| 1/30/2016 9:58:07 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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The man that I have been dating for two years wants to get married, I told him when we first met that I was just looking for friendship companion and a traveling partner and it was okay with him, but now he kept on and on about us getting married, I do have feelings for him but I don't want to get married. I have accomplished some material things in life and don't want to split them with anyone, this stuff will be for my kids when I'm gone. Now do you all think I'm selfish or I'm being to hard on my friend and companion?
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| 1/30/2016 10:10:55 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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criminal_act
FPO, AP
96, joined Jun. 2014
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| 1/30/2016 10:15:55 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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I need more than just a laugh
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| 1/30/2016 10:18:05 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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micheleisgreat
Pittsburgh, PA
53, joined Nov. 2013
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You are a grown woman. Do or don't do whatever you want. Why are you asking the opinions of strangers?
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| 1/30/2016 10:23:02 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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You are a grown woman. Do or don't do whatever you want. Why are you asking the opinions of strangers?
u
I guess I have a gilt, feel bad about it
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| 1/30/2016 10:24:21 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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cherisays
Lancaster, CA
32, joined Dec. 2014
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Marriage is the leading cause of divorce...
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| 1/30/2016 10:34:07 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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Marriage is the leading cause of divorce...
yes I've been there so that's another reason why I won't
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| 1/30/2016 10:34:17 AM |
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aintmyb_tch
Ponchatoula, LA
96, joined Aug. 2015
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Oh sweet jesus
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| 1/30/2016 10:38:29 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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criminal_act
FPO, AP
96, joined Jun. 2014
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| 1/30/2016 11:01:06 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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tonyloxoxoxoxox
Dayton, OH
47, joined Sep. 2014
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OH SWEET MOMMA !!!
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| 1/30/2016 11:09:11 AM |
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ivaiva
Goleta, CA
48, joined Oct. 2007
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I guess I have a gilt, feel bad about it
I think you have to find out why you are feeling guilty. You are saying you were honest since the beginning and he agreed so it is not that.
Think if you will feel guilty about your kids If you marry him. And take your own decision, don't do it because of someone else.
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| 1/30/2016 11:16:58 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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You could have a prenup that would ensure your kids get what you want them to get. He probably wants to ensure his wishes for his kids are safe, too.
But if you don't want to get married, that's up to you and it shouldn't matter if you're being hard or unfair or selfish. It's your decision for whatever reason you have. Just as it's his decision for what he does with that. Is this something that might become a deal-breaker for him?
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| 1/30/2016 11:44:09 AM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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sinceresammy
Dayton, OH
61, joined Mar. 2014
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DH is the place to come for good advice!
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| 1/30/2016 11:58:13 AM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
39, joined Feb. 2012
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I never understood that meaning or validation of marriage. It's just a piece of paper.
Just tell him again. If its meant to be it will be.
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| 1/30/2016 12:04:29 PM |
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enigmaathand
Leavittsburg, OH
35, joined Mar. 2013
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I never understood that meaning or validation of marriage. It's just a piece of paper.
Just tell him again. If its meant to be it will be.
I don't believe in marriage. It is nothing more than a legal contract. What I recommend, is telling him why you don't want to get married. I refuse to get married, for the very same reasons. If you set the boundaries, from the start of this relationship, then it is on you to maintain those boundaries. If he wishes to continue to press the issues and your boundaries, you may have to cut him loose. I wouldn't marry any woman, that can not respect my boundaries.
Why would you want to marry someone, that is not respecting that you do not wish to be married again? If he violates that boundary, what other boundaries will he cross?
He knew the rules, when he started seeing you. If he expected that to change, he should have said something.
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| 1/30/2016 12:07:18 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
39, joined Feb. 2012
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^^ perfectly put.
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| 1/30/2016 12:25:11 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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I never understood that meaning or validation of marriage. It's just a piece of paper.
Just tell him again. If its meant to be it will be.
But if it's just a piece of paper, then it doesn't matter if you do have it. It won't make a difference either way. If it's just a piece of paper, it won't matter if you honor it or not. A divorce decree is just a piece of paper, too.... I mean, it evidently is more than just a piece of paper if people have to keep insisting that's all it is.
However, not everyone feels the need to have that piece of paper and that's great. For some, it is important and evidently this guy feels that way.
OP, if you've never given him hope that he could change your mind, even if his feelings about that changed over the course of your relationship, it's no fault of either of you. Feelings change over time and what was OK once sometimes becomes not OK. It's what happens now that matters. Can the two of you still go on? If you can't, can you handle not being together anymore?
