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5/25/2016 11:57:22 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

soulflight
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5/25/2016 12:08:59 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
Amuseme73
BadraoMilan
Italy
43, joined Mar. 2016


Quote from sadlsticsienna:
or go in a relationship with a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?


YES!Not only wrong, it's absurd.

5/25/2016 1:04:14 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

digital_knight
Over 2,000 Posts (2,534)
Grand Rapids, MI
44, joined Nov. 2012


Quote from stregaleonora:
Digital knight is the typical embittered loser:

He hates beautiful women and he probably hates successful people as well.

Abusers are all people like that: unhappy and resentful.

People who are happy and don't hate what they cannot have are not abusers.




Nope you are wrong .


Abuser like you don't know what they want in life they think they know but once they have it they find out they don't actually want it or act as if they are not satisfied so they keep searching and putting people down as they go . That what makes people like you an abuser .

5/25/2016 3:40:23 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

lamoneonly
San Diego, CA
19, joined Mar. 2015


Lol
This chick is hilarious

5/25/2016 7:36:25 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Quote from digital_knight:
Nope you are wrong .


Abuser like you don't know what they want in life they think they know but once they have it they find out they don't actually want it or act as if they are not satisfied so they keep searching and putting people down as they go . That what makes people like you an abuser .


Sure.

5/25/2016 7:37:50 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Quote from Amuseme73:
YES!Not only wrong, it's absurd.


She did have some bad experience that's why she said so.

In my opinion she should just stop dating for a while.



[Edited 5/25/2016 7:38:17 PM ]

5/25/2016 7:54:38 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

avgjoe0266
Over 10,000 Posts!!! (46,091)
Grovetown, GA
50, joined Aug. 2008


I consider that just going out,not dating.
I go out with ladies of all (legal) ages with no intentions of having sex with them.
if I take them out on a date then anything is possible

5/25/2016 11:52:59 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

mistermister81
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35, joined Jan. 2014


Quote from sadlsticsienna:
or go in a relationship with a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?

They always end up being such disappointments it's easier to avoid it and wait till the breakup happens lol. Then I have peace in knowing they never got that close to me at all really. It only gets hard when I think I have feelings for them and I have something that resembles hope that they aren't users and jerks. Eventually they show their true colors.
And anyway most men suck at sex and it's just like whyyy bother when I can satisfy myself better than they could

Does anyone else feel the same way when it comes to men?


So why get into a relationship or involved with a man you selfish b*tch.

5/26/2016 3:06:59 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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So why get into a relationship or involved with a man you selfish b*tch.

Aww looks like I hit a nerve



5/26/2016 4:29:11 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Yeah.
Mister Mister is the d*ckhead of DH. Everybody knows it.

5/26/2016 6:17:43 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

mr_hexy
Andreas, PA
39, joined Feb. 2013


Quote from Amuseme73:
YES!Not only wrong, it's absurd.
Now that a real liberated woman talking Applause!

5/26/2016 9:04:37 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
Over 2,000 Posts (3,162)
AñatuyaNew South Wales
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Mister Mister is the d*ckhead of DH. Everybody knows it.

I had no idea.

5/26/2016 9:07:44 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
joe4u2explore
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mornin' See.

5/26/2016 9:17:58 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
Over 2,000 Posts (3,162)
AñatuyaNew South Wales
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Morning Joe

5/26/2016 10:38:17 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I had no idea.


Now you know it.

He is also known for being a gentleman with women.

5/26/2016 10:41:17 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
Over 7,500 Posts!! (7,674)
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..Sadistic why when you quote, never appear the name of the person you quote?

I wondered that? Not big deal...just curiosity..

Are you chatting with the app?

5/26/2016 12:20:34 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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because I quote manually by typing in [q.uote ] [/q.uote] without the fullstops

5/26/2016 12:47:49 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
because I quote manually by typing in [q.uote ] [/q.uote] without the fullstops


Oh so you dont have the command "quote" on top of the posts?

...interesting..

Thanks Sadistic!

