Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?

5/22/2016 7:51:31 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
mrfckinpetey Orlando, FL 31, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from pagal17: Why not enjoy the sex without the entanglement of expectation? Sounds like you're already set on breaking up before you start dating. You might be pleasantly surprised when you choose to just enjoy the moment and not get trapped in a future that may or may not exist. Your power is in the now. The ironic thing is that women who think like this, are more likely to make a man want to stay around for reasons other than sex. Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
5/22/2016 8:09:54 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
pagal17 Lancaster, PA 51, joined May. 2012	mcf...exactly
5/22/2016 8:22:18 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
flyfish77 Conyers, GA 50, joined Jul. 2014	id rather have one good one forever though.......
5/22/2016 8:31:11 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
pagal17 Lancaster, PA 51, joined May. 2012	Me too fly
5/23/2016 1:51:49 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	I'd rather not get used for sex. I can please myself better anyway.
5/23/2016 3:43:57 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
amusicluvr Salem, OR 63, joined Nov. 2013	OP - If you lead a guy on to expect sex, when you have no intention of giving him any, then you are a jerk, and a user...using him for: money, companionship, or whatever....getting what you want, without giving him what he wants. Most guys are bad at sex because they were mis-trained. Teach a guy how to do things right, and He will be able to satisfy you. I was trained right, but I'm the exception, and I am taken. Instead of just writing off all other guys, invest some time in training one.
5/23/2016 3:50:06 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	You act like men are dogs to be trained...
5/23/2016 4:28:47 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
god_says Cabo San Lucas Mexico 47, joined Aug. 2014	Quote from sadlsticsienna: I could Lie and say Im a virgin but I'm against lying lol. It would avoid nasty questions if I did say I was a virgin though and them thinking I was a hypocrite. Born again virgin sounds like a good idea. Still a lie. Unless you spent the money to have your hymen surgically repaired.
5/23/2016 4:31:53 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	It would still be a lie though lol. Hymen isn't what they care about, it's the experience. That would just be a waste of money and why would I want to restore it? no purpose.
5/23/2016 4:33:25 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
Mercedes_02 AñatuyaAñatuya Australia 100, joined Dec. 2014	Restoring is so off tap.
5/23/2016 4:44:55 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	and it's not like they can even tell so you could just say you're a virgin when you're not lol
5/23/2016 4:47:59 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
god_says Cabo San Lucas Mexico 47, joined Aug. 2014	Only an idiot wouldn't be able to tell.
5/23/2016 4:48:30 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	They can't tell lol. Plus the idea is to say it to NOT have sex. Not to say it then go have sex. Retarded [Edited 5/23/2016 4:49:33 AM ]
5/23/2016 5:08:32 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
Mercedes_02 AñatuyaAñatuya Australia 100, joined Dec. 2014	[Edited 5/23/2016 5:08:46 AM ]
5/23/2016 5:13:52 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	Also the guy Im dating is a virgin
5/23/2016 5:35:31 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
digital_knight Grand Rapids, MI 44, joined Nov. 2012	Quote from sadlsticsienna: Also the guy Im dating is a virgin Yea ok and I can say I'm virgin too .
5/23/2016 5:42:02 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	Well he's 18
5/23/2016 9:13:35 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
easttowest72 Bremen, GA 44, joined Sep. 2014	I think it's ok to an extent. I went on a lunch date. We spent an hour together. He was a nice guy. I was going to see him again till (in his text) everything became about making out or massage. I told him I wanted to take things slow, but he is not backing off.
5/23/2016 9:18:38 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	People should be up front about anything they will or won't do in a relationship.
5/23/2016 9:29:01 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
joe4u2explore Lombard, IL 49, joined Aug. 2013	sienna, I realize sex is your kryptonite and that's fine. You are as entitled to a sexless relationship as I am to one filled with orgasm. However, to answer your question...of course it's not wrong and you know it. You're simply trying to incite and argument over the subject matter. Don't have sex. whatever, you know? I would notice when I started dating someone and it came up in the form of an overture being resisted (this has yet to happen) or in conversation. I think it might be a fair expectation for most people that a typical relationship involves some sort of physical interaction, as well as other types of interaction. Thus, it may behoove you to throw that out early in the dating process as to avoid confusion when everything going swimmingly and you give him a look as he goes to get "some".
5/23/2016 9:37:19 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
enigmaathand Leavittsburg, OH 35, joined Mar. 2013	Quote from soulflight: Women should be up front about anything they will or won't do in a relationship. Fixed that for you.