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| 1/30/2016 12:30:40 PM |
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jjp184
Somerset, NJ
52, joined Jun. 2013
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I don't see the point of buying the heifer either
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| 1/30/2016 12:39:35 PM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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The man that I have been dating for two years wants to get married, I told him when we first met that I was just looking for friendship companion and a traveling partner and it was okay with him, but now he kept on and on about us getting married, I do have feelings for him but I don't want to get married. I have accomplished some material things in life and don't want to split them with anyone, this stuff will be for my kids when I'm gone. Now do you all think I'm selfish or I'm being to hard on my friend and companion?
I am starting to think that the one who wanna get married is the one who got more to gain...
Actually the same happens in reverse all the time: cute young women without any money and not really interested in a career wanted to get married with a lawyer, a doctor or a wealthy businessman....
No, you are not being selfish. 
You need to do what makes you happy and what is convenient for you and your children.
Tell to your companion that you don't want to get married. Period.
Why does he want to get married by the way?
If you live together where is the difference??
That makes me think that guy really has an eye on your money...be careful. 
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| 1/30/2016 12:53:46 PM |
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l380
Alabaster, AL
44, joined Sep. 2014
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I don't think there's anything wrong with the op's question.
Maybe she just want's to run it by the masses and see what the average answer would be.
It's on her mind obviously and this IS the Relationship forum after all....
If the only reason you don't want to get married is material, go with a pre-nup like lake suggested.
Now, if he is persistent and pushy, there's something fishy about his reasons for wanting to hitch his wagon to yours.
Make sure he's not marrying you for security reasons.
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| 1/30/2016 1:10:07 PM |
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lookin4him2012
Boone, NC
48, joined Jan. 2012
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The man that I have been dating for two years wants to get married, I told him when we first met that I was just looking for friendship companion and a traveling partner and it was okay with him, but now he kept on and on about us getting married, I do have feelings for him but I don't want to get married. I have accomplished some material things in life and don't want to split them with anyone, this stuff will be for my kids when I'm gone. Now do you all think I'm selfish or I'm being to hard on my friend and companion?
Get a pre-nup. All settled.
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| 1/30/2016 1:43:53 PM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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In my experience, it's always been the man who wanted the committed relationship and/or marriage before I did. I don't know if it's because of insecurity or if it's just that I meet them when they're ready. I guess if they're pushy about it, it would make me cautious and start wondering about possible reasons.
Maybe he is just thinking it's the next logical step.
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| 1/30/2016 1:55:12 PM |
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packersbabe920
Green Bay, WI
51, joined Jul. 2013
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Op if u don't want to get married, then it's so go with your heart cause your mind will plays tricks on u
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| 1/30/2016 1:59:48 PM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
54, joined May. 2011
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I believe in contracts.
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| 1/30/2016 2:05:44 PM |
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grneyesrme
Sacramento, CA
48, joined Aug. 2013
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What is his reasoning for wanting to get married?
I've been married & don't really want to do it again. I think marriage is an institution for kids. Mine are grown. I would only get married again if it made sense for insurance, financial reasons for both people.
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| 1/30/2016 2:40:00 PM |
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l380
Alabaster, AL
44, joined Sep. 2014
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Lake has a point again, maybe he just thinks it's the next thing to do.
But, Packersbabe has a point also in that we all know what happens if you over-think your gut instinct.
Personally, I never intend to be married again. Thanks, but no.
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| 1/30/2016 2:50:45 PM |
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ivaiva
Goleta, CA
48, joined Oct. 2007
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I believe in contracts.
So bad that there is no contract for happiness. 
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| 1/30/2016 10:40:40 PM |
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hogaseman
Benátky nad Jizerou
Czech Republic
65, joined Jun. 2014
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If I ever get stupid enough to get married again. .I'll just find a woman who hates me and buy her a f**kin house.
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| 1/30/2016 11:11:42 PM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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ladyog
Erlanger, KY
60, joined Feb. 2009
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Hell no...I'm not relationship material...
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| 1/30/2016 11:19:13 PM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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hey! Welcome back, Lady!
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| 1/30/2016 11:22:42 PM |
Don't wanna get married! |
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ladyog
Erlanger, KY
60, joined Feb. 2009
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Thanks lakes....