5/26/2016 12:51:34 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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I do but the webdesigner in me makes me type it out manually out of habit lmao

5/26/2016 1:08:16 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I do but the webdesigner in me makes me type it out manually out of habit lmao


Ok just curious!

5/26/2016 1:24:46 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
Amuseme73
BadraoMilan
Italy
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Quote from stregaleonora:

In my opinion she should just stop dating for a while.


That's more sensible.

5/26/2016 1:29:55 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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So because I am not into casual sex I shouldnt date?

5/26/2016 1:33:52 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
Amuseme73
BadraoMilan
Italy
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
So because I am not into casual sex I shouldnt date?


To be in a relationship with a man (or a woman for that matter) does include sex, which is not casual at all. Unless of course you are a virgin and want to keep it that way till you are married.

5/26/2016 1:39:21 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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So because Im not a virgin suddenly my chasity has no value? No wonder people are such sluts these days with thinking like that. Or perhaps it is an excuse.

5/26/2016 1:46:11 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
So because I am not into casual sex I shouldnt date?


No exactly.
I think you do like sex like everybody else.
But from your posts I think I understood that you had some disappointment; like a guy you cared about who didn't give you the kind of committment and security you expected. And nothing is wrong with that.

That left a sign in you since you are sensitive.
(we are not talking of casual sex. Just to have sex in a relationship).

So now your idea of not having sex is just a way to protect yourself from another similar experience.

You need to trust a partner. I think that you should't get involved emotionally again for a while. Just the time to cope with this. That's all.

5/26/2016 1:47:09 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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....still exist people who marry virgin??

5/26/2016 1:55:35 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
Amuseme73
BadraoMilan
Italy
43, joined Mar. 2016


Quote from sadlsticsienna:
So because Im not a virgin suddenly my chasity has no value? No wonder people are such sluts these days with thinking like that. Or perhaps it is an excuse.


I maybe a slut in bed but I'm not outside it. So hold your horses young lady.

You asked a question and I gave my opinion.

Quote from stregaleonora:
....still exist people who marry virgin??


Don't know any but who knows. There might be some.



[Edited 5/26/2016 1:56:17 PM ]

5/26/2016 2:04:59 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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I was always like this even when I was with someone. Gets worse when new people come into my life in a dating sense. Truth is I don't know what I want. Im unsure of everything including myself. I haven't really had thaat many bad experiences I'm just insanely paranoid and anxious. I either like or hate people and its pretty easy for me to like someone one second and hate them the next. Thats just my personality. When I date guys one second I might love them and the next I think either 1 of two things, either that they are evil in some way and are going to use me Or that Im just not sure if I like them and I get super confused. Its like that for every relationship I have pretty much even my family. Sometimes I cant seperate the thoughts from reality. I cant tell if its just me being crazy or if its true

5/26/2016 2:06:07 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Yes.
I guess some people into religion, still value verginity.

5/26/2016 2:07:11 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

thekinghasrisen
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
So because Im not a virgin suddenly my chasity has no value?


It can have as much value to YOU as you want it to dear.

That doesn't mean that a man should accept that someone had sex with a lesser man, but (having learned the lessons it takes to get a real man) decides the new man isn't worth the same TLC that the lesser man got. That's just bad economics.

This is particularly jarring in the case of women with kids who claim to be 'celibate'. So, I'm supposed to deal with the little proofs of the fact that you sexed some OTHER man, running around shooting Nerf darts at my head, while you try to live out your pristine fantasy on my time?

Unless you're the best kisser in the solar system, or have a liberal interpretation of the word 'sex'; it's just unlikely to happen.



[Edited 5/26/2016 2:07:43 PM ]

5/26/2016 2:14:38 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Quote from sadlsticsienna:
I was always like this even when I was with someone. Gets worse when new people come into my life in a dating sense. Truth is I don't know what I want. Im unsure of everything including myself. I haven't really had thaat many bad experiences I'm just insanely paranoid and anxious. I either like or hate people and its pretty easy for me to like someone one second and hate them the next. Thats just my personality. When I date guys one second I might love them and the next I think either 1 of two things, either that they are evil in some way and are going to use me Or that Im just not sure if I like them and I get super confused. Its like that for every relationship I have pretty much even my family. Sometimes I cant seperate the thoughts from reality. I cant tell if its just me being crazy or if its true


You are not crazy, you are just really young and grew in a society (ours) that IS crazy.