5/23/2016 10:11:18 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	Quote from easttowest72: I think it's ok to an extent. I went on a lunch date. We spent an hour together. He was a nice guy. I was going to see him again till (in his text) everything became about making out or massage. I told him I wanted to take things slow, but he is not backing off. This is what I call bullshit....if you have already decided you won't be seeing him again, then why not tell him that? Instead you tell him you want to "take things slow". You are not being honest and clear about your intentions. [Edited 5/23/2016 10:11:45 AM ]
5/23/2016 10:36:11 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 57, joined May. 2009	Dating does not necessarily equal sex, but are you saying that you never, ever intend on having sex with him? If so, then it has to be clear from the get-go that the relationship will never be fully realized (whether that be at marriage or not) and that it will only ever be "this much and no more". Anything else is a lie and speaks of using. Personally, if we're dating and it's never gonna become intimate and close, then I'd have to stop "dating" and tell him "he's like a brother to me", "he's a friend", "it's not him, it's me", and "but we can still be friends, right?" And then, that's what we'd be--friends, and then we'd do everything as friends and not as a dating couple. Most aren't going to want that since generally they go into it with the hopes that it becomes something more than friendship, and what 'friend' wants to watch the person they're interested in become interested in someone else?
5/23/2016 10:42:30 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	Exactly. Well said Lake.
5/23/2016 10:57:47 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	Nah I love sex but guys don't love me So ya know, why do it
5/23/2016 11:01:32 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 57, joined May. 2009	Then why are you even dating? I don't get it. If they don't love you, why are they asking you out on a date? If you're dong the asking, why are they saying yes?
5/23/2016 11:02:34 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
grande_mamon Sacramento, CA 35, joined Sep. 2014	Quote from lovethelake17: I don't get it. If they don't love you, why are they asking you out on a date? Umm I don't get this, you date to find love, you don't love and then date
5/23/2016 11:07:45 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
digital_knight Grand Rapids, MI 44, joined Nov. 2012	Quote from soulflight: This is what I call bullshit....if you have already decided you won't be seeing him again, then why not tell him that? Instead you tell him you want to "take things slow". You are not being honest and clear about your intentions. It is clear he is spending money .
5/23/2016 11:26:45 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 57, joined May. 2009	Quote from grande_mamon: Umm I don't get this, you date to find love, you don't love and then date Oh, I get that. I just used her words because I assume she didn't mean it in an I love you way but in more a I like you and would like to get to know you way. But perhaps I should not have jumped to that conclusion.
5/23/2016 11:28:12 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!
5/23/2016 11:28:55 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
joe4u2explore Lombard, IL 49, joined Aug. 2013	just stirring it up, See?
5/23/2016 11:30:21 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	huh??
5/23/2016 11:36:47 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
joe4u2explore Lombard, IL 49, joined Aug. 2013	I nicknamed you there..See for sienna...I do that sorta thing and I thought you were just trying to stir up some reactions there... Unless, of course, you take all of these threads seriously?
5/23/2016 11:48:57 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	Ahh I See Hmm I do and i don't. They don't love me but always want to f-ck me. Like that always is there but they lack genuine caringg IDk. Maybe its how people are, maybe its not and maybe its just them. So I have trust issues and get pissed off and want to never do it again . F**k why is it so hard for anyone to give a genuine crap about me
5/23/2016 11:51:39 AM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	Quote from digital_knight: It is clear he is spending money . No it isn't. The only thing clear is that she says one thing but feels something else. That is disingenuous.
5/23/2016 12:00:00 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
easttowest72 Bremen, GA 44, joined Sep. 2014	Quote from soulflight: This is what I call bullshit....if you have already decided you won't be seeing him again, then why not tell him that? Instead you tell him you want to "take things slow". You are not being honest and clear about your intentions. Not what I said. I don't know him well enough to decide if sex will ever happen. He is being pushy so I'm not going to see him again. I told him already to back off. Romance is not sex.
5/23/2016 12:02:44 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
easttowest72 Bremen, GA 44, joined Sep. 2014	Quote from digital_knight: It is clear he is spending money . We ate lunch at cracker barrel. I offered to pay half. He refused the $8 lol.
5/23/2016 12:11:14 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	Quote from easttowest72: Not what I said. I don't know him well enough to decide if sex will ever happen. He is being pushy so I'm not going to see him again. I told him already to back off. Romance is not sex. That is EXACTLY what you said/wrote: Quote from easttowest72: I think it's ok to an extent. I went on a lunch date. We spent an hour together. He was a nice guy. *I was* going to see him again till (in his text) everything became about making out or massage.** I told him I wanted to take things slow, but he is not backing off. Saying "take things slow" is NOT the same as saying I'm not going to see you because your texting became all about "making out or massage". ...I wasn't talking about romance or sex...As I said in my first post, being up front about what you will or won't do in a relationship is this issue. Your response did not demonstrate honesty, which is why I called it BS. [Edited 5/23/2016 12:13:53 PM ]
5/23/2016 12:23:13 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
easttowest72 Bremen, GA 44, joined Sep. 2014	Guys try for sex it's in their DNA. I don't blame the guy for trying. If he had backed off when I told him to, I would have went out with him again.