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| 1/31/2016 12:54:13 AM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
63, joined Nov. 2013
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OP - As long as you were honest with him-about marriage, etc-from the start, you are blameless. He is the one who mis-represented...claiming he was fine with your attitude, and then trying to change you, and the relationship. Dump him, and find someone new who CAN handle the situation.
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| 1/31/2016 1:00:52 AM |
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im2thexy
Belleville, ON
48, joined Dec. 2014
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If you don't want to get married then don't and certainly don't get married out of guilt...but also be prepared for this guy to move on to find someone who does want to get married because it sounds important to him....
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| 1/31/2016 8:44:25 AM |
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frappeyes
Houston, TX
67, joined Nov. 2011
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Your gut is telling you "no" for a reason. Listen to your intuition. Is marriage something that would increase your happiness? Frankly, I'm not seeing how marriage would enhance your life.
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| 1/31/2016 8:52:38 AM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
48, joined Jun. 2014
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well your going to whether u like it or not
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| 1/31/2016 2:00:19 PM |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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I think you have to find out why you are feeling guilty. You are saying you were honest since the beginning and he agreed so it is not that.
Think if you will feel guilty about your kids If you marry him. And take your own decision, don't do it because of someone else.
Thanks for the advice, and my kids are happy with whatever I decide to do I have very understanding kids.
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| 1/31/2016 2:06:46 PM |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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You could have a prenup that would ensure your kids get what you want them to get. He probably wants to ensure his wishes for his kids are safe, too.
But if you don't want to get married, that's up to you and it shouldn't matter if you're being hard or unfair or selfish. It's your decision for whatever reason you have. Just as it's his decision for what he does with that. Is this something that might become a deal-breaker for him?
yes I do think it will be a deal breaker for him, but thanks I never taught about a prenup.
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| 1/31/2016 2:12:15 PM |
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amusicluvr
Salem, OR
63, joined Nov. 2013
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Prenups can be broken by a good attorney. They constitute 'Duress', by saying: "sign this, or I will not marry you!"
Duress invalidates any contract....making the contract (prenup) null, and void.
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| 1/31/2016 2:13:17 PM |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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I don't believe in marriage. It is nothing more than a legal contract. What I recommend, is telling him why you don't want to get married. I refuse to get married, for the very same reasons. If you set the boundaries, from the start of this relationship, then it is on you to maintain those boundaries. If he wishes to continue to press the issues and your boundaries, you may have to cut him loose. I wouldn't marry any woman, that can not respect my boundaries.
Why would you want to marry someone, that is not respecting that you do not wish to be married again? If he violates that boundary, what other boundaries will he cross?
He knew the rules, when he started seeing you. If he expected that to change, he should have said something.
Thank you that is the exact way I feel.
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| 1/31/2016 2:25:34 PM |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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But if it's just a piece of paper, then it doesn't matter if you do have it. It won't make a difference either way. If it's just a piece of paper, it won't matter if you honor it or not. A divorce decree is just a piece of paper, too.... I mean, it evidently is more than just a piece of paper if people have to keep insisting that's all it is.
However, not everyone feels the need to have that piece of paper and that's great. For some, it is important and evidently this guy feels that way.
OP, if you've never given him hope that he could change your mind, even if his feelings about that changed over the course of your relationship, it's no fault of either of you. Feelings change over time and what was OK once sometimes becomes not OK. It's what happens now that matters. Can the two of you still go on? If you can't, can you handle not being together anymore?
I'm just happy the way things are right now and if we have to take a break or go our separate ways then so be it, but bottom line no marriage for me.
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| 1/31/2016 3:46:07 PM |
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lucky_1million
Pewaukee, WI
49, joined Jun. 2013
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The man that I have been dating for two years wants to get married, I told him when we first met that I was just looking for friendship companion and a traveling partner and it was okay with him.
Friendship, companionship and traveling makes a good foundation for a relationship. To me it feels better than a mainly sex-based relationship.
I agree with you in not wanting to get married.
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| 1/31/2016 6:46:37 PM |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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Friendship, companionship and traveling makes a good foundation for a relationship. To me it feels better than a mainly sex-based relationship.
I agree with you in not wanting to get married.
yes, that is what I wanted.
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| 1/31/2016 9:20:51 PM |
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driver406
Saint Paul, MN
64, joined Oct. 2009
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You're clear of all guilt, OPie. You told the guy your feelings when you went in so he went in with his eyes open. I think the problem is his, not yours. You want to keep your stuff for your kids? Fine, you told him that and he thought he could change your mind, but he couldn't. The problem is his. If he wanted marriage he should have taken up with a different woman (No offense, k?) who was looking for the same thing. Don't give in, you'll regret it, but I think there's more to the story than you've told.