I am older than you, I could be your mom I guess.

You should focus on yourself, and discover what you want and what really makes you happy.
The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. It that relationship is good, everything else became manageable.

Most people use meditation. Music. Going after your dreams. There are many techniques to "find yourself".

5/26/2016 2:22:06 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
Amuseme73
BadraoMilan
Italy
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Quote from stregaleonora:
Yes.
I guess some people into religion, still value verginity.


Yep. Religion can be a strong motive.

5/26/2016 2:27:05 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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King thats a pretty unfair view. I dont even know where to start on it since a lot of it pissed me off lol. I am on my phone so its difficult.. how are the previous males 'lesser' males? exactly. The whole premise of that argument is based on the idea of some sort of entitlement to sex. And Streg yeah well i havent dated in over a year and i feel like Im kinda wasting time and what I have now is unhealthy since the main friendship and relationship I have is with my ex. I don't have any other friends

5/26/2016 3:10:15 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
stregaleonora
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Sadistic,
don't listen to most men on such a subject. You understand is like to ask to a bear if you should give him your honey. Not really objective.

What I was pointing out is that you are not wasting time. You don't need to be dating. You do it because it adds pleasure to your life.

..."wasting time" ...you talking like if dating is some sort of something you GOTTA do...

Is not.
What makes you happy is more important, and is the right way...

..I don't know if I made myself clear in what I wanted to express....I hope so..

5/27/2016 4:18:08 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

dantana77
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Frederick, MD
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its equally offensive if a woman knowingly prolongs the charade that her suitor isn't getting in the nappy dugout. but, honestly, if homeboy hasn't figured out in 3 hours she isn't giving him the p*ssy he deserves to be played for whatever booty he inevitably is losing

5/27/2016 9:29:03 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

lovethelake17
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Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009


Quote from thekinghasrisen:
It can have as much value to YOU as you want it to dear.

That doesn't mean that a man should accept that someone had sex with a lesser man, but (having learned the lessons it takes to get a real man) decides the new man isn't worth the same TLC that the lesser man got. That's just bad economics.

This is particularly jarring in the case of women with kids who claim to be 'celibate'. So, I'm supposed to deal with the little proofs of the fact that you sexed some OTHER man, running around shooting Nerf darts at my head, while you try to live out your pristine fantasy on my time?

Unless you're the best kisser in the solar system, or have a liberal interpretation of the word 'sex'; it's just unlikely to happen.


Celibate means only that you don't have sex, not that you never did. A person can "claim" it and actually be it.

As for a non-virgin to decide not to have sex until such time as they decide to, it is not up to someone to demand that they have sex with them because they once had sex to a lesser man or greater man.

If I had waited 'til marriage, and now have a child, I can certainly decide to wait again if that should so be my choice. In fact, it doesn't matter if I didn't wait the first time. I get to because it is my life, my body, and my decision. I get to conduct myself the way I see fit. Granted, I have to accept however that plays out in a new relationship. But I gotta tell you, if he insists that because I have a child, I no longer have the choice then he's not the man for me, and I'm not the woman for him.

Personally, I think it's the very definition of a "lesser man" to be so caught up in who his date had sex with and what she shared with someone else and why she isn't doing him the same TLC way when he wants it.

No one person gets to drive the relationship train. Decisions made, once they get to the point that to go forward requires mutual decisions, are made together or it ends. If one decides to wait 'til marriage, whatever their past, and the other cannot agree to that, then the relationship ends. You have to talk about expectations in relationships and be clear and open about them, and be clear and open to any consequences to your decisions about those expectations.

Which goes right back to the original question. It is not wrong as long as he knows exactly what's going on and he's decided that's OK for him. It is not something I would personally decide because when I'm dating I'm considering all the possibilities and potentialities. If I'm dating, I'm already sexually interested, right along along with all the other interests I have in him.

