Dinner date attire

6/19/2014 2:55:40 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Not a casual meet/greet. An actual dinner date. Ladies, you'd make an effort to look presentable right? Had the meet/greet Sun. Went well and ended in a kiss. Called her Mon night and arranged a dinner date for tonight. I wore a nice button up shirt and good pair of pants. She wore an old t-shirt, jean shorts, and sandals like she was going to the beach. I actually felt uncomfortable walking into the restaurant because of how differently we were dressed. Ironically, the date itself was awesome, and the good night send off was really passionate. But I must admit, what she chose to wear REALLY rubbed me the wrong way. Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
6/19/2014 2:58:03 AM	Dinner date attire
jade_a_bop Duluth, MN 38, joined Feb. 2012	i dress for comfort...not to impress
6/19/2014 2:58:51 AM	Dinner date attire
grneyesrme Sacramento, CA 48, joined Aug. 2013	Did you tell her beforehand where you would be going to dinner?
6/19/2014 2:59:01 AM	Dinner date attire
soulfullaussie Victoria Australia 50, joined May. 2014	Dress can be somewhat Important sometimes but its not the be all and end all ...If you liked her company that was the main thing .. Maybe she just didn't want to over dress or she may not have the right cloths ..... Just look at the things that was good .. [Edited 6/19/2014 2:59:22 AM ]
6/19/2014 3:05:01 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from grneyesrme: Did you tell her beforehand where you would be going to dinner? Yep. Cheesecake Factory. It isn't a five star restaurant, but it's still a decent place to eat all the same. So that's why I chose to dress on the nicer end of casual. It's not like it's a black tie event and she had to wear an evening gown. But a dinner date should require a bit more effort than an old ratty t-shirt, jean shorts, and flip flop sandals.
6/19/2014 3:05:28 AM	Dinner date attire
lookfamiliar Portage, IN 59, joined May. 2014	Next time ask, what she is wearing. Dressing for Dinner, depends on the restaurant's atmosphere. So which one of you made the wrong choice in dinner attire? Good to hear that you enjoyed your evening together.
6/19/2014 3:07:48 AM	Dinner date attire
outhere925 Antioch, CA 34, joined Apr. 2013	Shirtless boxers and a beer in hand. A restaurant bib around your neck will impress her even more
6/19/2014 3:11:07 AM	Dinner date attire
miscbyproduct Isle Of Man United Kingdom 19, joined Apr. 2012	i wouldn't dress for cheesecake but i don't wear t shirts on dates either
6/19/2014 3:11:19 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Quote from grneyesrme: Did you tell her beforehand where you would be going to dinner? Bingo....
6/19/2014 3:11:45 AM	Dinner date attire
lookfamiliar Portage, IN 59, joined May. 2014	Did you read the dresscode for Cheesecake Factory. " We are an upscale casual dining experience. Dress comfortably, feel free to come as you are, just come hungry". Come as you are!! Hmmm?
6/19/2014 3:13:03 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from lookfamiliar: Next time ask, what she is wearing. Dressing for Dinner, depends on the restaurant's atmosphere. So which one of you made the wrong choice in dinner attire? Good to hear that you enjoyed your evening together. Has it really come to the point where people have to discuss what they're wearing? Shouldn't some things fall under common sense? If you have a dinner date at a relatively nice place, you put some effort into what you're wearing.
6/19/2014 3:14:01 AM	Dinner date attire
lookfamiliar Portage, IN 59, joined May. 2014	Quote from rdeffley: Has it really come to the point where people have to discuss what they're wearing? Shouldn't some things fall under common sense? If you have a dinner date at a relatively nice place, you put some effort into what you're wearing. Having been a "Couple" most of my adult life...YES...we always discussed what we are wearing. Personally, I like hearing suggestions like...wear a dress, I want to see your legs. js [Edited 6/19/2014 3:17:33 AM ]
6/19/2014 3:17:35 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Quote from rdeffley: Has it really come to the point where people have to discuss what they're wearing? Shouldn't some things fall under common sense? If you have a dinner date at a relatively nice place, you put some effort into what you're wearing. Ummmm.....hello....knock, knock.....anybody home? My neck of the woods.....a dinner date is a pig roast.....followed by beer around the fire. J/S. Nothing wrong with the above......nothing wrong with going to a nice place either... be on the same page.
