Beautiful maybe having your boobs showing isn't appropriate around children

Do you always try to pick fights with someone who doesn't agree with you? Yes, I wore that for me. I was going to a Luau and I was going to be on of the Hawaiian dancers, and that's how we all dressed. Not that it's your business. I thought it looked cute. It really doesn't matter if you think on a dating sight it is inappropriate, because I am not lesbian and have no interest in you.

If you want to consider it "picking a fight," be my guest.

So you were going to a luau and you thought it looked cute. Like you didn't realize that showing cleavage was going to attract men.

I never said it was inappropriate, and b*tch, I'm as straight as it gets, but even if I weren't ,the LAST person I'd be interested in is YOU.

That said, I actually was wondering if you were a dyke, because you really do look like one.

So many Are so caught up in not being controlled and told what to do that they have totally forgotten what it's like to Be With a person you like and is Pursuing you. It's so Much more important to be belligerent and controlling then To enjoy the courting dance And possibly connect with someone that will bring you happiness.

Enjoy your Lonely independence.

Such character you have. I disagree with you and you act like some of these guys on here.

Think what you like. It's not skin off my back.

Thanks eyesofmedusa

You said it much better than I could of. By the way you were being kind to say he was subtle. I didn't even think he was being subtle. A self-centered person, controlling person usually doesn't show their hand so early in dating.

Didn't realize you were personally acquainted with him.

Where is the post that he used the word "defy?" Can you post the entire post, and not just the word, please?

In his original post, nothing he says suggests anything of the kind. The OP actually said nothing wrong. I haven't seen every single one of his posts, but nothing I have seen raised a red flag with me.

Has it really come to the point where people have to discuss what they're wearing? Shouldn't some things fall under common sense? If you have a dinner date at a relatively nice place, you put some effort into what you're wearing.

It's "could've," which is saying "could HAVE," not "could OF." Just FYI.

The OP did absolutely NOTHING wrong. I'm very independent, liberal, and a feminist in many respects, but I still like men. I still like looking attractive to men, and I think the NORMAL thing that most NORMAL people will do is try to look attractive for their date, especially if it's a first date.

The OP didn't demand, he didn't cajole, he didn't threaten. He stated he'd like to see her in the dress she had on in the picture and, rather than wear that or some similar outfit or even nice slacks and a blouse, she came dressed like she was about to mow the lawn.

His suggesting she wear a dress he deemed visually pleasing to him is in NO WAY him being "controlling."

My God, no wonder you can't get a man.

And how the hell you got that he was "self centered and controlling" is beyond me. OMG. Really?

Let ur pants sag on first date

@ Love I honestly don't think it phases her normally ends up creating another profile.

This would be totally acceptable, according to many here if it's comfortable and how one normally dresses.
Sag on, brother!

By nature, I am a jeans girl, wearing an old pair right now. I certainly would not wear this pair on a dinner date (unless) it was a picnic or beach setting. I know what to wear and when. It has nothing to do with someone being controlling or bossy if a suggestion is made. I have certainly made suggestions in the past myself and I am far from controlling in personality.

The wearing of clothing or a style of clothing is hardly a disguise. As even those on your side of the aisle will attest, clothing doesn't tell who you are. But they are often used to communicate certain information about you whether that's right or wrong. Most of my friends wear saggies and hoodies, but they also know that there are times to dress differently. They know that slouching around the campus and dorms is not the same as going to interview for a job. They know that hanging out at the frat with a bunch of bros is not the same as going out on a date with a young lady.

And as far as a disguise, I know who I am regardless of haberdashery. But that really isn't the point!

I know. I was so surprised that these woman missed the whole point of control and were focused on her behavior. I am with you, I would have saw that right away. I am not sure if some of these women are really getting the impact of what he was saying. It really was loud and clear to me. Maybe it's their need to justify their people pleasing ways. You know I have told you and the forums here how much I like men. There are so many not like him (controlling), but so many fall into their trap. I just glad this girl didn't.

For those of you who can see it, and all the men, we know you are not all like that and am very glad your not.

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So, are you saying, then, that if a man who normally dresses in "saggies and hoodies" dresses up to make the right impression for a date, that woman can expect to regularly see him in those nicer clothes six months or two years into the relationship? Or, is he in costume attempting to give her the wrong impression about what she can expect?

I'm saying that she can expect to see him appropriately attired for whatever event or non-event that they share from now until they lower the casket.