say I still talk about her too much, is it a bad thing that I talk about her and if it's not should I be understanding of the people who are saying it is?
People say that because they're uncomfortable, not because you are talking too much about her. Unless, of course, you are. But I doubt she's your only topic of conversation.
They're uncomfortable, they don't know what to say because they don't get it, they don't want you to be hurting any more, and they don't want to have to think about it themselves. You're messing with their good time.
I know that last part sounds harsh, but I've found that people really don't want to be reminded. Along with them not wanting you to be hurting. They want you to "get over it" and be done with it, and forget about it, and all that.
They don't understand.
Talking about her isn't not moving on. It's putting it all in the proper perspective and giving her the honor and due she deserves for having been here and for being loved and for loving you, and for having made you into who you are.
Being all that doesn't preclude you loving someone again, but it has to be in your time, and not theirs.
Because it's not about making life comfortable for them. It's about making it right for you.
This "journey" we're on has sure given me a different perspective, and to be honest, I don't care what they think about what I say or do in regard to my late husband. I understand their motivations and that some are sincerely and truly just wanting me to be me and fine again. I understand that others just don't want to be bothered with it.
But I gotta say it can be really hurtful when the loss or the man himself, my late husband in this case, isn't acknowledged at all. I mean, I don't want everyone to walk on eggshells around me, nor do I want them to feel bad, but dang, I would like some acknowledgment that I miss him. That he once lived. That things are different now. That they get it. That they know that even though I love someone again and I'm happy, that I still love him, and I miss him, and I miss what we were, and I miss what we had planned. I miss that road, even as I'm happy on this new road.
And yet, I look at them and wish to God that they never have to learn what this feels like.
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| 1/15/2014 10:19:08 PM |
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24milkduds
San Francisco, CA
58, joined Mar. 2012
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Sorry for your loss...my husband died July 3, 2011 in a boating accident...take baby steps, call your local Hospice for grief counseling...it's not easy and everyone is different in the healing process...good luck
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| 2/6/2014 1:45:32 PM |
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minnie15061
Monaca, PA
48, joined Jan. 2014
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I'm 45 lost my husband 15 months ago. Yes it's hard to move on. I still miss him...
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| 2/8/2014 2:40:17 AM |
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ladysgentleman1
Burlington Flats, NY
58, joined Jun. 2011
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Mending a broken  is one thing, but how do you fix a stolen when mate dies
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| 2/12/2014 8:11:29 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
49, joined Jan. 2012
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sorry for your loss 
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| 2/14/2014 9:27:20 PM |
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countryboyx336
Elsie, MI
69, joined Oct. 2012
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Hi I am sorry for your loss . I lost my wife a year ago last Oct . Like they say time will heal all . hang in there you will make it .
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| 2/14/2014 9:34:14 PM |
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countryboyx336
Elsie, MI
69, joined Oct. 2012
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Hi I am sorry for your loss . I lost my wife a year ago last Oct . Like they say time will heal all . hang in there you will make it . I was married for 27 years she was sick for 15 years she passed in bed I woke up and found her . I think of her a lot but you have to move on for you and kids .
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| 2/15/2014 9:58:58 AM |
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dwyn
Elk City, OK
69, joined May. 2013
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Hi Stephany; I feel your pain. It is like no other. I became a widow at age 18 while a senior in high school. I became a widow again at age 53. As time passes you learn to live with it but it is never forgotten. Life goes on and we have to move forward. Our age does not matter, it is what we do with the situation we find ourselves in. I care but sorry only twists the knife and brings more pain on the inside.
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| 2/28/2014 11:53:12 AM |
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swtsimple
Midlothian, IL
49, joined Feb. 2014
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I lost my son three years ago, when he was just 17. He died exactly 1wk after getting a root canal from septic shock. I still miss him like it was yesterday. I dont see how i'll be happy again. Sure, i put a smile on my face daily, but it's a mirage just to be strong for his siblings.
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| 3/2/2014 5:40:53 AM |
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bigwomanhere
Farrell, PA
41, joined Dec. 2013
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I am 38. I lost my husband two years ago. I miss him everyday. I have 4 children who love him dearly. Yesterday my children real father died. I'm not sure how I feel. Yes I did loved him but not how I love my husband. I guess I'm confused.
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| 3/7/2014 1:51:49 AM |
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kiki2u
Romulus, MI
63, joined Jan. 2013
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Steph, I am a widow myself almost 4 years. I was with my husband 30 years. I was widowed once before when I was 19 and had a young child. The ache is always there. Remember the good times, don't dwell on the bad. He is watching you. Please be kind to yourself, one day at a time. Take  care.K
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| 3/7/2014 4:10:29 PM |
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nishar23
Hampton, VA
26, joined Oct. 2013
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I'm sorry for your lost. I'm 21 and lost my fiancee at 19. The day of our son baby shower, because a group of young men wanted to robbed him. He died a month before our son was born. It's only been a year now and I'm still mourning and I will compare men to him. So I'm just like my son is the only man I need in my life. So it takes time.