6/19/2014 3:18:43 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from lookfamiliar: Did you read the dresscode for Cheesecake Factory. " We are an upscale casual dining experience. Dress comfortably, feel free to come as you are, just come hungry". Come as you are!! Hmmm? Upscale casual. This means decent dress attire. If we were going to the beach, on a picnic, a baseball game, etc that is more than fine. But a dinner date is different. The fact that she knew where we were eating and dressed down so much only made it worse. I do agree that the experience is ultimately what matters and it was a great date. But when someone puts no effort into their appearance at all, it's like they're saying they don't give a shit.
6/19/2014 3:21:24 AM	Dinner date attire
lookfamiliar Portage, IN 59, joined May. 2014	Quote from rdeffley: Upscale casual. This means decent dress attire. If we were going to the beach, on a picnic, a baseball game, etc that is more than fine. But a dinner date is different. The fact that she knew where we were eating and dressed down so much only made it worse. I do agree that the experience is ultimately what matters and it was a great date. But when someone puts no effort into their appearance at all, it's like they're saying they don't give a shit.
6/19/2014 3:22:16 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from lookfamiliar: Having been a "Couple" most of my adult life...YES...we always discussed what we are wearing. Personally, I like hearing suggestions like...wear a dress, I want to see your legs. js That's just it. During the call I said, "That dress on your profile pic probably looks even better in person." She said it definitely did. So with that said, and her knowing where we were eating, I was expecting more than what she wore.
6/19/2014 3:23:05 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	You assumed.....
6/19/2014 3:23:58 AM	Dinner date attire
jade_a_bop Duluth, MN 38, joined Feb. 2012	Quote from rdeffley: But when someone puts no effort into their appearance at all, it's like they're saying they don't give a shit. or maybe she dressed the way she usually would dress, so if things get serious later on, you already know what to expect, and will appreciate it more on the occasions she does dress up
6/19/2014 3:24:41 AM	Dinner date attire
miscbyproduct Isle Of Man United Kingdom 19, joined Apr. 2012	"We even have boxed lunches" nope, dinfintely not shinning my boots
6/19/2014 3:26:04 AM	Dinner date attire
1love916 Inglewood, CA 35, joined Mar. 2014	the cheese cake factory is just one step up from denny's. she didnt have to dress up for that.
6/19/2014 3:26:42 AM	Dinner date attire
miscbyproduct Isle Of Man United Kingdom 19, joined Apr. 2012	2
6/19/2014 3:26:58 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Ok.....have to give cred to that.....I dress down a lot. The guy I was skyping and sending pics to.....no makeup, hair a train wreck, and made goofy faces.
6/19/2014 3:28:29 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from jade_a_bop: or maybe she dressed the way she usually would dress, so if things get serious later on, you already know what to expect, and will appreciate it more on the occasions she does dress up Multiple profile pics of her in dresses and heels on her profile. On the meet/greet she asked which outfit I liked best on her profile. So she knew which dress I was referring to.
6/19/2014 3:28:31 AM	Dinner date attire
outhere925 Antioch, CA 34, joined Apr. 2013	Well next time take her shopping second chance. I don't mind making my lady look and feel good. As long as she returns the favor
6/19/2014 3:31:18 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Quote from rdeffley: Multiple profile pics of her in dresses and heels on her profile. On the meet/greet she asked which outfit I liked best on her profile. So she knew which dress I was referring to. Sigh.....did you ask her to wear it?
