Maybe because they fought social pressures in dating and are sure they are right for each other.

Maybe they are self confident people?

The rare number doesn't matter. It's by percentages. Why is divorce lower for black women with white men than black women with black men? The more pressing philosophical question to be asked is why less black relationships survive compared to interracial?
Instead or trying to send people on a guilt trip, try to evaluate the entire situation.

Like I said, let's agree to disagree because you're not changing my mind and I'm not going to bother changing yours. But for the record, for someone that talks about black women being overly emotional and over the top...not once in my responses to you did I curse or call you names...I simply stated my opinions. It seems as if the overly emotional one here is you from the responses you have put out in this thread. Until you recognize your own negativity, there's no room for growth...now good luck with that!

Baby I have NOTHING to make you feel guilty about. I know nothing about you personally or have any knowledge about your actions or experiences.

All I can access about you is what we talk about here. But usually when a person IS a certain way and someone speak on "That Way" a guilty conscious forces you to defend against whats being said.

I never jump to defend sorry a** men or those guilty as charged. Blk men have a bad reputation on the open market as well. With the drugs, pants pulled down, thug life bullshit. Too many of them doing it than in other circles is why we we're stamped with it.

I NEVER jump to defend that shit! Why? Bcuz I know there are many out there doing it. And NO I don't know all their names and SS#'s, I don't need to, to know its happening.

But KNOW its not me so whats being said doesn't apply so no need to get all bent outta shape and piss off. Just bcuz I'm blk doesn't mean they're talking about me.

So I'm not out to make you feel guilty so STOP acting guilty thats all.

People are not going to believe you sir. They will just attack you, and say that you are telling a lie.

Im the one with the cold feet

Its like 1 outta every 200 blk women you come across randomly can admit or acknowledge the things they are KNOWN for. No its not all but it IS the majority. I'm not responsible for the reputation they have. I didn't make the majority act that way to earn the reputation.

But anytime you mention it blk woman lose their minds. They'll try all kinds of psych tactics to shut you up. You hate ALL blk woman, your talking about your own mother, your prejudice against your own race, you hate yourself, your attacking the ENTIRE blk race. Really? Simply bcuz I mentioned it?

YOUR GENERALIZING!!!!!!

Well what about the shit blk woman say about blk men? We ain't shit, we don't take care of our kids, we're not responsible, all we do is play video games all day, we're always in jail, we care more about the streets, we have no respect, we're not men.

Oh and don't forget, once that get kicked to the curb for their behavior, now we got little d*cks the size of a pinky finger, we can't f**k, can only last one minute, etc.

Have you ever met a sista that DIDN'T go off the deep end when hearing this subject? If so, how often compared to not?

Wow! Its a good thing your not a racist. Us "bros" often make mistakes. Damn

It's pointless to try to even settle this. Sides passing the blame and stuff. Is anybody here gonna admit that they're wrong?









I'm wrong because I'm sensitive. Easily offended.










So who's next? Or are all of you completely right in this matter since you seem to know MOST black women on this planet?

You forgot... You a f**k nigga.... That and the d*ck/sex thing is the first thing that usually comes out.

It's pointless to try to even settle this. Sides passing the blame and stuff. Is anybody here gonna admit that they're wrong?

I'm wrong because I'm sensitive. Easily offended.

Or are all of you completely right in this matter since you seem to know MOST black women on this planet?

At the end of the day, no matter what your preferences are we must support each other as people and I'm speaking to black people (men and women). Yes, we as a people get dumped on a lot and stereotypes up to the yin yang...but the last thing we should do is dump on ourselves.

Now, I have had some bad experiences with black men and white men alike...whether it's dating, at work, or elsewhere. I don't believe in generalizing my own personal experiences for the majority of a group. My negative experiences in the past don't stop me from interacting with either group, but like anyone would...I keep some caution in the back of my mind for all people no matter the race.

Let me tell you fellas, just as you complain about black women being more docile to white men (which I for one don't, if anything I'm cautious)...I have seen the reverse....where black men are more engaging and treat white women with more respect. Here's an example, I walked down the street with my white friend and we passed a black man. We were both friendly and said hello (we both have the same attractiveness level). He smiled at her and politely said hello back and when he saw me...he stopped smiling and looked away. How messed up is that!

Now, as for me...at places I have worked I noticed other blacks won't acknowledge each other and only the white people there. That kind of behavior is exactly what divides us. I refuse to give into that crabs-in-a-barrel syndrome. When I see a fellow sister or brother especially, I go out of my way to acknowledge them and offer my support if needed. If we all did that more often for each other...lifting each up instead of tearing down, it just might ultimately change our overall attitudes towards each other in general and move us forward.

These are terrible examples to me. It's your opinion that you share the same attractiveness level as your white friend to that one specific black male. So that in no way supported your hypothesis to me. My comments haven't torn down black women, although a few comments in here by black men have. But what you overlook I this analysis, is that I asked a simple question. Then black women came in here with that attitude. IN RESPONSE to that all-too-common attitude (that attacked black men and me), THEN...these brothers addressed the bullshit in those sister's comments.

So again, who's fault is that?