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| 5/30/2014 8:38:06 AM |
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lalunamoondeer
Bartlesville, OK
53, joined Apr. 2014
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Hello everyone I am getting such a comforting feeling reading all of your posts. June 15th will be a year and a half for me. The love of my life and I were reunited after 30 years. We were true soul mates and engaged to be married. We were so vey much in love. I lost him to a massive heart attack one day shy of 7 months of being back together. People are like WHAT? you arnt over it yet ??? I get so mad and upset. They don't understand I had loved this man since I was 18 years old I am now 50. Even though I married another and raised 2 children I never forgot about my D. We had our own lives we had to live. I was friends with his Mother Sister and Daughter although we never let him know cause it wasn't about him. He sure was surprised to find out though. I am hard headed and have insisted I do this in my way and my own time running off almost everyone. I didn't care though. If someone wants me not to talk about him or miss him I don't kneed them in my life. It gets very lonely at times. I wont have another boyfriend because he set the standard so high no one will ever compare to him. Some say its wrong to compare but its how I feel and if I feel it, it must be right for me. I have his Doberman with me and he is very good company. Im so thankful to have him with me threw all of this. I am truly sorry for all of your losses. no matter how long you were together married or not. A friend described it as driving a long the freeway on all 4 tires and 2 blow out. Its a big wreck and scientifically it dose shake your equilibrium learning to stand on your own 2 feet again is one of the hardest things you will ever have to do. So love and light to you all!!!!I also know that pain.
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| 6/23/2014 12:33:11 AM |
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ladiebugg55
Redding, CA
61, joined Jun. 2012
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I'm 27, I lost my fiance to a drunk driver a little over 3 years ago. I get mad when people say I still talk about her too much, is it a bad thing that I talk about her and if it's not should I be understanding of the people who are saying it is?
Just because it's been 3 yrs doesn't mean your grieving time should be over..we all grieve and heal in our own time and handle it differently from others..I still have a voice mail from my late husband on my cell and it's been nearly 7 yrs..my sister overheard that voice email as I was going through my messages and she jumped all over me about it...she ticked me off!..her daughter retaliated defending me and telling her mom that when I'm ready to delete it I will...I had 4 messages from him but lost 3 and I just fell apart..I now just have the one, and that's ok...I talk about my late husband about lot, so what...to each their own..
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| 6/23/2014 1:46:44 PM |
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sorpstar
Wayne, NJ
64, joined Oct. 2009
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When someone decides to close chapter one esp after death, chapter two only then should begin but you have to remember whomever is part of chapter two comes with questions and answers yet if it happens no matta your age mutually you can find the path of happiness.
Biggest problems are having children that grow up to resent a new partner maybe because that child resents losing a parent or maybe inheritance also. Best thing have a mutual Q&A with someone youre interested in and date if your questions are not mutually satisfactory..jmo
I coulda been a widower if i had married in college yet couldnt because i played sports but after xmas break my love was killed by a impaired driver and used that as an excuse for a few yrs not to date but i guess i wasnt ready either then.
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| 6/23/2014 9:14:36 PM |
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angeleyes7153
Baker, WV
40, joined Aug. 2013
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I am not a widow but my oldest sister lost her husband to suicide a little over a year ago and it has been a horrible struggle for her and our entire family. She has found a great guy and had some happier days but she still sits around and cries frim time to time. You can't put a time limit on grief some deal differently than most but how long it takes should never be judged by anyone. I am so sorry for all the losses everyone has suffered and my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
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| 7/29/2014 4:02:15 AM |
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caco1012
Lancaster, CA
39, joined Jun. 2014
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Thought i was young at 35. Im so sorry for your loss. It's been just over a year for me. I find myself wanting to venture out but at the same time feeling tremendous guilt. I'm lonely, but at the same time gaurded work both my heart and my children. Sending you happy thoughts and many prayers
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| 7/29/2014 9:10:41 PM |
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peachygirlk
Bogart, GA
27, joined Dec. 2013
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I just turned 25 Sunday, lost my hubby/best friend January of last year. I grew up with him, knew him pretty much my whole life up to this point. It was devastating and I am not ready to be committed to anyone unless they are 100% perfect. Don't rush things, you will heal in your own time. Don't let others pressure or judge you, for no one but you knows when you're ready to move on and accept the situation.
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| 9/19/2014 3:19:42 AM |
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dennismacklin
Knoxville, TN
43, joined Mar. 2014
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Am so sorry for your lost
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