6/19/2014 3:31:49 AM	Dinner date attire
jade_a_bop Duluth, MN 38, joined Feb. 2012	Quote from rdeffley: Multiple profile pics of her in dresses and heels on her profile. On the meet/greet she asked which outfit I liked best on her profile. So she knew which dress I was referring to. well, then i got nothing...
6/19/2014 3:31:49 AM	Dinner date attire
zombietrouble7 Knoxville, TN 50, joined Apr. 2014	Quote from rdeffley: That's just it. During the call I said, "That dress on your profile pic probably looks even better in person." She said it definitely did. So with that said, and her knowing where we were eating, I was expecting more than what she wore. You made her guess.That's really bad.The right way would have been to ask her to wear that dress or something similar.Next time,don't leave room for guessing.COMMUNICATE
6/19/2014 3:32:11 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from 1love916: the cheese cake factory is just one step up from denny's. she didnt have to dress up for that. Haha.. That is a major exaggeration. Hell you can get an entire meal at Denny's for the cost of one drink at Cheesecake Factory.
6/19/2014 3:33:20 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Quote from zombietrouble7: You made her guess.That's really bad.The right way would have been to ask her to wear that dress or something similar.Next time,don't leave room for guessing.COMMUNICATE Why I love him, yep-yep!
6/19/2014 3:35:38 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from fun2bchattin: Sigh.....did you ask her to wear it? In the middle of the call I commented on it, and towards the end I said I wanted to see her in it. There wasn't any room for guessing whatsoever. She knew what I wanted to see her in and she is the type of woman that likes wearing feminine outfits. So that is why I was shocked by what she had on.
6/19/2014 3:37:22 AM	Dinner date attire
outhere925 Antioch, CA 34, joined Apr. 2013	Imagine a male make over of your lady. You can make your dream come to life. Classy hooker style jk jk
6/19/2014 3:40:07 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Sigh......will ask again.....while you pull out excuses out of your bum......Did you ask her to wear that? Want me to go slower? Did..........You............ask..............her..............to............wear...........that............outfit?
6/19/2014 3:48:02 AM	Dinner date attire
rdeffley San Jose, CA 35, joined Sep. 2009	Quote from fun2bchattin: Sigh......will ask again.....while you pull out excuses out of your bum......Did you ask her to wear that? Want me to go slower? Did..........You............ask..............her..............to............wear...........that............outfit? Want me to go slower? As I already said, yes I told her I wanted to see her in it.
6/19/2014 3:49:49 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Groan..... On the night mentioned? It was made clear?
6/19/2014 3:50:50 AM	Dinner date attire
miscbyproduct Isle Of Man United Kingdom 19, joined Apr. 2012	Quote from rdeffley: Haha.. That is a major exaggeration. Hell you can get an entire meal at Denny's for the cost of one drink at Cheesecake Factory. but denny's doesn't have a drive through cheesecake does- sorta [Edited 6/19/2014 3:51:08 AM ]
6/19/2014 3:50:55 AM	Dinner date attire
zombietrouble7 Knoxville, TN 50, joined Apr. 2014	Quote from rdeffley: In the middle of the call I commented on it, and towards the end I said I wanted to see her in it. There wasn't any room for guessing whatsoever. She knew what I wanted to see her in and she is the type of woman that likes wearing feminine outfits. So that is why I was shocked by what she had on. Don't b*tch that you didn't get what you want when you didn't ask for it.Take charge,dammit!
6/19/2014 3:53:08 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Zombie.....why I love him.....he makes it clear what he wants.
6/19/2014 4:11:31 AM	Dinner date attire
settee_m Dallas, TX 63, joined Feb. 2013	Hmmm.... I'm wondering what the response would be if he said, "Wear a dress" for a first date... Some would gladly wear a dress and be happy to have the occasion to wear one, another will be defiant and say, "Screw that noise..." and wear a torn t-shirt, cut-offs and flip-flops.... You may well have run into the latter.... You said you were uncomfortable by her attire, how exactly did you express that to her?