5/27/2016 9:37:51 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

grande_mamon
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OT.

It's really no different than having a neighbor you're not going to be neighborly with.

5/27/2016 10:57:45 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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King's argument is based on the fallacy of equality.
That what thy neighbor receives thy should also receive.
Just because someone else received something doesn't mean you are entitled to that same thing.
In some circumstances the idea of equality is applicable but not ALL.
In gender related issues it is applicable but not in every single one and certainly not in relationships and sex.

6/2/2016 9:07:12 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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Can chewing gum be used as birth control like
plugging the cervix or is that dangerous/wouldn't work?
Lol just saw someone say gum somewhere and yeah
IDK
xD

6/5/2016 3:19:10 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

indianadave1951
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So where is the law that says one has to get involved sexually simply because a man and a woman are dating?

6/5/2016 8:34:50 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
doublethree
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If the man knows your intent and wants to date you still, then it shouldn't be much problem. I guess it could still be tough on one or the other, but the really bad part would be dating a guy and him thinking you want sex when you don't. In all honesty, I want to date a virgin 18 yo, if any still exist who are hot, so I want someone who hadn't been having sex with any guys to begin with.

6/5/2016 8:38:55 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

xray6
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never date one-woman-at-a-time


easy fix for men

6/5/2016 10:19:29 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
doublethree
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ha. if I dated more than one woman at a time things would be so much easier.

6/6/2016 9:19:45 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

my2sunshine
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If you have made a decision to never have sex with the man and continue to date him then you should tell him.
Of course if you don't tell him and continue to date him then that would be wrong!

Users and jerks? Not good at sex? This all sounds like someone who can't communicate their needs and desires! You haven't made a connection with a man that wants to pleasure you like you want because you don't talk about it or instruct him! Take the time to talk about desires and explore...you might find that men are enjoyable.

6/6/2016 10:18:26 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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Ok I was learning about human reasoning and logic and I came up with this, pretty sure its correct:

Argument:
If you are dating, then you have to have sex (premise)
therefore is it wrong to date if you won't have sex


If dating = P and sex = Q
P (dating) = Q (sex)
so not Q (having sex) = not P (should not be dating)

Valid argument (because if P then Q, therefore not Q = Not P)
Not a sound argument because the premise is dating = sex and that
premise is not true because dating does not always mean you have to have sex.
You can date without having sex therefore it is not wrong to date if you won't have sex.

It's obviously more complicated than a logical equation. It's fairly common knowledge that people THINK dating = sex but it doesn't 100% have to equal that. Some dates are short, sometimes you don't know them that well etc etc many reasons.

But speaking of right and wrong it really to me seems like it would only be wrong if since USUALLY guys have the expectations that dating = sex, it would only be wrong if I didn't tell them my feelings on the matter.
Since they would think
ok if dating = sex then to get sex = I must date her.
I would get stuck correcting their fallacy.
Because the argument that

If dating (p) = sex (q)
then to get sex (q) = dating (p)
That is an invalid argument and affirming the consequent (in this case the consequent is sex)

6/6/2016 12:59:21 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

xray6
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if your not planning on taking the next step.

what you have is a friend and you are not dating whatsoever.

if you know that person wants to take the next step and you don't but you continue to allow them to proceed like it's going to happen

then you are wrong.

the act of dating does not involve sex. but it's one of those inevitable things that happens when people get close to each other.


if you do not see that you can eventually make it to that step then you are just using him for emotional satisfaction.

which is the exact same thing as a man using a woman for sex without intention of fulfilling her emotional needs.


welcome to the ranks of being a player

6/6/2016 1:11:47 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

mylegsarecold
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Your assertion is wrong, P does not equal Q.

6/6/2016 1:18:51 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

lovethelake17
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What both Xray and Mylegs said.



Your reasoning seems a bit circular, but I had trouble following it all. It was sort as if you were saying "Poodles are dogs, therefore all dogs are poodles."