5/23/2016 12:23:56 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	I disagree. What she means is the way he was behaving was turning her off and she became unsure about if she wanted to see him. That does not mean she Never would or could never change her mind. It was uncertainty based on how he was acting. that is why she told him she wanted to take it slow. When he did not and kept going further it turned her off seeing him. Its not her fault he was not respecting her and made her become uncertain. In uncertainty we don't tend to give definite answers or make announcements. If something turns me somewhat off a guy Im not about to go tell him "sorry mate i never want to date you". Because that is not true. What IS true is that there is something I don't like or makes me uncomfortable and causes me to be uncertain. youre welcome
5/23/2016 12:36:13 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
mr_hexy Andreas, PA 39, joined Feb. 2013	yeh , you're wasting his time. there is a sexual orientation here called heterosexual. girls have a serious fault in their own apprehension of sex when they're cutting each other down in middle/high school for becoming active. " ew did you hear she made out with that guy , she's such a ratchet slut." etc.. Females cut themselves out of enjoying sex; guys that tell the girl to gtf out of the house after he's done is also a problem. Treating girls bad after sex is negative reward so if you are that guy , take a fall down some stairs.
5/23/2016 12:37:04 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	@ sadistic Nope..just plain old BS. You can interpret it any way you want, she isn't making any effort to clarify what she said. If I knew I didn't want to see a man again, for any reason, I did not tell him I wanted to take things slow. I was honest with him and told him I had no interest in seeing him again. Period. Simply clear statement. [Edited 5/23/2016 12:38:41 PM ]
5/23/2016 12:41:46 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	You're Wrong because she wasnt 100% sure she didnt..Otherwise if she really didnt want to bother with him she would of just stopped talking. Thats why she was trying to get him to back off with the massage stuff because it was what was making her uncomfortable. And again she even said if he had stopped it she would of seen him..So you're wrong. Logically you're wrong.lol
5/23/2016 12:47:27 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	Lol.., your posting has made it clear that your concept of logic is far removed from mine. We can certainly agree to disagree on this one as well.
5/23/2016 1:03:01 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	Im right damn it lol. The premise of your argument was that she Didnt want to see him again and that is False so therefore your argument cant win because the premise isnt met.
5/23/2016 1:27:34 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
joe4u2explore Lombard, IL 49, joined Aug. 2013	grabbing popcorn and sitting back for this one
5/23/2016 1:35:47 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
joe4u2explore Lombard, IL 49, joined Aug. 2013	Quote from sadlsticsienna: Ahh I See Hmm I do and i don't. They don't love me but always want to f-ck me. Like that always is there but they lack genuine caringg IDk. Maybe its how people are, maybe its not and maybe its just them. So I have trust issues and get pissed off and want to never do it again . Fk why is it so hard for anyone to give a genuine crap about me Ok, so I'm going to address this by providing you a little insight into me. I am not speaking for all men. I suspect I am unique in my nature. I can easily separate women into different categories as to "why" they attract me or what I may "want" from them. I don't know if this is something many women do or more specifically, you do. I like some women a lot. These are usually women I respect. They are likely strong willed, intelligent, witty and a bit edgy. They challenge me and that turns me on because I easily bore. This is the type of woman I would want a relationship with. BUT... being male (and I do NOT apologize for this because I think it is what makes me, "me") I also am attracted purely in a physical sense by some women like let's use Kim Kardashian as an example. This is a ridiculous, vapid, moronic individual but she turns me on with her curves. I have a suspicion that you are confusing lust for love. Love is hard to find. Why do you think you're unique in finding it to be difficult to discover this? Some people never find true love. These guys you reference probably like your a or those big eyes of yours and want to fk you. Your mistake is getting upset about this. It's just natural biology. You don't have to respond to these overtures but it's not confusing in any way some people just want to fk some people while not loving them in the least. You know? You seem to blame these people for not loving you because they want to f**k you. Why? Can you honestly say you've never thought "Damn, I'd love to bang that guy!"? And not loved him? [Edited 5/23/2016 1:36:53 PM ]
5/23/2016 1:37:03 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	parties over
5/23/2016 1:49:11 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
blurussian Tarawa Terrace, NC 27, joined Dec. 2015	No. why? because, i don't have sex with EVERY man i date... and, i don't know if i'm going to have sex with him-- until there is "a" date.