6/19/2014 4:16:25 AM	Dinner date attire
daneene Allen Park, MI 52, joined Jan. 2014	You're right, OP. Her manner of dress would tend to show that she doesn't care about impressing you, which doesn't bode well at this stage in the relationship. If it had been me, I don't care if the date had been at McDonald's- I would have worn something feminine and attractive.
6/19/2014 4:17:05 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	He did not say.....that is what he wanted.... 8 So....is she suppose to look into a crystal ball, wait....magic 8 ball? He expressed his desires.....yet not completely. Besides.....I know many women whom could rock that outfit anywhere. So.....unless he went to some upscale place.....dress attire mandated.....it is on him.
6/19/2014 4:18:07 AM	Dinner date attire
cali8zice Albany, NY 51, joined Oct. 2012	Don't you have a gf? Wtf
6/19/2014 4:26:42 AM	Dinner date attire
fun2bchattin Hedgesville, WV 49, joined Feb. 2011	Ruh-roh.......
6/19/2014 4:34:53 AM	Dinner date attire
1darksavior Far Rockaway, NY 54, joined Mar. 2011	Quote from rdeffley: Yep. Cheesecake Factory. It isn't a five star restaurant, but it's still a decent place to eat all the same. So that's why I chose to dress on the nicer end of casual. It's not like it's a black tie event and she had to wear an evening gown. But a dinner date should require a bit more effort than an old ratty t-shirt, jean shorts, and flip flop sandals. dude cheesecake factory lol, your kidding you want her to get dress for the cheesecake factory relaxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
6/19/2014 4:36:43 AM	Dinner date attire
1darksavior Far Rockaway, NY 54, joined Mar. 2011	Quote from 1love916: the cheese cake factory is just one step up from denny's. she didnt have to dress up for that. thank you lol
6/19/2014 4:37:45 AM	Dinner date attire
miscbyproduct Isle Of Man United Kingdom 19, joined Apr. 2012	ask them to get all dudded up then take them to eat bq ribs
6/19/2014 5:23:17 AM	Dinner date attire
cranky__geezer Patchogue, NY 57, joined Mar. 2014	You were annoyed what she was wearing to the CHEESECAKE FACTORY?
6/19/2014 5:28:26 AM	Dinner date attire
hawkey1 Phoenix, AZ 42, joined Feb. 2014	I would rather just wear a bra, panties, stockings and garter belt when we go out for dinner
6/19/2014 5:30:04 AM	Dinner date attire
plantkeeper Alexandria, VA 52, joined Apr. 2011	I agree she could have made a little effort, glad you looked past that, sounds you had a great time..,,
6/19/2014 5:38:04 AM	Dinner date attire
fishnthec Mesquite, TX 64, joined Oct. 2010	Put it past you! I'd give her a 2nd chance to impress you. She knows more about you now and how you like to dress. I believe she will ask better questions next time regarding her dressing for the occasion. She'll want to get it right next time.
6/19/2014 5:51:02 AM	Dinner date attire
icecreamsammich Tucker, GA 65, joined May. 2014	CK factory is a casual place. It is where Penny works on Big Bang! She sounds cool. You kinda are making a comment a woman more often makes. You had a great date with a cool woman, it went well, got a nice kiss. And you are talking about clothes and how it REALLY rubbed you the wrong way..... How do you think she would feel if she could read this thread? Probably that you may a bit too anal for her? You know stories where guys screw up a good thing? They start like this. Thank whatever god you believe in that you found a cool woman and had a great time.
6/19/2014 5:52:57 AM	Dinner date attire
micheleisgreat Pittsburgh, PA 53, joined Nov. 2013	Quote from hawkey1: I would rather just wear a bra, panties, stockings and garter belt when we go out for dinner Bet you'd look good in that, too!
6/19/2014 7:26:12 AM	Dinner date attire
hugsnlaughter McKeesport, PA 56, joined Jul. 2007	I think she could have made more of an effort, if not a dress, even a nice pair of slacks or even colored Jeans would be better than shorts. I mean you were going out to dinner; glad you had a good date anyway.