6/6/2016 1:29:58 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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I dont mean P literally = Q. I mean IF and Then. Like If P then Q. If P (dating) =[then] Q (sex). That is a premise that dating equals sex. Its not 100% accurate and a lot of males try to get into dating just for sex. When it comes down to it, the expectations (because that is what is is) and entitlement (also what it is) that men have for sex when dating is all in their own mind. If I don't do it, I don't do it. I don't need to partake in silly games and trying to explain myself to sex entitled men, I really don't. When they figure its not happening - going by my actions they can decide what to do with that info. When I actually like them and find the idea appealing I don't mind talking about it from a distance like texting or whatever but ACTUALLY doing it is a whole different thing. Simply because its like letting someone I dont really trust in my base, you just don't do that.

6/6/2016 1:35:02 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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Poodles are dogs therefore all dogs are poodles. If P then Q therefore Q then P. That is an invalid argument and affirming the consequent.

6/6/2016 1:53:15 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

lovethelake17
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so, is it what you're really saying is that dating doesn't equal sex. That expectations of sex will not compel you to have sex until and if such time you feel like having sex with whoever it is you're dating?

6/6/2016 2:04:35 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
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Pretty much. Yeah. But I realized its part of a larger problem anyway, the huge amounts of anxiety that dating and allowing new people in my life seems to have on me. The rediculous expectations and entitlement of guys is just one aspect of the whole issue. Its an issue because its pressure and it makes me worry that I don't trust them enough and about their intentions and basically the trust aspect then the if I want to be with them aspect. Since Id only have sex with them if it was gonna be long term commited thing. Then there is the aspect that I may not be attracted to them that much or they are somehow bad in bed. Then there is the aspect of having to be nude and yeah just the whole thing freaks me out. Like a shit ton of stuff to be anxious about for every time I date someone or someone is anything more than friends. It stresses me out so much I just dont even want to date because Iv had enough of dealing with it every time

6/6/2016 2:18:08 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

xray6
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Jacksonville, FL
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reality is so hard

how do people deal with this being alive thing.

6/6/2016 3:20:46 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

soulflight
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Baltimore, MD
54, joined Apr. 2014


Quote from xray6:
if your not planning on taking the next step.

what you have is a friend and you are not dating whatsoever.

if you know that person wants to take the next step and you don't but you continue to allow them to proceed like it's going to happen

then you are wrong.

the act of dating does not involve sex. but it's one of those inevitable things that happens when people get close to each other.


if you do not see that you can eventually make it to that step then you are just using him for emotional satisfaction.

which is the exact same thing as a man using a woman for sex without intention of fulfilling her emotional needs.


welcome to the ranks of being a player


smart man!

6/6/2016 3:31:33 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

soulflight
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Baltimore, MD
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I am not a man.
If I was interested in dating a man, I exected to become sexually active with that man as the dating continued. For me, and for many people, sex is a standard feature of dating and building a relationship. If I couldn't see myself ever having sex with a man, I wouldn't date him.

I have not found that men "expected" sex from me. They simply expected..as I did...that sex was a part of dating.

I have met men who DID expect sex from women like it was an entitlement but I would never date such a man.

6/6/2016 3:36:37 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
the_israelite
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Rio de JaneiroRio de Janeiro
Brazil
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It might be best not to date someone you aren't sexually attracted to.

6/7/2016 2:27:30 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

my2sunshine
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Pulaski, NY
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What about women who expect sex while dating? How does that fit in?

6/7/2016 9:33:39 AM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
cavie59
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Enid, OK
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Quote from my2sunshine:
What about women who expect sex while dating? How does that fit in?


Like that is something that happens.

6/7/2016 6:04:30 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  

sadlsticsienna
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AñatuyaNew South Wales
Australia
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Da da, da da da, da da sup people. Anyone know any good shows

6/12/2016 3:44:29 PM Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?  
lookin4him2012
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Boone, NC
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Quote from celyn67:
No, I don't feel that way about men. You get to know a man some, & if he turns out to NOT be the type of man you like (behavior-wise), don't continue to see him.


I agree. I know after the first few minutes in to a date if that person is someone I will want sexually. The only time I ever dated a man more than one time that I knew I didn't want sex with was because he was a great guy, older, mature and friendship material and we are still friends.