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| 2/1/2016 2:33:50 AM |
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sadlsticsienna
AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
23, joined Jan. 2016
online now!
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Best to be with someone who wants the same thing as you or
one or both people will end up unhappy.
1 from being pressured to change and
2 from being unhappy that they aren't getting what they want out of the situation
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| 2/1/2016 4:38:10 AM |
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cavie59
Enid, OK
57, joined Feb. 2010
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The man that I have been dating for two years wants to get married, I told him when we first met that I was just looking for friendship companion and a traveling partner and it was okay with him, but now he kept on and on about us getting married, I do have feelings for him but I don't want to get married. I have accomplished some material things in life and don't want to split them with anyone, this stuff will be for my kids when I'm gone. Now do you all think I'm selfish or I'm being to hard on my friend and companion?
I have a question for you, if you did not have some of the material things that you have, but he did, would you still say no to marriage?
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| 2/1/2016 5:34:42 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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The man that I have been dating for two years wants to get married, I told him when we first met that I was just looking for friendship companion and a traveling partner and it was okay with him, but now he kept on and on about us getting married, I do have feelings for him but I don't want to get married.
"""" I have accomplished some material things in life and don't want to split them with anyone, this stuff will be for my kids when I'm gone. Now do you all think I'm selfish or I'm being to hard on my friend and companion?
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Wow!!!,,,I can see not wanting to get married, if your not feeling it....but to horde your material things all to yourself????
Well...its just like I've stated many times on here....that old fake image of women in the past...sure was a bunch of bullshit....now wasn't it.?????
....it sure was...meaning women have nothing to offer a man.. but sex.....and enough times, that sex isn't that great either...and I'm sure in OP's case....most of the sex goes to her.
Op.....here's the solution....just write a profile saying you want a boy toy and just be more honest.
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| 2/1/2016 5:40:09 AM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
61, joined Apr. 2011
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Its funny....how men having some material things is so important to women....and how many women out there have no material things of any importants or value....then hope to con some dude and move in and call it all theirs too....his house, car and etc.
Between this and the ops thread here....should be a wake call to all men.
" f**k taking women serious"
They are not what the myth claims....all they are is human, no better than men.
Just as capable of lying and everything else.
and in reality, take away the p*ssy....they really have nothing to offer.
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| 2/1/2016 5:43:57 AM |
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alls_fair
Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
96, joined May. 2011
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You don't wanna get married until your wants change...which is about the same time you discover he has 2 or 3 other proposals under consideration...
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| 2/1/2016 6:20:55 AM |
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flyfish77
Conyers, GA
51, joined Jul. 2014
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dont be selfish hunny,if you have money an possessions,you have to leave them with me eventualy...me an my wife shared every thing allways.
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| 2/1/2016 6:26:06 AM |
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rightguyforu92
Lisle, IL
38, joined Feb. 2015
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Ok you not a Pacific Islander
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| 2/1/2016 7:10:52 AM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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Gosh. I must be the only one of weak mind.
I do wish to marry, one day. I look forward to loving another as though I love myself. Giving all of my heart, mind, and body to him. And, he does the same-- Is there any greater happiness I can attain??
[Edited 2/1/2016 7:12:20 AM ]
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| 2/1/2016 7:29:52 AM |
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alls_fair
Thorlákshöfn
Iceland
96, joined May. 2011
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Gosh. I must be the only one of weak mind.
I do wish to marry, one day. I look forward to loving another as though I love myself. Giving all of my heart, mind, and body to him. And, he does the same-- Is there any greater happiness I can attain??
Whomever left you with the impression that marriage is all about wedded bliss may have fudged the facts...A LITTLE!
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| 2/1/2016 7:49:00 AM |
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blurussian
Tarawa Terrace, NC
27, joined Dec. 2015
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Who said anything about wedded bliss? To presume that marriage isn't going to take 'work' and giving of both partners would be ignorant. I don't dream of some white picket fence... just a genuine meeting of the minds and body. Which, from my perspective, would be far harder to attain than the 'white picket fence' scenario.
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| 2/1/2016 8:32:54 AM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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Its funny....how men having some material things is so important to women....and how many women out there have no material things of any importants or value....then hope to con some dude and move in and call it all theirs too....his house, car and etc.