6/19/2014 7:29:05 AM	Dinner date attire
jester0011 Lake Waccamaw, NC 48, joined Jun. 2014 online now!	Quote from daneene: You're right, OP. Her manner of dress would tend to show that she doesn't care about impressing you, which doesn't bode well at this stage in the relationship. If it had been me, I don't care if the date had been at McDonald's- I would have worn something feminine and attractive.
6/19/2014 7:32:48 AM	Dinner date attire
lilithimagines Oviedo, FL 44, joined May. 2014	I agree with you, too, op. I would have been disappointed as well that they didn't think enough of me to try a little harder. And if I have to tell someone how to dress, then I already know we are not much of a match. Maybe, though, she got the idea because of how she saw YOU present yourself. Perhaps she'll make a little more effort next time? Hope so. Good luck!
6/19/2014 7:33:32 AM	Dinner date attire
_purdibird_ Monterey, CA 49, joined May. 2014	Quote from rdeffley: Yep. Cheesecake Factory. It isn't a five star restaurant, but it's still a decent place to eat all the same. So that's why I chose to dress on the nicer end of casual. It's not like it's a black tie event and she had to wear an evening gown. But a dinner date should require a bit more effort than an old ratty t-shirt, jean shorts, and flip flop sandals. hell, the last time i went to the Cheesecake factory (literally a couple of weeks ago)... I myself, wore jeans. It's a nice restaurant... but i wouldn't say it is an "above" jeans & T-shirt restaurant.
6/19/2014 7:37:25 AM	Dinner date attire
bumblebee7 Fort Payne, AL 61, joined Apr. 2011	do you ever make a thread where you aren't trying to get brownie points? seriously man, it shows. Why is it ironic that the date turned out well? she would be the same person, no matter how she dressed.
6/19/2014 7:40:36 AM	Dinner date attire
bumblebee7 Fort Payne, AL 61, joined Apr. 2011	Here's a funny but true story about attire. My first time to go to Vegas, with a friend who had never been either. Back in the day... .we both had just seen Vegas in the movies, so we assumed everyone dressed up. So, we rented nice suits and took off, we got there, walked in to the first Casino. and everyone was dressed so casual and looked at us like we were nuts. .. ..
6/19/2014 7:50:50 AM	Dinner date attire
soulflight Baltimore, MD 54, joined Apr. 2014	...hmmm...and you're such a class act, you didn't say anything to her...you opted to create a thread about it...
6/19/2014 7:52:28 AM	Dinner date attire
beautifulfire08 Antioch, TN 58, joined Aug. 2013	OP, you are 100 percent right to feel the way you do. I know exactly what would happen if the situation were reversed: you'd be raked through the coals. Here, with these trolltards, you'd not only be a sloppy dresser with no consideration for your date, you'd be a wife beater, child abuser, murderer, rapist, have herpes, AIDs, and also go in the line that says 15 items only, with 17 items. What the stuptards aren't getting is that even though CF is casual, like you said it does say dress casual, and torn cutoffs and sloppy a t-shirt are not dress casual. That said, if the OP was alone, that would have been one thing. But this was a date, and her first date with you. It says to me she didn't give a shit about dressing to impress you, to look nice for you. Fk the restaurant. I'd give her an F for F-fort. I guess the only saving grace was that you did have a good time. So now the problem is teaching her how to dress correctly for the occasion. Makes me wonder if she didn't have that much common sense, just how inept she is in other social graces as well.
6/19/2014 7:58:01 AM	Dinner date attire
gotheon123 Apex, NC 48, joined Jul. 2013	I think a bit more effort could have been made on her part, but it seems like you had a great time. This is what dating is all about, the process of having fun and seeing if you're compatible. If the clothing is a big issue for you and she always shows up in old t-shirts and shorts, she might not be for you.

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