Black Women should've shit their f**king mouths this topic in reality. Shut the f**k up, AND LET THE WHITE MAN EXPLAIN TO US ALL WHY HE DOESN'T MARRY BLACK WOMEN LIKE HE DOES OTHER RACES.

But you can't tell a lot of black women a got damn thing. Here I am asking a question about the racism that is against black women, and indicting white men for this bias.

But stupid nig.ger b*tches, who in their mind don't like men and adore whites, attack me and all black men.

This is that bullshit I'm addressing.

You personally, have been very reasonable, but many others have not. Also, it isn't tearing down anyone to ask hard questions. This topic has ZERO to do with black men. NOTHING. So any comment toward a black man is a racist, or sellout stupid b*tch being mad because I shined a light on racist white men.

The topic is asking WHY white men think of less of black women? So black women shouldn't be attacked either. All anyone should be doing, is analyzing the marriage choices of white men.

Thanks.

The topic is just a question, so I don't have anything to admit I'm wrong about for asking a question.

Peace

I disagree. My mind may not "bode well"...from your perspective because my mind isn't supposed to be like a middle aged white women.

LOL

I can see your point about when I mentioned my perception of attractiveness between myself and my friend. I can't speak for his personal desires but he was being super rude and we usually get equal attention from men in other situations. Personally, if I was in his shoes I would have been polite to both the black male and the white one. But that factors in maturity and how one was raised, etc. So I agree with you there.

For the record, my previous comment addressed the black men in this thread that bashes black women as if they have no faults of their own or do the very same thing they accuse black women of. Even in those instances when a black woman is playing herself, just by calling them "stupid n**ger b*tches" is degrading alone. That's the same term a racist white man would use, people let's not promote the n word.

I understand you are asking hard questions and there are two sides to that question. Yes there are white men who would never date much less marry a black woman. Hell, there are black men who feel the same especially from the tone of some in this thread. However, even those statements don't apply to everyone. There are some successful interracial relationships out there as well.

This goes back to what I was originally saying, that a woman needs to listen to her intuition in regards to any man in order for her NOT to allow herself to get played by the man no matter if he's white, black, etc. The red flags are usually there as to whether he perceives you as marriage material or even girlfriend material or not.

As for the defensiveness from some of the black women here, I understand where it comes from. Even though your question was addressed to white men to "expose" how they "really" feel, some black women may view the question as questioning their value as a woman and a human being. Some of the brothers in here make it worse by implying that black women are not worth marrying period. That's just plain wrong and doesn't show the "support" that is said to be given to black women in this thread.

Let me ask a few questions...

Has anything I stated been false? I know it doesn't go for all but damn near every black person in here knows exactly what I'm talking about. Next... If you were a black man and you had to deal with the negative attitudes of some black women would you be quick to jump the broom?

What I speak on has nothing to do with trying to tear down black women at all, but to bring a light that you'll are just as imperfect as us. I never said well I want to date a white woman because black women are this and that. I did see some black women and men say things like that and I disagree with both. If you point out a black woman's faults than it's you hate black women and you hate your mom. Point out a black man's fault it's niggas ain't shit, they bums, they lazy, they deadbeats, and whatever else negativity could be brought up. I never see any black women speak up for the black men who are doing good or at least trying. Then when the mirror is to their face they want to crack it because they don't want the world to see the blemishes.

Let me ask a few questions...

Has anything I stated been false? I know it doesn't go for all but damn near every black person in here knows exactly what I'm talking about. Next... If you were a black man and you had to deal with the negative attitudes of some black women would you be quick to jump the broom?

What I speak on has nothing to do with trying to tear down black women at all, but to bring a light that you'll are just as imperfect as us. I never said well I want to date a white woman because black women are this and that. I did see some black women and men say things like that and I disagree with both. If you point out a black woman's faults than it's you hate black women and you hate your mom. Point out a black man's fault it's niggas ain't shit, they bums, they lazy, they deadbeats, and whatever else negativity could be brought up. I never see any black women speak up for the black men who are doing good or at least trying. Then when the mirror is to their face they want to crack it because they don't want the world to see the blemishes.

Good luck!

I choose women by their quality, not their race. But good luck with your search based on race!

Ok well let's take a look at a few possible reasons and you guys can add something in if you feel there is more to it.

1.) He isn't planning to have her as a girlfriend much less a wife because he is only interested in using her for sex. (A lot of the men bashing black women on love this reason)

2.) He isn't ready to marry any woman because maybe he's been divorced or had bad experiences in the past that taught him that marriage isn't the path he wants to take. However, he may want her to be a perpetual girlfriend or FWB her or reason #1. ( Some men in general do this, not just white men)

3.) He has the desire to marry the black woman possibly, but he has caved into society's pressures from family, friends, and in some cases his job and may shy away from a marriage engagement or end the relationship all together if there is one in the first place. This reason tends to be combined with reason#1.

4.) They were in a relationship that could have led to marriage, but for non-racial reasons the relationship ended. (Again, this can happen to anyone regardless of race)

they do

So there was a personal reason for making this thread. You're mad cause as the days pass black women are going over to the lighter side. That's all you had to post Op. I'm not gonna get into explaining how it isn't based on race but on character because quite a few of you will take it the wrong way.