Between this and the ops thread here....should be a wake call to all men.
" f**k taking women serious"
They are not what the myth claims....all they are is human, no better than men.
Just as capable of lying and everything else.
and in reality, take away the p*ssy....they really have nothing to offer.
I don't like women like that, I think they are parasites and not interested in pursuing any personal goal on life...how interesting can be someone like that by the way? I guess they really have only the p*ssy to offer..
Usually those kind of women are stupid because by not developing any skills at all, they put themselves in a possible trap...
In fact if their man-provider becames abusive they cannot leave because they are uncapable to provide for themselves...
I don't have much sympathy for abused-crying women because I think they put themselves in that situation voluntarily
..however exist also men who are parasites and who seek a woman to give them material things...especially at our age..
I don't wanna anything from men but I am not willing to marry someone with no career and not a place of his own either...I am not going to support the loser...
Sorry, but I have never been a parasite myself and I feel I am just too old for taking parasites on my shoulders as well..
Quite fair.
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| 2/1/2016 8:37:11 AM |
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stregaleonora
Atlanta, GA
40, joined Jun. 2014
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Gosh. I must be the only one of weak mind.
I do wish to marry, one day. I look forward to loving another as though I love myself. Giving all of my heart, mind, and body to him. And, he does the same-- Is there any greater happiness I can attain??
Be careful...
If you wanna give all yourself...make sure the guy isn't a moron before...
..and don't give all yourself cone on...
..keep your mind..
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| 2/1/2016 9:44:04 AM |
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frappeyes
Houston, TX
67, joined Nov. 2011
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Why so harsh with op? She is 53 years old and lives in a community property state. If things go wrong in a marriage, she cannot magically make herself younger and re-earn thirty years worth of income saved toward retirement. This is not "selfishness" or "hoarding" as some of you seem to believe. She doesn't want to be a burden on her children - who does?
She is looking pragmatically at her situation. For those of you that think only men have to deal with the "I want a meal ticket/gold digger" type of individual - trust me, it works both ways. Women also quite frequently encounter these individuals. I remember Settee posting one time that a man asked her on a meetup date what her net worth was. At my age, we call it: he's looking for a "nurse with a purse".
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| 2/1/2016 10:01:48 AM |
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soulflight
Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014
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Then don't.
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| 2/1/2016 11:07:34 AM |
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nyythawk
Denver, CO
53, joined Nov. 2010
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I think you're probably a very immature 53 yr. old if you need to come online and ask strangers a question like this, let alone CARE what they (we) think.
1. Other than a house, your kids probably won't even want your junk. I'm saying that because for some reason, I don't think any of it is actually valuable... not monetarily at least.
2. Be a grown up. If you don't want to marry, then you don't want to marry. You don't have to justify your feelings to anyone.
3. "Split them up" implies you'd EXPECT to fail if you did marry. So just another reason you shouldn't.
4. Tell your friend you sought counsel on DH. If he's smart, he'll dump you and wa-lah... problem solved.
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| 2/1/2016 11:26:42 AM |
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giveuaccess
Houston, TX
53, joined Jun. 2013
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I don't like women like that, I think they are parasites and not interested in pursuing any personal goal on life...how interesting can be someone like that by the way? I guess they really have only the p*ssy to offer..
Usually those kind of women are stupid because by not developing any skills at all, they put themselves in a possible trap...
In fact if their man-provider becames abusive they cannot leave because they are uncapable to provide for themselves...
I don't have much sympathy for abused-crying women because I think they put themselves in that situation voluntarily
..however exist also men who are parasites and who seek a woman to give them material things...especially at our age..
I don't wanna anything from men but I am not willing to marry someone with no career and not a place of his own either...I am not going to support the loser...
Sorry, but I have never been a parasite myself and I feel I am just too old for taking parasites on my shoulders as well..
Quite fair.
I agree with you!
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| 2/1/2016 11:29:06 AM |
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grande_mamon
Houston, TX
49, joined Sep. 2014
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The man that I have been dating for two years wants to get married, I told him when we first met that I was just looking for friendship companion and a traveling partner and it was okay with him, but now he kept on and on about us getting married, I do have feelings for him but I don't want to get married. I have accomplished some material things in life and don't want to split them with anyone
You don't have to. You live in Texas, Texas is a community property state when it comes to divorce which basically means...anything you had before marriage remains yours. The only property up for grabs is that which you gain WHILE married.
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