5/23/2016 2:52:14 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
lovethelake17 Henderson, NV 57, joined May. 2009	Here's how I interpret what East said. She liked him enough to go out with him again. But his talk turned to massages and making out which is when she demurred and said she wanted to take it slow. He did not understand what that was code for and did not stop what he was saying. That changed her mind about seeing him again. Which is why I'd say she wasn't clear enough with him about how his talk was affecting her. She thought he'd understand what "taking it slow" meant in this context which was: Shut up and let this kind of talk happen organically later on. Don't push this issue now because I'm not having it. It would have been better for her to tell him specifically and in clear words that it was too soon for him to talk that way, and that she didn't like it. It can be seen as game-playing by those who are not intuitive enough to grasp the cues people give. It can also be seen as being dishonest, which includes being dishonest to yourself. So, the answer is to not use coded messages but to be clear. See this is why "say what I mean and mean what I say" is such a non-starter. She probably thought she was doing exactly that but he took his meaning in her words, not her meaning.
5/23/2016 3:08:08 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
pagal17 Lancaster, PA 51, joined May. 2012	lake...
5/23/2016 3:25:32 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
easttowest72 Bremen, GA 44, joined Sep. 2014	Him being in his 40's...he understood me. He is just thirsty. I dont like being pressured.
5/23/2016 3:35:24 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
sadlsticsienna AñatuyaNew South Wales Australia 23, joined Jan. 2016 online now!	What is WRONG with you people. He knew, he just lacked respect.
5/23/2016 3:54:34 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
markjetson Albuquerque, NM 60, joined Jan. 2013	Well, I'll admit I didn't read the entire thread, but then I got the gist, same story, different thread.-----Men are dogs and women are good girls who are not nasty....Ha! Here's a test, how many men have been privy to a conversation of, say, 6 or more women, slightly drunk, with no other men around (on several occasions) and since you were "working" you were in effect, non-existent? me, me, me, I was!, "Ok jets_on, relax, now tell the forum what your impression was." "They were amongst the nastiest, most vile, crude creatures I've ever witnessed on Gods green earth, who made the wildest mens bachelor party pale in comparison." Good Girls my right one.......Women (most) in my experience are like people in prison, they're all innocent.
5/23/2016 4:23:47 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
thekinghasrisen San Diego, CA 31, joined Nov. 2013	Quote from sadlsticsienna: or go in a relationship with a man if you don't intend on having sex with him? They always end up being such disappointments it's easier to avoid it and wait till the breakup happens lol. Then I have peace in knowing they never got that close to me at all really. It only gets hard when I think I have feelings for them and I have something that resembles hope that they aren't users and jerks. Eventually they show their true colors. And anyway most men suck at sex and it's just like whyyy bother when I can satisfy myself better than they could Does anyone else feel the same way when it comes to men? I don't personally think that dating a man who you aren't sexually attracted to is a good use of your time. I don't know what a dating relationship with a man that you couldn't see yourself having sex with would even look like.
5/23/2016 5:57:34 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
lucky_1million Pewaukee, WI 49, joined Jun. 2013	Quote from grande_mamon: Umm I don't get this, you date to find love, you don't love and then date I don't think people know for sure how they feel about someone until they've at least dated for awhile. This is why a lot of single people date someone for a month and then stop seeing each other. If I got to the point where I knew for sure that I did not want to have sex with a particular man due to a lack of attraction or whatever and he seemed to be pressuring me for a relationship... I would stop dating him because it would be a form of misleading him if he wanted more and I knew that I wanted just friends. I would feel bad about seeing him and I wouldn't want to string him along with hopes that things might change later down the road. I would also let him know as soon as I knew.... that we are just friends. However, it wouldn't be wrong if you were at least open-minded about having sex with him later on after you got to know him better and after you felt that you loved him enough. [Edited 5/23/2016 5:58:55 PM ]
5/23/2016 6:15:39 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
markjetson Albuquerque, NM 60, joined Jan. 2013	After a long life of involvement with the ladies both short and long term relationships e-todo...Why is it that the minute they have you tied-up in a relationship and you have no friends left because they all "warned you about her", but she of course has kept all her friends, including her ex's ie-her children's father, they almost immediately start looking "for a better provider" ie-someone with more money, a bigger house, a nicer car, someone more exciting ie-a badboy?....and they lie.
5/23/2016 7:56:08 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
kungfu_candy Alsónémedi Hungary 27, joined Aug. 2013	Why waste your time and his if you already know? Yeah he'll probably suck at sex but leading him on makes you no better then him.
5/23/2016 10:06:12 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
stregaleonora Atlanta, GA 40, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from digital_knight: If I had choice of dating a virgin or born again virgin I would choose the virgin because she has no sexual experience prior . ..so she cannot make comparisons... Smart.
5/23/2016 10:12:11 PM	Is it wrong to date a man if you don't intend on having sex with him?
stregaleonora Atlanta, GA 40, joined Jun. 2014	Quote from digital_knight: So what you are saying if and when I get horny I shouldnt be thinking about the woman I am dating right ? But that is a game that gotta be played by 2 players.

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